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AIBU to be angry about post c-section pain “relief”?

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SillySausage81 · 12/04/2023 09:06

Did anyone else find post C-section pain relief woefully inadequate?

I had an emergency caesarean 6 weeks ago and now the dust has started to settle I am starting to feel really bloody angry about the “pain relief” (I feel like it’s a joke even calling it that) I was offered in the first few days.

Paracetamol and ibuprofen. Fucking headache tablets. In the first 3 days I’d describe them as “taking the edge off slightly”. Very slightly. Laying down I was mostly OK, but any attempt at movement caused excruciating agony.

My baby then got taken to the NICU and I couldn’t even go and see her for 18 hours because even just trying to get out of bed and into a wheelchair was unbearable agony. Eventually (after 18 hours and a couple of failed attempts) I made a mammoth effort to push through the pain because I really wanted to see her, and I finally managed to get into a wheelchair and see her (no joke, it took nearly 30 minutes just to stand up and sit in the wheelchair).

I gave birth to my first baby vaginally with just gas and air, and I would describe the pain of trying to get out of bed in the first 2 days after my c-section as being worse than the worst pain I felt during that vaginal birth. Every centimetre I moved felt as though I was being cut open again.

The (slight) effect of the paracetamol and ibuprofen wore off after 4 hours but you can only have it 4 times in every 24 hours, which left long gaps where I didn’t have any pain relief at all.

At some point on the second day I was offered oramorph, but only when I was lying on my back crying from the pain and begging for more pain relief - no one suggested it earlier when I was crying out in pain trying and failing to get out of bed to see my sick baby. But anyway, the oramorph did precisely jack shit anyway, didn’t even take the edge off. The paracetamol was more effective (I have since googled it and apparently I’m far from being the only person who is unaffected by oramorph). When I told the midwives the oramorph wasn’t affecting me they didn’t offer any alternatives, just kept offering more oramorph and telling me it’s supposed to be stronger than paracetamol (well that’s by the by if it doesn’t affect me, isn’t it...)

On top of that, the uterine contractions, stinging from those bloody blood thinning injections, plus twinges from the bloody cannula in my hand only made the already unbearable pain from the wound harder to deal with.

Meanwhile I had the NICU nurse keep on at me that I needed to express milk every 3 hours if I didn’t want my milk to dry up (which I really didn’t want it to as I REALLY wanted to breastfeed) but I was simply in too much pain to do it for the first 42 hours. Thankfully I was able to start on the third day and it didn’t affect my supply, but I could have done without that grief, and actual proper pain relief would have removed that problem.

At the time I didn’t know other painkillers existed, but now I’ve done some reading and spoken to other people and found out there are loads of other options, so I don’t understand why they couldn’t offer me them when what I was getting clearly wasn’t enough.

All I keep reading about is women who say they weren’t in any pain at all and were skipping around Tesco’s after 2 days.

But is there anyone else out there who thinks the pain relief was inadequate?

I’ve heard (conflicting) accounts that they can’t give stronger painkillers to breastfeeding mothers, but that would have been by the by given that, without them, I was unable to visit my baby to breastfeed her OR even express colostrum for her anyway, so if that was their reasoning then it was counterproductive.

OP posts:
proppy · 12/04/2023 12:52

for trapped wind, peppermint water/tea is good.

VintageBlossomHill · 12/04/2023 12:52

I had 3 sections - last was twins. I had that last section early evening and was back in a private room by 8pm. My husband was despatched home as the poor love was ‘exhausted’. he had to go to look after other DCs anyway. I was left completely alone with a baby either side of the bed. I had a cannulas and a catheter and side rails were up on the bed. I could barely move was in agony and couldn’t reach over the rails of the bed or reach/lift my babies when they cried or needed fed all night. I was left to get on with it. When I’d buzz for assistance the nurses would say they’d be back in a min and they’d disappear until I’d buzz again in desperation. They weren’t busy - they even said themselves that maternity was strangely quiet. Im no wuss but when I’d ask for more pain relief I got scolded that every c section the pain gets worse as if It was my fault for having a third. It turned out my bowel had been upset during the c section. It was hell. I couldn’t help but contrast this with my brothers treatment - he had a hernia operation around the same time. He was mollycoddled in comparison. Women get the rough end of the stick!

Strictlyfanoftenyears · 12/04/2023 12:53

Roomba · 12/04/2023 11:17

I was only given paracetamol after my c section, as someone forgot to add Oramorph to my prescribed meds and because it was the weekend nobody could sort it before I was discharged! Although they kept promising me someone would sort it any minute. It was horrendous.

