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Am I being a CF?

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Sassypants82 · 15/04/2023 10:19

I'm sat in a soft play centre while my daughter attends her friend's party. They're 6. As I've no other childcare for my 3 Yr old this morning, I have her here too.

I am sitting separately to the other parents at the 'party' area, I paid in for my 3yr old and said I'd be keeping her with me. She is playing with her sister though, or trying to keep up with them and has wandered over to the party table a bit.

The party guests will be taken to a separate room for food later and she will obviously not join them.

While I have done my best in the circumstances, but if you were the 'party parents', would you consider me a CF for bringing my other kid?

OP posts:
momonpurpose · 15/04/2023 13:14

Taking her and paying for her is fine. Allowing her to go over to the party and follow her sister is total CF. And it's incredibly unfair to your 6 year old

Hesma · 15/04/2023 13:29

But at all… CF would be if you took her into the party room and expected a party bag for her

Wheresthesundude · 30/05/2023 19:27

This has never bothered me, we've hosted class parties and had siblings sat on the sidelines with parents so we've always invited them to join the party, childcare can be a nightmare and the more the merrier. I'd have invited you both to join the rest of the parents and just let the kids have at it, not a cf at all.

underneaththeash · 30/05/2023 22:08

DistantSkye · 15/04/2023 13:09

No I think you're fine. However at 6 I wouldn't be hanging around at a kids party, so I would have dropped off and then taken the 3 year old somewhere else!

And me - or asked someone else to take your daughter.

Sceptre86 · 31/05/2023 07:46

I'd have asked if I could drop my 6 year old off. That is what we have done when they've been to parties lately, I've been working and dh has had all 3 kids. Once I got home then he would go over to the party for the remainder of the time. We've checked with the parents first.

I actually think you have been cheeky as your younger child is trying to tag along anyway and it will be awkward for them if little one wants to join in the food or refreshments. If it was me I wouldn't mind an extra child but some do.

TooManyMeetings · 31/05/2023 07:52

You are fine. It would take a special kind of dick to object to a parent who can’t find childcare for their younger child and is paying for said child. What’s the alternative, the 6y old doesn’t go either?

ButterCrackers · 31/05/2023 07:56

Keep her with you or playing away from the part group.

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