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When you put on weight, did/do you notice?

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PsychoHotSauce · 12/04/2023 21:11

Apologies, I know weight threads can be a bit of a bun fight, but I need to know if others have had the same experience as me!

Up until around 2019 I was always the same healthy weight, around 9.5st. A bit of fluctuation but never less than 9st 3 and never more than 9st 10.

Then I changed jobs and started WFH, and I also started dating and we'd eat out/have takeaways 3-4 times a week.

In all that time I thought I'd put on "a few lbs" but didn't think anything of it. I bought clothes in my normal size and thought I filled jeans a bit more but no overhang or squeezing into them.

Then covid happened and I moved in with DM for company during lockdowns. She has scales and I don't, and I got the biggest shock when I saw they said 11st 2!

I overhauled my diet and got much more active, lost the weight and kept it off for months. But what I'm confused about is I still don't think I looked or felt 2st heavier than I am now (9st exactly). The scary bit is the measurements. I've lost 7 inches from my hips, 6 inches from my waist and 3 from my boobs. I put the tape measure round me the other day to check I was ordering the right size for something and "put" the 7 inches back on to compare.

It's not huge or anything, but if you measured yourself and put 7 inches on and said "I was this size but didn't know it had happened" people would think its nuts right? How could I not know?

Like those threads where the OP says x has put on weight, shall I say anything and the overwhelming response is "they already know". I really really didn't. and no, never say anything, it's rude as fuck

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NoraLuka · 13/04/2023 08:04

I put on about 4 stone over about 15 years after having DC and noticed clothes not fitting but it was so gradual and I could still do 5K runs more or less so I didn’t really think about it. Then we went on holiday and hiked up a mountain, and I couldn’t keep up with the DC (teenagers by then) and that’s when I realised I was proper overweight and unfit. Stayed like that for a few years until last summer when I started making an effort to lose it!

Kudja · 13/04/2023 08:04

I did the same. I have now lost the weight (or most of it) and I do feel so much better, but I never noticed it going on (knew I’d put on a bit but had no idea quite how much!). I’m still wearing the same clothes though (even after 1.5-2st weight loss). They do look better now though 😂

OhSmitty · 13/04/2023 08:06

I put a stone on when we moved into DMs house for 5months. My scales were packed away, small house = fewer steps, I drank more and had bigger portions. Being temporarily homeless was unbelievably stressful for me, living with DM wasn't easy.

I was overweight to start with but really shocked I'd put on that much. I'm 2st heavier than at the start of lockdown and I'm working to get it shifted.

PsychoHotSauce · 13/04/2023 08:06

@Fuerza pah, intuitive eating + my labrador like compulsion to eat everything was never going to end well Grin

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Minimalme · 13/04/2023 08:08

I really struggle with this - I think it's because I didn't have to watch my weight for years, then I had a big life event and have struggled ever since. I sort of 'feel' slim and it's only when I weight myself or my jeans don't fit that I realise I am not effortlessly slim any more Confused

whatyoulookingfor · 13/04/2023 08:09

Fuerza · 13/04/2023 07:54

I have a very similar story. My normal if not watching my weight at all was 9 stone 5lb to 9 stone 7lbs.
Then at the end of last year, 29th Dec I stepped on scales and discovered I was 10 stone 11.
I was shocked.
Still trying to reach 10 stone.
9 stone?
Ever?
Well I'll just keep going, keep doing my best. Never taking my eye off the ball like that again

Intuitive eating is what I told myself I was doing 🤣

Omg this is me. I'm normally the same weight as you were and am now 10st 10lb. I got married in October and was 9st 5lb then which is my normal weight. I've no idea how I put on so much and now cannot seem to lose it.

whosaidtha · 13/04/2023 08:15

I started losing weight after my last baby was born last year. I took progress pictures each month and despite losing 3stone in 6months I honestly couldn't see any difference. I suppose it depends on weight distribution. I'm 4stone down now and can deffo see the difference. Got 1 more stone to go.

Ancientwater · 13/04/2023 08:25

Did you wear more comfy clothes in lockdown? I think elasticated waists had a lot of people fooled. I wear stretchy leggings at home as much more comfy. In lockdown I wore them loads.

The best thing to do is have a pair of unforgiving non stretchy jeans and wear them every few months. I did this by accident as have a fave pair that have been around for about 17 years, they always tell the truth.

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 13/04/2023 08:33

I’ve put about 3 stone on. I feel like a whale. It’s stopping me wanting to see a people who’ve known me a while etc as I’m so ashamed. I feel every pound 😞
But I’m under constant stress so getting it off is hard for me. I’ll manage a week of being mega active and carpet counting (sometimes lose a pound and sometimes even gain one or two (!)) and then give up.

megletthesecond · 13/04/2023 08:37

Yes. My jeans and smart trousers get tight. I know once 2/3lbs have gone on and increase my activity / reduce crisp intake accordingly. I do weigh myself every so often. I'm slim though so I think it's easier to notice when the weight goes on.

lljkk · 13/04/2023 08:41

I don't wear rings now, but when I did... I could tell my weight fluctuations by which finger which ring fit on.

Sparrow80 · 13/04/2023 09:25

Same here - I didn’t really notice 3 stone 😵‍💫 My clothes still fit just a bit tighter 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve now lost 3 stone and can’t see that either. In fact now I’m more aware of healthy eating and being active I feel more overweight than when I was three stone heavier 😵‍💫 I have half a stone to go until a healthy bmi. I’m very muscular and active but that doesn’t explain 3 .

WhatDoesMyFutureHold · 13/04/2023 09:39

Ahhhh my people! 🙌🏻

Quite similar to you @PsychoHotSauce

I was always just under 9 stone, at 5 foot 6. Very slender but I suited it, small frame, small boobs. Never had to make much effort.

