Let me start by saying my in-laws are nice people, we generally get on well. However, they’re not very helpful (at all) while my husband seems to think they will be this amazing help when the baby #2 is born!
They don’t cook, so instead of having a meal made for me (which would be of massive help actually) it just makes for more complicated takeout ordering.
They’re not particularly good at looking after DD4 - they will play with her for an hour, or even better watch her play while taking pictures of her 🙄 but not really take her to a park or get her fully ready for school etc. They would occasionally babysit if we feed her and get everything else ready for her.
They’re here now and were supposed to look after DD while I work (from home) - what happened was her watching tablet with me in the office while I worked and they sat outside or watched TV because “she didn’t want to play with them”.
They live about 5 hours away and are all set on coming for when the baby is born. Coming “to help”. Well all I remember from last time (when DD was born) was them just wanting to hold her before I was ready, inviting million different relatives to see her and hold her before I was ready (I was dumb and felt obliged to let them) but no specific help really. My husband thinks IABU and they’re a huge help when for me it’s just more stress, more drama, no help.
(unfortunately my mum who would be actually helpful most likely can’t come, that would be my first choice, my second choice is doing it alone)
AIBU ungrateful bitch of a DIL?