How would you feel if your friend married your husband's brother and became your sister in law?

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Is this kinda stuff common?

Is it a good idea to set them up?

I did this! I married my friends brother, wasnt a set up. What are you worried about, if it doesnt work out whether you will still be friends? We both divorced at different times and never once whatever was going on, with our husbands, between our husbands, did it effect our friendship. Still firm friends. It may work out amazingly, if it doesnt, doesnt mean you all have to fall out.

I mean friends husbands brother.

It sounds like a pretty good scenario to me!

Thanks for your answer.

Have you ever known a case where not two, but three women who are best friends have become sisters in law (their husbands are brothers)?

I’d be over the moon

Is this kinda stuff common?

Others have said it can work well. Why are you wondering how common it is? Even if not common, it can work.

I think it would be one of those situations where it is great when everything is going well but as soon as there is an issue (even a minor one) in one of the relationships, it will get messy and awkward very quickly

Worried for her - he has quite a lot of issues.

We barely see DH’s sibling, so it would be a complete non-issue for us.

But no, I don’t think three friends independently marrying into the same family is particularly common - it’s a bit “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers”, isn’t it?

My cousin, who is one of my closest friends, married my other cousin (other side of the family) after meeting at my 21st birthday.

Was great when things were good. Got awkward when things went wrong.

It's the best!!

My cousin's friend married her brother. Was great until things went wrong in their marriage. Then for several years it was very awkward. Eventually they all were able to move past things and my cousin and her friend seem to be okay now.

My husband's brother is... well, I won't go into detail but I wouldn't wish him on my worst enemy.

My brother married his best friend's sister. I know 2 instances like this, so it is common enough I suppose. But then I know an awful lot more cases where this did not happen. I do not think the commonality matters.

Fwiw, the 2 couples I know are rock solid. They have known one another pretty much all their lives.

Do you ever watch Sarah Beeney on TV?

Her brother married her husband's sister.

So is her brother also her brother in law? And is her sister in law he sister in law twice?

Have you asked about this before?

My brother married my best friend and it has worked out really well for us.

My sister married my husband brother. She then became my sister in law, which can be a bit confusing to an outsider.

Why do you want to know how common it is?

And why do you think anyone can possibly answer that?

They haven't even been on 1 date yet.
Dont think a marriage is on the table just yet;)

This has happened to be twice with the same brother in law. Divorced twice. The problem was him not them but it really strained my friendship with them both times. And both times he persuaded them in the early stages to keep it from me that they were dating, so I could not give an objective view.

when things started to go wrong I got caught in the middle and then once both friends had left my BIL, they became very critical oft H’s extended family to our wider group of friends to the point that people started judging me for staying in the family when my friends left.

it was quite stressful to be honest.

This happened with my DH's brothers. He has 2 brothers and they are all close. My SIL has been married to BIL for 7 years. Her best friend was introduced to other BIL at the wedding and they are now also married with kids. They are still very close but she has told me that she feels their relationship has changed a little as she no longer confides in her things that she doesn't want BIL to know, due to her openly saying she tells her DH everything.

This would be my concern - that you would still be friends but would lose a confidante …

Not uncommon - it's one way of meeting people as you will naturally meet your friends' siblings at some point.

The three brothers/ three best friends scenario would be unusual though.