I ended up seeing my GP the day I was discharged and begging for some pain relief - my ex had to practically carry me into the surgery as I was in so much pain. My GP was horrified and prescribed me 180x 30mg codeine tablets plus Dicofenac to see me through the next few weeks (I've probably still got half of them in the cupboard, I was given so many!). I don't think they prescribe codeine for bf mothers now though - no wonder DS was so sleepy 😱

They wouldn't treat a dog like this. In fact our dog was prescribed mega painkillers for almost nothing, yet we leave women to suffer after major surgery!

BTW, bleeding for weeks is pretty normal - I bled for 6-7 weeks each time. But it wasn't anywhere near as heavy as I've heard most people describe it, so I suppose it evened out.

Weirdly my gp gave me about 180 tabs too (I had some in the cupboard for about 15 years!!!) Kapake I had (think its co codamol) I didnt breast feed though. The hospital sent me home with suppositries, how the hell do you put those in yourself after a c section.......?

proppy · 12/04/2023 12:53

This thread is interesting because I never read a CS one where so many posters have had pain. Normally it's all very "back to normal after 1 day".

YunaBalloon · 12/04/2023 12:55

Nicecow · 12/04/2023 12:04

This is why I don't know why people actively choose a C section, it's major surgery! Some people seem to think it's the easier option which is just bizarre

For me it was - the pain of my c section was more expected and easier to manage. I wasn't expecting to be in pain after my vaginal birth (other than uterine contractions) and certainly not for several weeks. It was unbearable and very unexpected. Where as my c section pain was expected and followed a predictable pattern which made it more psychologically manageable.

proppy · 12/04/2023 12:57

@YunaBalloon see I went wrong by not expecting pain. I only had very mild discomfort after my VB whereas the labour was so painful so I stupidly assumed I'd avoided the painful bit!

Babyboomtastic · 12/04/2023 12:57

proppy · 12/04/2023 12:44

This is why I don't know why people actively choose a C section, it's major surgery! Some people seem to think it's the easier option which is just bizarre

Mine was because of baby's position but genuinely thought it wouldn't hurt much because there is this myth it's the easy option!

No labour pain
More predictable and quick birth
No tearing (which unless i had an epidural I'd feel)
No episiotomy (which unless i had an epidural I'd feel)
No forceps or ventose
Lower risk of incontinence
Much much lower risk of fecal incontinence
My stitches are in a less sensitive area
Getting to meet my baby what not exhausted or in pain

Recovery isn't always painful, let alone agonising. It's certainly not a given that you'll be in any more pain than after a vaginal birth or that your recovery will be any slower. Mine was thankfully incredibly quick, I was out for lunch and wandering round the supermarket pain free on day three.

Obviously this wasn't the case for the OP and everyone's recovery is different, and that's fine. But for many of us, it was a pleasant and relatively pain free way of having a baby.

I wouldn't have had children if I'd been forced into a vaginal birth. Vaginal birth sounds like medieval torture to me personally.

proppy · 12/04/2023 13:02

I've had a no intervention VB that was quick so no time for pain relief & the labour was painful for the 2 hours but I would chose that every time over my CS & apparently my CS recovery was textbook. I certainly was in pain and struggled to lift baby immediately after my CS.

Mine was thankfully incredibly quick, I was out for lunch and wandering round the supermarket pain free on day three.

Which is great for you but I don't think that's the norm. I'm not sure why you have taken offence to my posts...

Lastnamedidntstick · 12/04/2023 13:02

I wouldn't have had children if I'd been forced into a vaginal birth. Vaginal birth sounds like medieval torture to me personally

what posters on this thread have experienced sounds pretty torturous to me🤷‍♀️

c-sections always seem to be sold as the easy option. They might be, for some. But clearly for many people it’s not that easy.

proppy · 12/04/2023 13:02

Vaginal birth sounds like medieval torture to me personally.

I think denying women pain relief regardless of how they have given birth is medieval!

BiscuitLover3678 · 12/04/2023 13:07

I was given codeine and constantly asked if I was ok and needed anything else! I actually was fine and didn’t even need to take it! I must’ve been very lucky.

NortieTortie · 12/04/2023 13:07

YANBU. With my first c section, I felt like I had chemical burns on and inside my wound for weeks. I was asleep so can't be sure, but I imagine they were a lot rougher than normal during the op because of the urgency to get baby out. I remember cry laughing as I took the paracetamol and ibuprofen 😬. My second was a lot smoother.

BiscuitLover3678 · 12/04/2023 13:08

Can you get back in touch? I was breastfeeding and had all sorts. May be your trust?

