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To think it’s shocking how bad Britain has fallen apart compared to other European counties

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TheColourofspring · 14/04/2023 06:56

I am in Spain at the moment in one of the big cities. It’s clean, modern, well maintained. Transport is cheap, food is cheap, healthcare seems to work pretty well (from talking to local). Parks are noticeably well maintained- even saw park keepers! Clean & tidy.

Pensions higher, if you lose your job you get a portion of your salary in unemployment benefits while you look for another and there are no penalties. Based on the premise that if you have paid in, you will get looked after if you are in need.

I am not saying it’s perfect- no country is but it was the same when I was in France last summer.

In Britain, everything is underfunded and close to the edge. Schools, the NHS, local authorities are all at breaking point. My local parks look shabby & there is very little maintenance. Roads have pot holes. Yesterday I read an article about pharmacies being the latest at ‘crisis’ point with major drug shortages (thanks to brexit). Queues at borders, people can’t heat or eat properly, food banks, housing is ridiculous for many people.

I think it’s just so noticeable when you go to other places just how run down Britain is.

Finding it shocking and a bit depressing - like I said, all countries have their issues but I think Britain really has been pillaged by the tories & Brexit really is a disaster.

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Mrsherdwick · 14/04/2023 10:22

There is plenty of dog shit on the pavement in Spain. We also had to buy a new tyre (€400) because ours was wrecked by a Spanish pothole.

Flowerly · 14/04/2023 10:22

110APiccadilly · 14/04/2023 10:21

All countries have issues. When I went to Germany, I was struck by how much people seemed to smoke, for instance.

However, let's learn from other countries by all means. For instance, how about running medical care like most other countries, on a state backed insurance system?

Wouldn't that be a brilliant move? But people in the UK would rather stick with the outdated and failing NHS model - madness.

Cattenberg · 14/04/2023 10:22

Lostinalibrary · 14/04/2023 09:52

Not a Tory voter by a long shot. However, this rot started under labour. Their crazy tax credits scheme means we are now a nation of net takers and the net contributors are being taxed to the point they reduce productivity. The employers and the asset rich make a fortune though. I don’t see how their policies will help. It will just mean the few people who pay the most tax via PAYE will continue to leave and reduce productivity.

When people talk about net contributors and net takers, they often forget to factor in the value of the work itself. It isn’t just about how much income tax is paid to the Treasury.

https://amp.theguardian.com/business/2009/dec/14/new-economics-foundation-social-value

Cleaners worth more to society than bankers, says thinktank | Executive pay and bonuses | The Guardian

<p>A study by the New Economics Foundation shows that childcare workers are more socially valuable than financiers</p>

https://amp.theguardian.com/business/2009/dec/14/new-economics-foundation-social-value

vitahelp · 14/04/2023 10:22

Handpickled · 14/04/2023 09:34

Yes been in Belgium and France and Germany recently - appalled at how much worse we were in comparison. I took a school trip last term to a French activity centre and the children were horrified at the thought that we get European tourists.

@Handpickled I'm not disagreeing with you here, I just want to understand. What exactly is it that you noted on your visits to those countries which is much worse here?

Nordicrain · 14/04/2023 10:25

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2023 10:07

Tbh people are not likely to automatically think I am either but I really do not recognise it when people say they only get pity, or another version I’ve seen on here - I’m too ashamed to say I’m British when abroad.

I think really? Surely this is just for the internet crowd, I just don’t have that experience. I’ve not had why do you stay there, maybe it’s down to where we live. Or maybe I sound happy so it doesn’t lead to WTF are you staying there.

If you do want to leave a place but can’t that can be hard.

It is hard to leave the country I have built my (country specific) career and life in. Where my children have grown up, where we have our home and family. And then to risk not being able to leave with DH. And I love the UK in many many ways, it's my home, it's where I actively chose to build my life because of many of the wonderful things it had/has to offer. So I would say that's quite tricky, and I am resentful that I have to be considering it. But if things keep going the way they are maybe I will have to find a way.

Maybe you are not getting those comments, or at least you are not picking up on them, becuase you are one of those who simply can't believe that the whole world doesn't regard the UK as a wonderful superpower. An attitude which I see a lot in the UK.

Aslanplustwo · 14/04/2023 10:26

Flowerly · 14/04/2023 09:31

I understood it was a mixture of free at point of delivery and paying?

It is.

Aphrathestorm · 14/04/2023 10:27

We don't like to pay a lot of tax, we like to have a safety net and we don't like overcrowded multi generational households.

We get what we pay for (but with corruption/inefficiency thrown in).

