To have a one night stand?

[Colourmylifewith]

I’ve not long been out of a long term relationship and am quite happily single. However my sex drive seems to have increased and I’m considering a one night stand, I’m not looking for a relationship, just sex tbh. I’m surprised at myself for this as I’ve always preferred sex in relationships in the past.
It’s worth mentioning I’m in my 40s with kids.
AIBU? Where to start with it all…..

Download tinder? A one night stand should be pretty easy to find!

was thinking about a dating app… I’m a bit dubious about putting my picture on though and someone I know seeing it… stupid to be embarrassed at my age but I would be!

Not at all unreasonable, crack the fuck on. Just make sure you use protection and find someone who’s not an absolute shit show.

Enjoy!

Well if they see it it means they're on it too, so no need to feel embarrassed!

Thank you! The idea being if they are a shit show it will be short lived!! 😂

I know, why do I have the old fashioned view that it’s a bit shameful!? Doubt I’d meet someone if not online so it’s my best bet I think….

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I think your problem will be weeding through all the hundreds of dross messages from potatoes with ears to find the needle in the haystack of a man who you’d actually want to have a ONS with. The moment you say you’re a woman looking for casual sex on any kind of app you’ll be inundated.

Got any friends who like clubbing? Frankly I’d much prefer to dance up against a hot stranger I actually found attractive in a club and go from there than face dating app meat market where casual sex is concerned.

@Colourmylifewith all you need to do is create a profile. Chat to guys and just say you are looking for causal or fun. I appreciated the guys that says that to me.

you may find a regular fun partner. Just have fun, but be safe

Better to go on a few nights out, see if anyone catches your eye and vice versa and have a date and if there's chemistry, go for it. That's just my opinion of course, I need a bit of a connection and to know someone first.

See this is how I’ve always felt in the past, don’t know what’s changed, maybe I’m emotionally numb in my old age, not craving a connection other than physical!

You don’t need to put that you are looking for a ONS on your profile so not sure why it’s embarrassing? Most men on there are just looking for sex anyway so you won’t upset anyone that thought you wanted a relationship 🤣

Possibly, although if my past is anything to go by il fall in love with them if it becomes a regular thing! 😂 going to have a look at the app options

potatoes with ears** has really made me laugh!!

Sadly, it's VERY true!!
YANBU in the slightest, but yes, be warned, the minute you mention you're after casual, your inbox will collapse under the strain of all the messages.
Maybe say you're not sure what you're looking for, then once you match with someone decent, at that point say you're after casual

Have fun!

Good point!!! 😂

Oh god, is it that bad!? 😂 might keep me entertained looking through their profiles

You're going to make a lot of effort grooming and finding babysitter and even with condoms risking STIs like throat gonorrhoea and chlamydia, genital herpes for a guy you have no idea if he's going to scratch that itch for you or not.. most men are shit in bed and they are even shittier when there is no connection or commitment, he'll probably use you like an escort or cock sleeve.
Just get a vibrator safer and won't disappoint.

If you really want to though meet them on a night out, you'll know if there is any sexual chemistry. It's impossible to judge chemistry from online as they can write one way but sound and talk completely differently.

Be very careful! I turned to OLD when it was in its infancy. I was looking for a fling and met someone who wanted dinner and bed. We celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary next week.

Do it and enjoy it!

we all only live once! Have fun!!

I know what you mean, I don’t go out much these days, post covid though. Lots of my friends are settled now.

I'm totally happy to have ONSs and I've had plenty, but I couldn't schedule sex with someone I'd never met! I would get on some apps, go on some dates and see how you feel. If it's going well suggest they go back to yours (if your kids are someone else obviously) for another drink.

Condoms of course, although I know they don’t protect against everything. I thought it might be an opportunity just to be liberated and tell them what I want, the reality might be very different tho!

I think this is quite a pessimistic outlook. Most people have at least one ONS in their lifetime without ending up with the plague. Personally nothing scratches the itch like sex with someone else, toys might be more efficient, but it's just a different itch IYKWIM.

People are allowed to have a bit of fun without overthinking it!

Why not cut through the bullshit and use an escort agency?