To think that if you invite someone to dinner, they could shelve their diet for one meal?

[clumsymum]

I have known this couple for about 20 years, she makes dresses for me, and we have been to the odd social event with them over the years.

Anyway, I need some clothes making, and invited them over for dinner on saturday night. The lady and I will discuss the dresses first, and then we'll sit down for a meal.

When I inited them over the phone, she said "oh, H is doing the slimming World diet, so he can have either an all protein or a carbs meal, but can't mix both."

I have NO idea what to give them (esp as she's a picky eater too, won't eat red meat, nothing creamy, nothing that wriggled when it was alive, nothing slimy etc. etc.). And now dh and I wish I'd never invited them.

Thing is, altho' I might mention something I was allergic to, or really hated, I wouldn't dream of giving the hostess this sort of grief if the boot was on the other foot.
BTW it isn't that this guy is VAST, just that he's losing some weight for their daughters wedding in September.

Is it just me?

tis a bit inconveniant, i would just do a buffet type thing, big bowl of mixed salad, bowl of pasta and sauce etc etca nd if they dont eat it, make em wear it

Umm not really unreasonable, obviously it is good to do your best to accommodate your guests but they should also view their food consumption across the week and make 'savings' in other places.

Have you had a look at the Slimming World website (if they even have one?) and see if there is a sample menu you can get some ideas from?

TBH i dont see a problem with it
i would be inclined to support him with his weight loss goals not criticise.
if you knew she was a picky eater and would have difficulty feeding her why did you invite them?

dont let it be your problem, just do something you would normally do but leave the protein and carbs seperate so he can choose what he eats,

well you could make soemthing like a roast and put it in serving dishes and he can help hinslef to what he wants/is allowed or you can do a pasta dish using just veggies, so somethin like a tomatoey sauce with roasted veg in it or a bolognaise style sauce using quorn mince?

fab idea vacua

Even as a very long term vegetarian, I have eaten meat rather than cause any embarrassment! But maybe someone on here who is doing the same weight management programme can give you some tips?

I know what you mean, but for some people it is all or nothing with diets and if they come off it find it very hard to get back on. Do him a mix grill lol

Quorn Mince will NEVER cross the threshold of this house.

"nothing that wriggled when it was alive"? does she think you're going to feed her worms?

Buffet idea sounds good - salads and cold meats and stuff.

this kind of thing drives me crackers. friend came over for 5 days, she has had every eating problem under the sun, strangely on lasts a few months though. i got into such a tizz about her latest fad i said she would have to cater for herself if the meals i cooked wernt suitable, she ate what we did.

its not going to kill him to eat what you provide, he will just have to be selective.

for good friends who are veggies i will sometimes provide a full veggie meal for all of us, sometimes cant be arsed and they have to make do.

yes do kind of meze style with a mix of completely different thingas on the table to help themselves to and things that both you and your dh like

The Slimming World diet is NOT a Protien or Carbs only diet. Have a look at the Simming World website free trial menu or the Weight Watchers one for similar weight watchers.

Slimming World means you can have red days when you can eat any amount of meat. Or green days when you can have pasta and any meat would be either sin value or healthy extra.

What are you planning for you meal maybe we can help you in the amounts to give him.

Veg is usually a free food so you could pile his plate with them.

oh, discoverlife, you have just added to the confusion then.

Trouble is, I just wanted to do something simple that we could all sit down to and chat.

They also get sins so he could have saved them for the very reason of going out for a meal. So I think she is being inflexible.

I thought it was bad etiquette to be so fussy when someone invites you out? I mean, fair enough saying you're veggie or only eat halal or whatever, but expecting hosts to faff about catering to diets is rude. My book says so.

i go out for meals and try and work around whats being served to work with the slimming world diet.

what sort of thing are you planning on serving?

its one meal surely a grown up can select from a normal lovely dinner without fretting about his diet

he should have said no to the invite if he is that fussed

i bet he eats what he likes when he is out at work or with his mates

I wanted to do risotto as the main course (well after I'd had this news).

Would a mushroom risotto do it?

And I'm afraid I can only come up with fruit salad as a slimming dessert, which isn't very february-ish.
I had planned Choc sponge, but then remembered she wouldn't eat it anyway.

I agree with you, bohemianbint

Bollocks, serve what you like (I bet he'll eat the chocolate sponge, SW or no SW!) and if they're that rude they should stay in.

Life's for living eh? (And I say that as someone on SW - there's loads of leeway for extra syns, fussy beggars.)

risotto sounds lovely.

What pud would you do that they would normally eat.

yes. life is for living. We have another friend who can tell you the calorific value of EVERYTHING, even a single salted peanut, and clucks and tuts at her husband whern he drinks anything but fizzy water at the pub on quiz nights.

Fun fun fun!