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To ask if a house is haunted before I buy it

232 replies

pineapple7peach · 18/04/2023 13:13

As the title says. Irrational childhood fear which I never grew out of. I don't know if I even believe in the paranormal but my worst nightmare is buying a house I'm too frightened to live in.

Would I be an embarrassment if I asked the estate agent/seller this question?

OP posts:
YesitsBess · 18/04/2023 19:47

Horsedoglover59 · 18/04/2023 19:34

You could have quite a pub crawl - there's lots of pubs in Devon reputed to be haunted!

It's a drinking game my father and I play in London (plans for a York excursion). If its supposed to be haunted or if Dickens once drank there we are obliged to go in and have a pint.

Dickens got about a bit I can tell ya. * *

SadCelticBunny · 18/04/2023 19:48

OP you need to contact Button House and ask Alison and Kylie to come on all your viewings with you. 😉☺️

The first house I bought on my own definitely had a presence. When you enter an empty house you just know there is no one home don't you? Well, in that house you could feel a presence greeting you from the top of the stairs.
I felt it was an Edwardian woman and my daughter thinks so too.
No fear or scary vibes at all.
However there is a street here in my village that gives me the creeps.

Seriously just listen to your senses when you visit houses and all will be well.

equuscaballus · 18/04/2023 19:48

I was asked this question when selling!

Answering it was amusing but it didn't bother me.

I was also asked if anyone had ever died in the house, as it was built in the 1600s I had to say that it would be hellish unlikely if they hadn't!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/04/2023 19:49

Horsedoglover59 · 18/04/2023 19:34

You could have quite a pub crawl - there's lots of pubs in Devon reputed to be haunted!

Just be careful when driving back. Otherwise you'll meet the fate of countless pissed up Cornishmen when the Hairy Hands get you somewhere between Postbridge and Yelverton.

10in10 · 18/04/2023 19:49

MatildaTheCat · 18/04/2023 13:16

In a word, yes.

Maybe you need a new- build?

I lived in a haunted new build once.

Bunnichick · 18/04/2023 19:53

I think it's fine to ask. Surely estate agents are asking this sort of thing all the time. They may not know though and I agrrr with PP saying go with the vibe you get

Escapetothecatshome · 18/04/2023 20:06

Don’t think Kirsty or Phil have ever been asked this 😂
I personally wouldn’t bother but I’ve found Neighbours or locals love to fill in new home owners in with every negative thing that has ever happened since the year dot
my neighbours took joy in telling me they used to wonder around my house when it was derelict and everyone used to call it the haunted house as it was empty for years.
I took complete joy in telling them I’ve lived in haunted houses and this isn’t one of them, the only scary thing in this house is me. That shut them quick.

mamabear715 · 18/04/2023 20:06

@pineapple7peach Do you have any friends / friends of friends who are sensitives? Maybe you could ask them to go with you to viewings?

DeadbeatYoda · 18/04/2023 20:06

I wouldn't bother, there's no such thing as ghosts.

mamabear715 · 18/04/2023 20:07

@Escapetothecatshome nice one! :-)

mamabear715 · 18/04/2023 20:07

WHY do people say there are no such things as ghosts? Just because you've never met one, they don't exist? ffs..

DeadbeatYoda · 18/04/2023 20:11

mamabear715 · 18/04/2023 20:07

WHY do people say there are no such things as ghosts? Just because you've never met one, they don't exist? ffs..

Because there is zero revidence for such. With all the technology we have today does it not strike you as strange that there is still no evidence?

pigsDOfly · 18/04/2023 20:15

Not quite the same, but when I was selling a Victorian house the purchaser wanted to know if anyone had been killed in the house - the enquiry was sent through my solicitor not the estate agent.

I suspect that it was very possible, given the age of the house and the fact that the area was once pretty rough. I just told them 'not to my knowledge'.

I suspect if a house is old estate agents and solicitors get asked all sorts of odd questions regarding the house's past during a sale.

Tiredmum100 · 18/04/2023 20:17

MmaRra · 18/04/2023 15:58

This is a question I'm now tempted to ask before booking holiday lets in old houses and cottages. Every one we have booked has been absolutely fine over the years except for two. One sounded like it was a pub with the murmur of voices and clinking of glasses coming from downstairs in the night. Otherwise it felt peaceful, warm and welcoming and we have happily returned, especially as it was a lovely cottage in a unique location. The second we would never return to even if offered a free holiday, and despite it also being another lovely-looking house in another unique location.

Perhaps I should start up a haunted/not haunted holiday let business? Yikes? Wootages.com? Scarebnb? Any takers?

I've got a property you could add to this. We stayed in a holiday cottage near Hadrians wall. I felt so uncomfortable the whole week we were there. So glad to leave.

AliceOlive · 18/04/2023 20:18

Weird stuff happens in mine, but it didn’t have a vibe when we first saw it, or for months afterward. Honestly, it was a bit disturbing but eventually more annoying.