3dogsandarabbit · 14/04/2023 10:27

Handpicked - Why would we not get European tourists? There are some beautiful places in the UK.

Flowerly · 14/04/2023 10:28

Aslanplustwo · 14/04/2023 10:26

It is.

So not at all like the UK system then.

beAsensible1 · 14/04/2023 10:28

because unfortunately no one like anyone to do better in this country especially the poor and middle.

people will argue that wanting to be paid more than 34k is selfish, argue against demands for better working conditions. arguing against unions so that workers can collectively bargain.

a place full of spite

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2023 10:29

Nordicrain · 14/04/2023 10:25

It is hard to leave the country I have built my (country specific) career and life in. Where my children have grown up, where we have our home and family. And then to risk not being able to leave with DH. And I love the UK in many many ways, it's my home, it's where I actively chose to build my life because of many of the wonderful things it had/has to offer. So I would say that's quite tricky, and I am resentful that I have to be considering it. But if things keep going the way they are maybe I will have to find a way.

Maybe you are not getting those comments, or at least you are not picking up on them, becuase you are one of those who simply can't believe that the whole world doesn't regard the UK as a wonderful superpower. An attitude which I see a lot in the UK.

I think you’re over egging that last line.

I think London is a fantastic city, it’s my home, I moved here anyway from o/s (although dual citizen) and get a lot out of it. I’ve also lived in US and Aus and think I’ve been pretty lucky as experiences go. So no it’s not as you say, I just don’t recognise this pity everywhere I go part.

But it probably has to do with how I personally feel about life here. I’m not itching to leave. I’m also surrounded by many nationalities who all seem pretty happy too. Maybe it’s the area impacting too.

vitahelp · 14/04/2023 10:30

@Nordicrain The world doesn't view us a superpower, you're right. But it doesn't automatically mean they pity us. There is a middle ground somewhere. Most people I speak to who live overseas neither envy or pity me for living in the UK, they are generally indifferent.

OneCup · 14/04/2023 10:32

Yes things have really declined the last few years. Having said that, the situation is not great elsewhere either. I feel there are some aspects that are better in the UK, other aspects that are better abroad. I personally don't feel one country is 'the best'.
I am an EU citizen but live in the UK. I still feel my life is better here in the UK than it would be in my home country job wise and education wise for my children. I work with roughly 30 non UK colleagues and only one has left the UK. All the others prefer to stay as they feel living conditions are better here. Perhaps it's linked to our sector, I don't know, and perhaps people in other circumstances would benefit from living elsewhere.
Don't get me wrong - there are many things that need improving here but I personally wouldn't expect moving abroad would solve every issue, some for sure, but there may be others thrown in the mix. I guess it'll depend on what your priorities are?

newtb · 14/04/2023 10:34

In France sick pay is bugger all, as is maternity pay, maternity leave and refundancy pay.
Yes, the link to salary is there, which has not been the case since the 70s/80s in the UK.
Not only that, but in France, deductions albeit including pensions, are well above 20% and that's before tax. Once retired you still pay both tax and NI.
I did a course in pay/NI in France, and was shocked how poor some of the provision is, compared with how it's perceived.

Dibblydoodahdah · 14/04/2023 10:36

Some of the comments on this thread are ridiculous. I work for a global company. I speak to people across Europe and the US every day. Not one person talks about pitying the UK. In fact, the same issues come up at every global meeting; inflation and salary increases! These issues are being raised by staff in many different countries.

Snoken · 14/04/2023 10:37

Nordicrain · 14/04/2023 09:34

Nowhere is perfect. But nowhere in western Europe is going down the drain like here. And everyone knows it. The state of the uk is regularly reported on in European countries. Everyone feels pity for the shambles the UK has become. The stellar international repuation the UK once enjoyed is definitely no more.

I know. There is an awful lot of whataboutism on this thread. Yes, there has been riots in France, yes there is gang violence in Sweden etc. But I don't think any other western European country struggles with basic things like no ambulances, no beds in hospitals, no housing available for the poor, teachers/doctors/nurses/train drivers striking on a regular basis etc. There are exeptional events happening in places, such as those mentioned above, but those countries aren't generally struggling to house or care for their residents the same way the UK is. Having a roof over ones head, having access to healthcare, having schools open, transport available are things that most, if not all, European countries can provide.

manontroppo · 14/04/2023 10:40

Flowerly · 14/04/2023 09:05

I think it’s going to take a major crisis or the complete die off of the boomer generation, so that the government no longer drives policy to appease the pensioners

Lovely bit of ageism there. 🙄

Well, funding triple lock pensions at the expense of other services isn’t a vote winner for other generations, is it?

