To have such horrible intrusive thoughts about dd12

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So now for example she’s been invited to a friends party with a pool today gone off with her mates and now I’m sat here thinking has she drowned? She hasn’t been online for an hour probably because she’s having fun and I’m thinking the worst.
last night she wanted to stay at a friend of a family I know very well and I’m worried that something will happen and they will burn the house down.
tiday she went to town with her friends and I worried she would get stabbed. It’s getting uncontrollable
i work in a role where I see these types of things every day in a city area so I’m wondering if it has affected me

Really recognise this. When my kids are young and I could control things I didn't feel like this but now they are older it is very hard.
The thoughts create a really strong reactions in my body and I find it difficult not to believe them.
My counsellor had likened this to the intrusive thoughts in ocd and I can see this too.
I am wondering if things get better as we go through more experiences where my children (and I) cope with whatever happens.

OP, you say that you see this type of thing in your job, if that's the case, then do your employer's not offer any form of counselling, as I'm sure if this is something experienced regularly in your working life, others must suffer this type of reaction too?

I voted YABU not because of any fault of your own but because these scenarios are so infinitesimally unlikely that it is much more likely you are having some anxiety disordered thinking. I definitely suggest you make your GP aware of your concerns and hopefully they can sign post you to the correct help. Xxx

@thebaneofmylifeisacat that is precisely the opposite of what people are posting here, they're pointing out that the compulsion can be to think exhaustively about something rather than to clean....

I'd recommend the charity OCD-UK, who have a brilliant website and helpline, to anyone who's wondering if they might be suffering from OCD and, if so, what treatment there is.

What systems are in place to support/debrief at work? Secondary trauma builds up over time and has a massive personal impact.

I feel the same too. Sometimes even when I'm with her and some stupid "what if "thought sneaks in. Most of the times I can chase them away, sometimes I get more panicky. Distraction works well for me, probably because I have the attention span of a newt. There's always a massive sense of relief when she/we get back home and all is well.

Depending on how extreme it is, how it affects you or your DD and the way you parent, you might need some outside help.

However, I don't think it's that unusual to worry about the safety of your child and consider the possibilities, especially if you're particularly aware (through jobs or life experiences) of all the things that can go wrong.

A few thoughts.

firstly, why choose one particular fantasy when in reality tragedy is usually unpredictable.

secondly neither suppressing nor accepting as truth seem effective

Sorry PLEASE can you stop policing people’s posts. Many people are saying it’s related to OCD because it is, and they have experienced such.

I have OCD and dont make my family’s life hell, there is a spectrum so… you’re wrong.