To think sleeping in separate rooms will finish the relationship

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So a week or so ago, my partner and I had a fairly big argument and I went and slept in the spare room. (I have done this a handful of times in our three years together).

I had the best nights sleep ever and for the first time in a long time slept right through the night. It was lush.

I’ve slept in their ever since and had slept through the night EVERY.SINGLE.NIGHT. It’s been amazing.

We had a night together a day or so together and I barely slept a wink and was up and down to the bathroom, (you know the drill, once your awake you think you need a wee).

I’ve realised that he is waking me up all through the night. He snores really loudly, moves around, wakes up with cramp and it’s unbearable.

I don’t really know what to do about this, I love him, but love being able to sleep through the night. We already have a king size bed. I think his snoring has got so much worse and when I’m drifting off to sleep in the next room, I can hear him snoring through the walls. He categorically won’t see a doctor about it.

I think it will negatively affect our relationship if I stay in the spare room ongoing?

Best thing ever! So long as you still are affectionate, have a cuddle, separate bedrooms is a godsend! I love my DH very much but he snore and does the most vile trumps in his sleep I just can't be in the same bed! We have a cuddle at night then I go to my bed. Best of both worlds!

All been discussed before. Lots of people sleep apart nothing wrong with it.

A good night's kip is important.

We have a huge bed and my Husband can move around and I’m unaware. I can get out of bed and he’s unaware. It’s about 5 and a half feet wide. Best buy ever. We’ve had it about 12 years and cost £4,000. A lot of money but worth every Penny.

I don't see how this can work. A five and a half feet wide bed will not stop you being woken by heavy snoring, grunting, and coughing, and him kicking you, and pulling the duvet off. Why the F was it £4000? It's a bed.

Snoring - well it doesn’t stop that but the cover is fine. It’s def big enough to have 2 separate duvets although we don’t. It works for us although expensive. The only prob is getting linen to fit. Oh! Not forgetting when the linen needs changing - it takes us both to change the linen.

Having separate rooms is the secret to a good relationship that no one tells you about. You don't have to use them every night.

Started sleeping apart during the pandemic as DH was having the most horrendous panic attacks (think waking up screaming). Obviously I was totally supportive of him but also needed my sleep! He's a lot better now but haven't gone back - I love the space, he was a duvet hogger, we go to bed and wake at different times, it's just so much better to be apart. In fact it sucks when we have guests as I have to go back into the main bedroom!