Wise mumsnetters please help me out with who is being unreasonable here and how to go about this situation!
After years of scrimping and making do with mismatched, chipped mugs, I recently bought 4 affordable but naice matching mugs. They have little blue wildflowers painted on them and are the right size for a nice big cuppa. I know it's only a little thing, but starting my day with a cup of tea from a pretty, non chipped mug brings me a little bit of joy and gets my day off to a good start. I explained my thinking to DH and we agreed they would not be used in the car and would be kept nice.
DH who says he has no mug preferences and also has several thermos mugs to use in the car, keeps taking the new mugs in the car and they end up discarded and rattling around in the foothold. Now I don't like this for several reasons- dregs of coffee spill, the mugs risk getting chipped, it's a hazard in a crash and it's generally untidy.
2 of 4 mugs now have cracked handles. DH insists this is not from them being in the car. I accept I have no proof it's from the car but think it is highly likely.
I haven't screamed/ranted or anything else extreme about this, but I did say ONCE just now to DH that however they got cracked I'm disappointed and I'd rather they just don't get used in the car.
DH's response feels to me rather callous, dismissive and patronising. Brittle laugh, eyeroll, sarcastic nodding, sighing and "OOOKK, yes dear". The whole vibe is as if I am a nag or being silly and unreasonable.
I feel silly to be so hurt and frustrated by this situation, I know there are bigger issues in the world and even within my own life, but my morning cuppa in a nice mug is one of my coping mechanisms to deal with stress!
So...
YABU - Get over it, they are just mugs
YANBU- it's OK to want to use a non chipped mug and keep them in the house