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Life360 and have concerns

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Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:04

My Dh works 2 hours away from home. He often has meetings all day long and meets clients on way to the office etc and throughout the day.

This morning he left for work an hour early as had a breakfast conference.

This pm I checked Life360 to see my dd, and looked at Dh also. For context, I’ve had this app for a few days so not a stalker or wierd by any means. I’m just new to it.

He was in some random field for an hour this morning and then at the conference centre from 10am.

I asked him tonight when the conference was etc and he said ‘8am, horrid early start this morning!’

Life360 doesn’t match this and alarm bells are ringing

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sittinghere · 19/04/2023 22:13

It might be nothing. Our family uses life 360. Usually it's really good and I find it really helpful for picking up teens, but occasionally has weird blips. For example, my husband and son were travelling on a tram together. My son did the journey as expected but (according to life360) my husband leapt to the other end of the tram line for 15 minutes and then leapt back to his 10 year old son. I have also (according to life 360) spent some time in a local playpark instead of working from home.

SpamIAm · 19/04/2023 22:15

We use this app. Possibly it just wasn't updating for whatever reason during that period so it assumed he was stationary.

Mmmmdanone · 19/04/2023 22:15

I find life360 to be inaccurate at times. I'll be in the house but it thinks I'm a couple of streets away! Was the field close to the centre?

Watto1 · 19/04/2023 22:19

As others have said, you do get the odd blip with it. If the person is in an area with dodgy signal or if their battery is low they can appear to be in odd places. Once both dc and I were in the car . Dd and I were showing as being in the correct place but ds was apparently a few streets behind us, despite being in the back seat behind me!

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Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:21

The field is about 20 mins away. Altho it didn’t say he travelled from the field to the conference. Whereas all his other trips between meetings are shown as drives between. Maybe a blip?

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SnackSizeRaisin · 19/04/2023 22:22

It's probably just a gap in signal. I see this a lot with Google maps too when looking for my husband. Sometimes he appears to be in a random place for ages and then suddenly appears at home.

Why not just ask him? It sounds like you already distrust him.

Kittykatchunjy · 19/04/2023 22:24

Blimey, alarm bells are ringing?? Just ask him fgs, you clearly can't trust him otherwise you'd just assume lagging gps

CeeceeBloomingdale · 19/04/2023 22:27

I live in a house on the outskirts of a town. Life360 thinks I live in a field, it's accuracy isn't great here.

Fantina · 19/04/2023 22:29

It can depend on battery life too, when DD’s is low her location will jump suddenly when she’s in a car for example rather than bobbing along.

Fantina · 19/04/2023 22:29

I also presume it depends when the phone picks up the signal

RhubarbFairy · 19/04/2023 22:33

I was at home with both DC over the weekend. Apparently, DC1 was at the other end of the garden. He wasn't. His phone was in the same room as me.

It's a great app, but it can sometimes be a little off.

Watto1 · 19/04/2023 22:37

I’ve just checked mine. According to Life 360, ds and dh are at home, dd is next door and I’m at the school down the road. In reality, we’re all at home. My battery is going and dd’s battery is always low which probably explains it.

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Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:37

But 20 mins away?

And I do trust him. But my confidence is lacking for other reasons which is why seeing this tonight has made me feel wobbly

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MellowMelly · 19/04/2023 22:40

According to Life360, for the last three years I live part time in the cemetery two roads along. There was another time that I went to my local shopping centre and apparently I was floating in the Thames all day according to my sister.

It definitely blips!

Zola1 · 19/04/2023 22:42

I think life 360 is often great...but sometimes it does just get stuck somewhere random especially if there are signal issues. There have been times where I've had to ring my daughter to say are you alive you haven't moved in hours and she's like what are you on about, I'm nearly home

Againstmachine · 19/04/2023 22:43

If it can't connect to gps sometimes it makes a guess where you are.

Againstmachine · 19/04/2023 22:44

Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:37

But 20 mins away?

And I do trust him. But my confidence is lacking for other reasons which is why seeing this tonight has made me feel wobbly

Well you either do it you don't. tracking software usually leads to false conclusions.

Greensleevevssnotnose · 19/04/2023 22:45

Does he know you are tracking him? He would be pretty dum to be up to no good if you have told him

WeeOrcadian · 19/04/2023 22:46

Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:37

But 20 mins away?

And I do trust him. But my confidence is lacking for other reasons which is why seeing this tonight has made me feel wobbly

But clearly, you don't trust him

BillyNoM8s · 19/04/2023 22:47

Sometimes it doesn't update. On of our teens had the wrong settings and it would only update when he unlocked his phone. So he'd also spend hours apparently at strange locations despite us knowing where he was and the sibling he was with tracking correctly. We thought he'd left his phone somewhere on morebthan one occasion.

If you immediately jump to assume your DH is having an affair in a field then presumably there are other issues you need to address. Presumably he knows he has 360 on his phone and you can track him? If he was up to no good then he'd just switch his location off surely?

If he does that by the way it will say that he's offline, or something similar.

He does know you can track him, yes?

BillyNoM8s · 19/04/2023 22:47

*One of

TheHoover · 19/04/2023 22:50

If you aren’t convinced it’s a blip, see if you can look up the start time of the conference. IME they don’t tend to start before 9.30 if it’s an all day event but morning ones can sometimes have early starts.

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Frazzled1502 · 19/04/2023 22:52

Of course. He put it on his phone himself to be able to track our daughters as they’re at the age that they’re just becoming independent. I wanted it on my phone also as I do lots of running outdoors in the country and wanted to be able to be found if I was hurt etc (something that’s worried me on a few occasions).
So we have a family group and can see each other. We’ve all turned notifications off though as it’s simply been for safety.

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pizzaHeart · 19/04/2023 23:06

It updates your location in jumps rather than smoothly, especially if you have a free version.
I often have it with DD’s phone e.g I know that she’s on the way to place A through place B by bus, life 360 shows her at place B for 30 minutes, then jump - she is in place A. Of course her bus wasn’t moving like this, it went smoothly from B to A. I think it happens when you use your phone on intervals or if there is a problem with signal.
It used to drive me mad at secondary - she was on life 360 as being not at school but 2 streets away. She certainly was at school, I knew it but it’s still very annoying .

Invisibleeye · 19/04/2023 23:07

My partner drives lorries and we have life 360. Sometimes I has him in some random field he’s clearly driven past while on a lorry route. It usually says it was updated x number of hours ago if you catch this live and, from my understanding, is linked to poor signal. I would personally give him the benefit of the doubt for now and just see how things go in the future.