How would you feel if your friend married your husband's brother and became your sister in law?

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Is this kinda stuff common?

Is it a good idea to set them up?

Mumy friend and her best friend married brothers. Ironically they had fallen out over something else at the time so weren’t speaking and didn’t go to each others weddings. But they made up about a year after the 2nd of the two got married. They’re very happy and are a joint force against their batshit MIL. I think her batshittery is one of the reasons they reconciled.

It happened to me. It worked really well until it didn't and they split up.

My sister met her husband at my wedding. He's a pal of my Dh. It's lovely!

sounds like you’re trawling for novel ideas.

My friend married my brother, they divorced after 17 years, we all still get along.

It's not overly common IME but it does happen. Why the concern about if it's common?

Haven’t you posted this on here and other wedding forums before? Why does it matter so much to you?

I would not set them up. What if they break up and then you have to betray your friend by going to the wedding of a man who broke her heart and then having a close relationship with him and his new wife for the rest of your life.

She wouldn't be your sister in law. Why don't people get this?

There is another thread running saying the same thing. She would be your husband's sister in law, but nothing to you.

@CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop The dictionary says that you’re wrong on this. The wife of your husband or wife’s sibling is also your sister-in-law.
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/sister-in-law

I'd love it. My best friend would then be officially family, which is how I think of her anyway.

God I'd be buzzing! If you wouldn't then you're not proper friends

too close for comfort!

My nana and her sister married two brothers. All worked out well. Unfortunately my grandad died wen my mom was 14 and her sister 9. The 9 year old then lived with her aunt and uncle Monday to Friday which worked out well really as it was her moms sister and dadas brother so more closely related than they could have been i suppose.

didn't Deborah do this in Everybody Loves Raymond to ensure she had an alliance with Amy against Marie?

Personally I would feel confused and concerned if any of my friends became involved with my partners brothers as they are both awful, horrible people!

I do have a friend who has 2 brothers who are both involved with other friends of hers. We live rurally and a lot of people who live here seem to go around getting involved with everyone and anyone they know at some point or another, it can be hard to keep up!

A girl in my NCT group had this. They were best friends that married brothers. She loved it, trips back to the in-laws were never a chore because her best mate was there. I was quite jealous. My DH is an only child and visits to his parents are dreadful. I’d quite like it.

No idea how common it is, but I am married to the best friend of my brother, so they have been best friends since age 5 and are now brothers in law.
Its never caused us any issues- it probably means I have more contact with my brother than we would naturally have had, as we all meet up and have barbeques and go camping as a group.
I get on very well with my brothers wife and our children are similar ages and get on well. It's not really a big deal

Saaaaaame

Would feel odd to me.
It used to be very common let sady 150+year ago, at least in my home country. It was to keep the property and land in good hands.

We have TWO sets of friends who did this. Two sets of sisters married best friends. And both cases they live on two sides of a semi! (They do know each other, really well in fact, they all used to live in the same very small village and probably developed the concept over many a cup of tea together!!) - One set of friends their older sister even lives next door but the DH there didn’t know the other men before.

PRO:
The kids all have a very magical relationship and call each other sister-cousins and brother-cousins and they hardly ever need a babysitter and they all juggle what is essentially their own after-school club so someone has the kids and the others can work at no childcare cost.

CON:
But there’s trouble in paradise in one of the set-ups. One of the mums has realised she’s not fully invested in her relationship anymore. From my point of view the DH/dad is investing major time and energy with the kids and trying to hold everything together while she is out partying hard (of course it’s more complicated than that, this is the long story short). I reaaaaaally feel for him because if the worst comes to the worst, it’s clear cut that he will be the one who has to move out as it’s her family who live next door.

Both sets of families spent YEARS looking for their dream home and both sets of families ended up building. Both had trial run in rented accommodation as next-door neighbours before committing.

I met my STBEXH thru my friend. We were reasonably close at the time.
No longer in direct contact due to split
I miss her

Delighted while everyone was happy. Like I needed the skills of a UN ambassador walking through a field of eggshells when the wheels fall off.

It happened to me. My bestfriend from playgroup, primary school and secondary school married my exdh's brother. At first it was brilliant, we even had sons 4 months apart back in 2007 who were extremely close and in the same class at school. I left my exdh in 2018 and we haven't spoken since.
I'm sure it can you work but it didn't for me.

My dbro married one of my friends. We weren't incredibly close friends and I imagine if they split I would rarely see her. It would be the same as if he split with his wife and we hadn't been friends before

I am now with my best friends brother. I am very careful not to put my friend in the middle. Though me and my friend are closer than my partner and she are. There's a sizable age gap between them and they didn't grown up together.

Best friend told my partner, her brother, that she would drop him if we split up. He seemed to think it was fair. 😂