Then after pregnancy, and 2 children who didn't sleep meaning I've survived on sugar, I'm now 10 stone 13 - the heaviest I've ever been!

I've gone up one dress size (getting a bit snug now though) but I honestly look at old pictures of myself and think I don't look much different. Then look at recent holiday photos and see the reality...

Buildingthefuture · 13/04/2023 09:51

Yes I feel every pound!! My weight only fluctuates by half a stone, but when I’m at the top end (like now!) I feel like a massive lard arse. It’s ridiculous, because objectively I know I’m not (I’m a uk size 10 and quite tall) but, as I get older, those extra 7 pounds stick to me like shit to a blanket and are soooooo hard to shift!

KohlaParasaurus · 13/04/2023 09:51

My frame and my clothes can suck up around half a stone, but after that I start to feel as if my own skin doesn't fit me properly.

SherbertDabs · 13/04/2023 09:54

I started wfh early 2019 and gained almost a stone, then gained 2 more during lockdown. I started wearing loungy clothes, stopped walking anywhere and stopped looking in the mirror. Realistically, I knew I was gaining but was in denial and didn't realise how bad it was. I'm now struggling to lose it and really struggling with going out/meeting up with people again because of my weight.

Fifiellz · 13/04/2023 09:56

After children I settled at about 10 stone 7 which is in the middle of a normal BMI and although I always wanted to lose a bit, looking back at pictures I was slim and healthy at that weight.

Over the last years I have been between 11.7 and currently 12.2. I didn't see it go on and now i'm peri it's almost impossible to get my mindset in a place I can get it off. Annoyingly I start every day motivated to make changes and every evening in a bucket of wine and crisps.

I think the way your weight is distributed makes a huge difference - some people carry extra weight really well. All mine is on my belly and back and face - tiny piggy eyes and no jawline. I'm all bulging fat over bra straps and waistbands which is not a good look.

Easterfunbun · 13/04/2023 09:58

I always know but I’m very tall with quite a wide frame. I also gain evenly so that it’s all distributed well. I can actually carry weight very well, and it’s usually a few stone either way before people notice. I’ve always felt fat though even when I haven’t been. I’m working on that.

evangron · 13/04/2023 10:04

I was once 11 stone 6lb which is just unthinkable now when I do the numbers to see how much I've lost

In fact, I lost the weight and after, when I was pregnant with an 8lb 5oz baby, I was 10 stone at 41w

I think I looked alright at the top weight even though I probably didn't; given I am 5ft 1

Now I'm 8 stone and I don't really feel any different

People keep asking me if I'm ok Hmm

pizzaHeart · 13/04/2023 10:19

I’m very surprised as 2 stones gain will put you in a very different size range. How did you not notice with your clothes? I’ve gained less than 1 stone and my jeans went from 10 to 12 straight away. I was 9st 18 years ago now I’m 10st 6lb. I’m the same height as you. It’s a huge difference in sizes, even tights don’t fit the same.
And I don’t wear slim fit by the way, I always buy looser clothes.

PhoenixReincarnated · 13/04/2023 10:55

coloursquare · 12/04/2023 21:19

I do, but I think I go into denial and most clothes nowadays are stretchy. How tall
are you?

This is me. I know I'm putting weight on but I fool myself into believing it's only a few pounds. Most of my weight goes on my stomach so I wear loose tops/t-shirts and jumpers that disguise it.

PhoenixReincarnated · 13/04/2023 10:58

pizzaHeart · 13/04/2023 10:19

I’m very surprised as 2 stones gain will put you in a very different size range. How did you not notice with your clothes? I’ve gained less than 1 stone and my jeans went from 10 to 12 straight away. I was 9st 18 years ago now I’m 10st 6lb. I’m the same height as you. It’s a huge difference in sizes, even tights don’t fit the same.
And I don’t wear slim fit by the way, I always buy looser clothes.

I wear size 14 jeans at 13st and I still wore size 14 jeans at my lowest of 11st 3lb. Admittedly I was getting to the stage of needing to go down to a 12 but they weren't massive on me. Nor were they too tight at the top end of the scale.

Allmyfavouritepeople · 13/04/2023 11:15

Yes this is me. Put on nearly 3 stone and had no idea. Body shaped stayed exactly the same just wider and I went up one clothes size but that happens at times of the month anyway.

I can see it in pictures but can't see it in the mirror. Lost a stone but just weighed myself thanks to this thread and put half back on. Weirdly I can feel this half a stone more than the 3! Back to c25k for me.

junebirthdaygirl · 13/04/2023 11:41

I find when l lose weight l feel great after losing about 3 pounds..lighter and this leads me to think l am now skinny and don't have to worry..bad thinking!!.
I suppose like you not noticing how much you gained some people don't see how much they've lost and keep going until just unhealthy.

PsychoHotSauce · 13/04/2023 11:42

pizzaHeart · 13/04/2023 10:19

I’m very surprised as 2 stones gain will put you in a very different size range. How did you not notice with your clothes? I’ve gained less than 1 stone and my jeans went from 10 to 12 straight away. I was 9st 18 years ago now I’m 10st 6lb. I’m the same height as you. It’s a huge difference in sizes, even tights don’t fit the same.
And I don’t wear slim fit by the way, I always buy looser clothes.

Well it was 1.5st gain, and I've now lost 2st2, lighter than when I started. I can still wear the jeans from when I was bigger, but the arse is a bit saggy and I prefer a size smaller now - it wasn't when I was half a stone heavier at my "normal" weight of 9st7 ish.

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