Pluvia · 14/04/2023 10:41

You're on holiday in a city centre or holiday area where a lot of effort and money is put into keeping things looking attractive in order to continue attracting tourists. I was in central London earlier this week and it looks lovely: blossom in the parks, buses every few minutes, shiny skyscrapers everywhere.

There's a 13% unemployment rate in Spain 3.7% here. That's why it seems cheap to Brits. On average Spanish incomes are a bit lower than those in the UK and Spain has higher rates of poverty than the UK:

https://www.statista.com/statistics/233910/poverty-rates-in-oecd-countries/

If you leave the touristy areas you will come across places which are very clearly not thriving and where people have exactly the same issues when it comes to heating their homes and putting food on the table as we do here.

Poverty rates in OECD countries 2021 | Statista

Out of all OECD countries, Cost Rica had the highest poverty rate as of 2021, at over 20 percent.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/233910/poverty-rates-in-oecd-countries/

Scyla · 14/04/2023 10:44

proppy · 14/04/2023 08:50

"People are obese because the rich people don't pop round and cook them a healthy meal?"

"Or the rich don't pay for Jamie Oliver to do it?"

Is this serious? I can't engage with stupidity, here is the proof of the decline in education standards!

Apparently the solution is so obvious that you won't tell us, but no one else in the country apparently knows what to do "exactly" either?

And that's because education standards are so low and we are stupid?

I think you have got a point there.

GasPanic · 14/04/2023 10:44

newtb · 14/04/2023 10:34

In France sick pay is bugger all, as is maternity pay, maternity leave and refundancy pay.
Yes, the link to salary is there, which has not been the case since the 70s/80s in the UK.
Not only that, but in France, deductions albeit including pensions, are well above 20% and that's before tax. Once retired you still pay both tax and NI.
I did a course in pay/NI in France, and was shocked how poor some of the provision is, compared with how it's perceived.

I'm pretty sure the Tories would love to move to a contribution based benefits system as described in the OP.

TankFlyBossW4lk · 14/04/2023 10:46

@BeautifulWar · Today 07:02
Yeah, just last week people were rioting and burning shit in the street...oh wait, that was Paris!

Not knocking France, but everywhere has their issues. I guess you're also going to nice places when you sporadically visit? The nice parts of London still look nice, Padstow etc. I very much doubt your comparison is like for like.

It's this kind of rubbish that gets us these corrupts governments. The French were rioting because they didn't want the retirement age raised from 62 to 64! It's 67 moving to 68 soon for us! We have had rights taken from us and no one bats an eyelid. I bet we have another conservative government again, "because bits of Padstow and London look nice". God help me, it would be funny if it weren't so tragic.

manontroppo · 14/04/2023 10:47

KittyAlfred · 14/04/2023 10:17

Did you not read the MN memo? Europe is perfect. Britain is crap. And it’s because of Brexit. You’re not allowed to say different.

Well, there’s not a huge amount of evidence to support the “Britain is AMAZING11!1!!” argument, is there? It mainly seems to amount to “look, France had a strike too, and things are expensive in Spain too according to my mate’s aunty who was there 9 months ago”

beAsensible1 · 14/04/2023 10:48

YouSoundLovely · 14/04/2023 07:32

Plenty of dog shit here in Germany. But also (generally) a much more society-centred mindset that is part of what makes the difference.

On another thread there was a poster who wasn't from the UK but had lived there for decades, noting that people in the UK seem terrified of someone 'getting one over on' them and would rather everyone struggle than that be perceived to happen. I t6hink that mindset (not invented by Thatcherism, but certainly encouraged by it) is one of the roots of the current malaise. I can imagine the howls of protest if a system of statutory health insurance was introduced like the one we have here, where you pay a fixed percentage of your income (capped when your income gets to about 60,000 euro IIRC). Or if the UK had the sort of progressive taxes we have here. As middle earners (pretty much bang on the median for our family size) all this means a quite substantial burden in taxes and social insurance for us, and we certainly don't have the kind of disposable income we might have in the UK, but it's OK because it's our contribution to making society work (and yes, of course there are problems here too).

this! they'd rather we all suffer including them, then life get better for anyone else or they get a perceived benefit .

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2023 10:48

Dibblydoodahdah · 14/04/2023 10:36

Some of the comments on this thread are ridiculous. I work for a global company. I speak to people across Europe and the US every day. Not one person talks about pitying the UK. In fact, the same issues come up at every global meeting; inflation and salary increases! These issues are being raised by staff in many different countries.

Some of the comments on this thread are ridiculous.

Yep

whoamI00 · 14/04/2023 10:52

I don't agree. Have you seen unempoloyment rate in Spain?

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