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AIBU?

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To think that if you invite someone to dinner, they could shelve their diet for one meal?

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clumsymum · 15/02/2008 18:28

I have known this couple for about 20 years, she makes dresses for me, and we have been to the odd social event with them over the years.

Anyway, I need some clothes making, and invited them over for dinner on saturday night. The lady and I will discuss the dresses first, and then we'll sit down for a meal.

When I inited them over the phone, she said "oh, H is doing the slimming World diet, so he can have either an all protein or a carbs meal, but can't mix both."

I have NO idea what to give them (esp as she's a picky eater too, won't eat red meat, nothing creamy, nothing that wriggled when it was alive, nothing slimy etc. etc.). And now dh and I wish I'd never invited them.

Thing is, altho' I might mention something I was allergic to, or really hated, I wouldn't dream of giving the hostess this sort of grief if the boot was on the other foot.
BTW it isn't that this guy is VAST, just that he's losing some weight for their daughters wedding in September.

Is it just me?

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clumsymum · 15/02/2008 18:57

Wings, tbh she doesn't really do pud anyway, so it doesn't matter about that much.

Often I just bring out a selection of lovely cheese and fruit, so I could do that and he can eat cheese if he wants, or not.

TBH I'm just p'eed off at the presumption.

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WingsofanAngel · 15/02/2008 19:00

Tell them you made the cake with Splender. He doesn't need to have a large slice.

You could always point him the direction of the fruit bowl.

All the more for you.

As my late Dad used to say 'Enjoy'

pralinegirl · 15/02/2008 20:11

Give em haggis and pretend its quorn mince - well I am Scotish!
But I've been on diet recently and seriously I would just be glad to have a meal cooked for me - ...ger the diet!

discoverlife · 15/02/2008 20:57

To put it a bit better.
If you have a RED day you can eat as much meat as you like, but are LIMITED to the amount of Carbs you can eat.
On a green day you can eat as much carbs as you want (potato's, pasta, rice etc) but are very limited as to meat. On both types of day there is a large choice of un-limited vegetables you can have.
On top of all this there are syns (sins) which are for you to use as needed, daily to give a bit of a treat, or save up a weeks worth for that blow out meal or drinks night.

Sycamoretree · 15/02/2008 21:14

I think, if they are good mates, you should try and be supportive. If you've ever had to lose weight and stick to a diet, you know that life throws a millions reasons at you each day to "break" it. If you broke it at every occasion like your dinner party, you'd never bloody get there and your resolve would be shot. Try and see things from his perspective - he may not have a lot to lose in your eyes, but appearances can be deceptive. People can't believe I've lost nearly 3 stone - and I still need to lose another. They guessed that at most I would have about a stone and half to lose...TBH, there's nothing that complicated about doing a nice steak, with pots and veg for everyone else, and just veggies for him....Good luck!

Alambil · 15/02/2008 22:20

do spaghetti bolognese - if he is on a red day, he gets more sauce than pasta; if he is on a green day, he has more pasta than sauce

She can starve - the fusspot!!

Sycamoretree · 15/02/2008 22:27

Oo, didn't read about her - what's her problem then - I was just sticking up for the dieter!

frecklyspeckly · 15/02/2008 22:27

serve what you like and sneeze on it!!
only joking but i would have the grace to accomodate a nice meal kindly cooked for me.
If anyone would like to cook for me other than myself it would be lovely anyway he could go for a run the next day!!

mcnoodle · 15/02/2008 22:29

I have one good friend who is veggie - but doesn't eat aubergine, mushroom or eggs; and one good friend who eats not a morsel of dairy. We eat together regularly. After years of racking brain I have finally settled on stir fry. Veggie. With some chicken or prawns for us non-veggies.

Would not make the effort if they didn't make me cackle. Fussy f@@kers.

nooka · 15/02/2008 22:32

Hmm - I think she is more tricky than he is! I'd go for a roast chicken (or you can steam it if you are feeling nice - wrap it up in baking paper which you have seasoned and then roast as usual) new potatoes and a couple of veg. Nice and simple and everyone can choose what they like. Trouble with one pot dishes is that although they are nice and easy, if you are faddy it's a bit all or nothing. Steamed or braised salmon is nice (and even easier) but could count in the wriggly/slimy category I guess - some people are very picky about fish.

ladygrinningsoul · 15/02/2008 22:37

I'd do a roast chicken and a roasting tin full of roast vegetables (drizzled with olive oil) - butternut squash, red peppers, shallots and garlic work well. Cheese and fruit for pudding.

WiiMii · 15/02/2008 22:41

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lucyellensmum · 15/02/2008 22:51

all protein or all carbs??? that cannot be healthy surely, my god these places RIP PEOPLE OFF!!! hmmm, all protein, serve him up a steak, with some pumpkin seeds on the side, oh and a pork chop for dessert.

All carbs, well thats quite simple - give him a plate of spaghetti

She wont eat chocolate cake ?

Fuckwits!

scottishmummy · 15/02/2008 22:59

oncd had the misfortunes to organise a (work) meal inc lil miss fussy must-be-meat-free-no-dairy-no-green-no-gluten-no-carbs-no-mushrooms-no-onions-ethically-sourced- fair-trade-made-in-a-commune-by-selectively-mute-monks-made-in-a-hand-churned-pot^...and after that list of demands that make Gwyneth Paltrow look accommodating..she didn't turn up...we all had to eat food so bland it was magnolia

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clumsymum · 16/02/2008 00:01

Turns out they are planning 'not to stay late' anyway, because of the sponsored run he's doing on Sunday !!

I don't know why we bother.

Oh well, if they bugger off by 9:00 o'clock I'll make chocolate sponge pudding for dh and me, and we'll finish off the wine.

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Dior · 16/02/2008 00:06

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MrsWeasley · 16/02/2008 00:07

My ever helpful DH suggests you serve him Chicken and bran flakes. sometimes you just know you should have gone to bed hours ago!!

Dior · 16/02/2008 00:09

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Triathlete · 16/02/2008 00:09

Take them to a restaurant.

mazzystar · 16/02/2008 00:13

well they don't sound much like a fun date

BUT I think that its the hostesses responsibility to make their guests feel welcome, and if that means respecting their choices in what they eat then so be it.

so yes, yabu, a bit

discoverlife · 16/02/2008 00:28

Ask him whether he wants a red or green day and adjust the menu to suit. Then figure in her eating foibles, then give them a bowl of boiled pasta and have a slap up gourmet dinner yourself.

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clumsymum · 18/02/2008 11:16

Well, he didn't come in the end, and she came but DIDN'T STAY TO DINNER, as she had to get back to him .

So dh added a dollop of cream and parmesan to the risotto, and ds, dh and I ate very nearly all of it, and very nice it was too.

Won't bother inviting THEM again.

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niceglasses · 18/02/2008 11:19

Bad manners I think. Wouldn't dream of stipulating what can be given.

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