Aibu to expect dh to be an adult

[Pollydarling]

Both off work, I'm sorting utility, DH sorting his clothes. Pop upstairs and he wants me to help him sort his clothes in to keep/donate. I do this and afterwards tell him at 40 he should do this himself without constantly relying on me to tell him what to do. He didn't like this comment so I spent the rest of the day reading and doing what I wanted to do.
This evening he's made reference to us 'not talking' which I disagreed with, he also referred to my comment as me 'throwing a tantrum and being unhelpful' we have 3 children, I don't need a 4th. I know I'm not being unreasonable but it's wearing. I didn't throw a tantrum at all, I gave him my thoughts and expressed that I'm fed up of feeling like his parent.
Oh and when I said I was going for a walk he got his trainers on and ran out the house before me...
Please tell me I'm married to an arsehole.

This. I dont pack for my dh. I dont buy his clothes. I dont sort old. I dont buy presents for his parents. I dont remind him to phone his parents.

im his wife not his assistant.

@PaigeMatthews my partner complained I hadn’t bought his mother a birthday present last week. I said that’s your job, you never get the presents for any of my family members do you? He said ‘oh I suppose’ and backed down

We have to call them out

Makes a change from hiding in the bathroom having a 20 minute shit I suppose.

😂

TBH, I've asked DH to help me with deciding what clothes to keep or not, I don't really see what the issue is there.
But running out of the house to stop you going for a walk is not on.

This was yesterday, what happened when he came back in? Hopefully he apologised for being such a prat?

YANBU why do they play so dumb? My DH hasn't done the running out the door thing, that's shocking. But often if I say I'm going to bed and he isn't planning to stay up late, he will quickly get up and say 'me too, night' then scurry upstairs leaving me to switch everything off.