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To not tell him I’m pregnant

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ConfusedMama92 · 13/04/2023 16:10

I was stealthed. That’s when a man removes the condom without telling the woman.

it’s been reported and it was a one night thing with no other contact. However I’ve now found out I’m pregnant despite taking the morning after pill.

am I being unreasonable by not telling him? He effectively sexually assaulted me and there’s no way I want a man like that in my child’s life.

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RadiantFem · 14/04/2023 19:54

I wish for you it was as simple as not telling him and that would be the end of it. it very likely won’t be because he’ll have rights regardless of the way the child was conceived (shocking, but it’s the way it is) and it would be very easy for him to find out, for example if you stayed in the same area and he put two and two together and then demanded a dna test. To be absolutely 100 percent free of this potentially ongoing traumatic situation, personally I’d terminate. At the end of the day he stealthed you, so a pregnancy wasn’t something you were even prepared for, I do feel for you so much. Of course it’s your body your choice at the end of the day. Best wishes x

aibuaibuaibu · 15/04/2023 11:38

TimeToChange111 · 14/04/2023 19:03

If you decide to report him to the police (please think about it if you can), could your pregnancy provide DNA proof that it was him?

That would prove they had sex, not assault.

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