How do you spend your evening with your DH.. AIBU?

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I wfh and my DH gets home at around 4pm most days. I usually finish at 4.30pm.

When he gets home he insists on watching videos on his laptop at full volume in the living room.

We live in an open plan house, so I normally start cooking dinner at 5pm. And all I can hear is YouTube video after YouTube video.

If I put the tv on he'll complain that he can't hear his videos from his laptop. He suggests that I go into the bedroom if I want to watch TV.

I don't want to watch tv. I just want to have it on in the background while we have a chat/ cook dinner/ have a glass of wine together in the same space.

Aibu?

That sounds impressively annoying, OP. Has he heard of the invention they call headphones?

He won't use them, says they hurt his ears.

How does he expect you to cook dinner from the bedroom?

I presume you are not going to have any more children…

He sounds like a selfish man child.

Just carry on and he can leave if it's so awful for him.

He should get some that go over this eyes instead of inside...

Absolutely ridiculous!

How tiresome. Well, they'd probably hurt a lot less than having a laptop shoved up his arse.

DH gets home at varying times between 5 and about 9 (if there is a full governor's meeting at work).
Just depends what we do, if he gets home early, he spends time with DC, does homework with DS1, reads with DD, baths and story with DS2. We like to cook and chat together. If he gets home late,I've eaten and he eats and I sit with him and chat and we watch some tv or listen to music and talk. He might do some work- marking or prep. Or we might spend a couple of hours doing different things. Rarely, one of us goes out or MIL babysits and we go out together. He might go out on his bike in summer or I might go for a walk with a friend.

He wants you to go to the bedroom to watch the tv you want to listen to in the background whilst you cook dinner?! Have you said it in him in this way, just to make him have a think about what he is asking.
If he still thinks this is ok, I wouldn't be cooking him any more dinners.

Get the over ear headphones.

Get him to cook dinner, then he won't be able to watch YouTube

He sounds like an obnoxious teenager.

why can’t he fuck off to a bedroom and watch YouTube? But what sort of adult watches ‘video after video’ on YouTube?

What a stupid little man child. Are you cooking his dinner? I suggest you stop. Get a takeaway and take it to the bedroom so you can watch telly.

Take advantage say no.worries I will leave making dinner to you then if you want the downstairs and I will have a bath or watch TV upstairs. Let me know when it's ready.

DH finishes work at 5 and I get home just before with DS from nursery. One of us makes dinner, the other plays with DS or he watches TV whilst me and DH chat. Sometimes I go for a walk or DH goes to gym. Then we take it in turns putting DS to bed whilst the other washes up/tidies.. bath and then sit down for about 845 and watch tv together. Sometimes one of us at a hobby/seeing friends so we don’t spend evening together.

Jesús Christ ! Don’t have kids with this one ! Throw him right back.

please tell me he does 50% house work etc.

or as I read on here once - has a golden cock

God I hate him and I’m not the one putting up with his twatty selfishness. I’d have hurled the laptop out of the window.

What a useless CF. No way would I put up with him sitting down while I cook dinner and the complain he can't hear his rubbish videos. I hope you don't have children with this man child. If you haven't, leave while you still can. If he is like this now it will only get worse. Tonight me and my husband both got home from work at 5ish. Cracked on with dinner together ate and then put our child to bed. Now we are watching a tv show together.

What a wank. I don't know how you suffer it.

My DSis is married to a selfish man child too and I don't know how she's stuck it out this long.

Does he ever do the cooking? Why you?

We spend the evening sorting the children - hobbies, bedtime, tea, dog walk - evenly spread, and then sit down together to chill for a bit - tv, game, walk, quick drink in the pub, garden(ing) if spring/summer ever arrives.

You should not be relegated to the bedroom every day.
There are many kinds of headphones available to him - they can't all hurt him.
Laptops are portable

How long does he do that for? It's annoying but he's watching it instead of TV I suppose. You wouldn't have 2 TVs on near each other at once and if he put the TV on and you joined him that would be so bad. But this is something you don't want on, and someone dominating and choosing all the viewing all evening would be annoying and selfish, which it sounds like he is? I think headphones would be worse, he'd be completely lost in it and you are blocked out.

*wouldn't be so bad

If I put the tv on he'll complain that he can't hear his videos from his laptop. He suggests that I go into the bedroom if I want to watch TV.

Why can’t he go into the bedroom with his laptop?

We watch TV together. I usually have the news on TV if I make dinner. I stay out the way if DP cooks dinner! Then post dinner we read, watch something on catch up, or I knit, or finish household jobs together or just chat. We don't go out in the week as neither of us want to.