The funniest thing though was the neighbor’s kid, who watched the house for us. I didn’t mention anything, because I didn’t want to scare her. But she later told her mom she counted three ghosts. When her mom asked why they were here, she said “The house was built for them, why would they leave?”

momentarybliss · 18/04/2023 20:19

I know where you are coming from OP. I've had some creepy experiences over the years in certain houses and my worst nightmare is buying a house where spooky shit happens.

I'm not saying I necessarily believe in ghosts anymore but there are definitely disturbing unexplained things that happen in some houses.

When I have looked around houses I have just relied on my senses to feel the vibe of the property. Only gonna buy somewhere with good vibes!

JimmyDurham · 18/04/2023 20:20

Someone's asked before you OP,

To ask if a house is haunted before I buy it
LeefPeeper · 18/04/2023 20:23

We lived in an old Victorian house with a proper attic room up some winding wooden steps. We were there for 4 or 5 years and never felt anything odd. A few years after we had sold it, it was back on the market and a friend saw it up on the wall in the estate agents mentioned a friend used to own it. “Oh yes, it’s haunted isn’t it. The owners say lots of little things have happened”. First we had heard of it!

Tiredmum100 · 18/04/2023 20:24

momentarybliss · 18/04/2023 20:19

I know where you are coming from OP. I've had some creepy experiences over the years in certain houses and my worst nightmare is buying a house where spooky shit happens.

I'm not saying I necessarily believe in ghosts anymore but there are definitely disturbing unexplained things that happen in some houses.

When I have looked around houses I have just relied on my senses to feel the vibe of the property. Only gonna buy somewhere with good vibes!

Me too! I know where you're coming from OP. I definitely believe in the feeling of a property. I wouldn't ask if it was haunted, but I'd trust how I felt about a property. Some places just feel "off".

bradleycoopersmother · 18/04/2023 20:26

I think you will get haunted vibes from a place when you visit it.

DeadbeatYoda · 18/04/2023 20:42

LeefPeeper · 18/04/2023 20:23

We lived in an old Victorian house with a proper attic room up some winding wooden steps. We were there for 4 or 5 years and never felt anything odd. A few years after we had sold it, it was back on the market and a friend saw it up on the wall in the estate agents mentioned a friend used to own it. “Oh yes, it’s haunted isn’t it. The owners say lots of little things have happened”. First we had heard of it!

Fertile imaginations at work, I suspect.

MmaRra · 18/04/2023 23:22

what happened in the second property?

Two bedrooms made us all, adults and DCs, independently and without discussing it, feel so uncomfortable that nobody wanted to be in them at all, to the extent that we didn't use them for the whole of the holiday. It was an overwhelming and deeply unpleasant feeling of being watched, not being alone and being unwelcome. Because of needing the bed space, one of the family had to use another bedroom that felt 'off' some of the time but not to the same extent. He described it as having a sudden change in the atmosphere and feeling uncomfortable.

After we had all gone up to bed at night, and having secured all the windows and doors, it sounded like someone was breaking in downstairs. Doors were also heard slamming on other occasions. It wasn't sleep paralysis or nightmares because nobody had even begun to go to sleep at that point. We were all just starting to settle down for the night with a book or listening quietly to music. Everyone heard it individually and got up. It took some bravery to go downstairs to investigate but there was nothing untoward to be seen when we did. The house was detached and quite isolated so the noises were not coming from neighbouring properties.

The most baffling thing was seeing a woman walking across the inner hallway as I came down the stairs one day.

The worst thing though was definitely the feeling of those two bedrooms. I won't give it the word it was described as at the time, but I have to admit even as a fully grown adult and parent it was actually scary.

We are not 'woo people'. We're fairly sensible, educated, no psychological, alcohol or drug issues.

Later, when we found out the history of the house - which I won't go into here as it is identifying - it made a lot of sense. It unsettled us all for quite a while afterwards and we definitely wouldn't go back or recommend the house to anyone.

MmaRra · 18/04/2023 23:42

Sorry, that was for @WhatHoMarjorie

MmaRra · 18/04/2023 23:43

ScareBnb is genius.
Thank you, @YesitsBess - Yikes was my own favourite, though perhaps a little too subtle for some?

While I think this is all absolute nonsense, I would like to acknowledge your excellent ideas for business names
Thank you @Bamboux - perhaps you would like to be my first customer and then come back and report on the absolute nonsense if, that is, you survive the night? Wink

I've got a property you could add to this. We stayed in a holiday cottage near Hadrians wall. I felt so uncomfortable the whole week we were there. So glad to leave.
Thank you @Tiredmum100 - I think we've got our first customer, (see above).

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/04/2023 23:45

Lockheart · Today 13:20
This is bonkers, but if it worries you that much buy a brand new build or a flat on the 27th floor”

Not that simple. Never listened to Uncanny? Bloody hell, Ken!