VeganCow · 12/04/2023 13:14

I'm talking 24 years ago, but for the first 24 hours I had a morphine pump, where you could admisiter the set dose as you needed it, obviously you couldn't go over that dose.
The following 24 hours after pump removal were the worst. I literally could not move up the bed from lying down and it took me 15 minutes just to sit up.
Although I think mine was so bad as I'd been through a full labour first then emcs

Whichnumbers · 12/04/2023 13:21

I had a c section some 30 years ago and they gave me suppositories and they were great, I had paracetamol as well and don't remember being in pain after wards, so guess the midwives at that time were on top of pain relief after c sections

ive recently been back in hospital with my dd1 who needed pain relief for trauma after birth and it wasn't great - 10ml of morphine and paracetamol by drip weren't helping, the oramorph did help but possibly as she'd had everything else first. I really pushed the staff and was constantly calling them (which I was able to do as I wasn't the patient or in pain. Later there was a procedure done and the medic stated then they realised she has a high pain threshold as she didn't hit the roof as most patients having this procedure done - and I said thats why ive kept calling for more pain relief.

I found it really hard to get through to the midwives that my dd was in acute pain. I wonder if thats the issue on a maternity ward, the midwives are numbed by many labouring patients that when a patient has different pain they are oblivious to it

Whichnumbers · 12/04/2023 13:24

Although I think mine was so bad as I'd been through a full labour first then emcs

I went through labour first before c section, it wasn't terrible and I didn't have your experience of morphine or not being able to move. I was very young though as only early 20s and youth does help considerably?

Whichnumbers · 12/04/2023 13:27

The hospital sent me home with suppositries, how the hell do you put those in yourself after a c section.......?

a midwife calling each day can put them in for you, but they don't call each day now so possibly a good friend...

Chubbycheeks0203 · 12/04/2023 13:28

It's hurrendous. I remember being left alone in the ward and trying to get off the bed to feed my baby and I couldn't. I managed to shuffle down the bed rather than up and got stuck, but too far down to grab the buzzer for help. Somehow I managed to shuffle back up and when I buzzed the midwife they said they wernt allowed to help me up due to 'health and safety'. I was mortified. All she could do was describe to me how to roll onto my side. I'm sorry you are going through this but it does get better week by week.

I'm not sure if they did anything of it was just placebo, but arnica tablets are apparently good to help.

Speedy recovery OP x

HannahsLife · 12/04/2023 13:31

I had my section in the US. I will say ibuprofen and Paracetamol worked surprisingly well for me! They did say I had more if needed though and discharged me with oxycodone which luckily I did not need. It was not an EMCS which seems to make a difference in recovery!

I then needed a laproscopic abdo surgery a few months later and they immediately gave me opiates - I didn't even have Paracetamol prescribed! I'm assuming because men may also have that surgery, they immediately go in for the 'big guns' because they don't want men to be in pain.

Fraaahnces · 12/04/2023 13:39

There are many, many reasons why you can’t just take oramorph and codeine indefinitely - not just addiction, but they slow respiration, increase constipation, etc…
To those saying that men would be given adequate pain relief if they had to go through with a c-section, it is my belief that if men had to go through pregnancy and childbirth of any kind, they would have come up with a better way to delegate the task centuries ago anyway.

shelbaba · 12/04/2023 13:43

Yip I only got something stronger when I cried! It's disgraceful. No one would get major surgery and be told paracetamol is all they can get.

Even in the day or 2 after the emcs. It was only when I got to day 3 and couldn't take the pain any longer especially after having to look after baby myself in the hospital all night with no support. I cldnt wait to get home. Then they discharged me with the drugs 6 days later but in the hospital they hardly gave me anything other than paracetamol and ibuprofen 🤷🏻‍♀️

No one told me to push myself up from the bed either so I kept trying to use my muscles to get up 🤦🏻‍♀️ well someone did after about 3 days later when they finally got round to it!

Scoobydoobywho · 12/04/2023 13:44

I can't remember what pain relief I was given after my second c-section. I do really it made me vomit, not ideal after abdominal surgery.

RavelShoesViaPost · 12/04/2023 13:44

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trampoline123 · 12/04/2023 13:45

YANBU but they probably would have given you stronger if you'd asked.

I managed ok on paracetamol after mine but everyone is different.

I had my bowel removed a year ago and was given paracetamol 2 days after. I said it wasn't adequate and got given stronger.

Fraaahnces · 12/04/2023 13:45

I’m an Aussie and it sounds like the NHS is a battleground.