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AIBU?

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AIBU to cancel?

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totallybonafido · 07/04/2023 21:16

We have a holiday booked in the summer. DC are 6 and 4. We'll all be sleeping together in 1 room for 10 days. DC 4 doesn't cope well with staying up late and wakes up stupidly early no matter what time he goes to bed. He's also a very light sleeper, as am I. DC6 has a fierce thumb sucking habit and it's so noisy it wakes me and DC4 up if we're in the same room. We're in hotel at the moment and DC4 has has meltdown after meltdown all day from being tired. On holiday it will also be hot, busy and over stimulating. AIBU to strongly consider cancelling? It's going to cost about 8k in total and that's a lot of money if it's going to be a total shit show.

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Clingthefilm · 07/04/2023 21:19

Do you have a DP or another adult going with you? For 8k, I'm pretty sure you can find a holiday with 2 rooms so you can split the DC between you. If not, a 2-bed apartment or villa would work.

Oceans1000 · 07/04/2023 21:21

How much will you lose if you cancel?

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totallybonafido · 07/04/2023 21:24

Yes, DH will also be there. He sleeps like a log 😡. Probably would be better to have more than 1 room.

I'll lose the £400 deposit, not the end of the world in the grand scheme of things.

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SnowyPetals · 07/04/2023 21:25

This is why we always rent a self catered place with separate rooms for the DC. I get where you're coming from - I hate all being in one room. Could you modify rather than cancel though?

Mugtattoo86 · 07/04/2023 21:27

Can you not upgrade your room so it has a separate bedroom then DH an DC6 could have that

LumpySpaceCow · 07/04/2023 21:27

Could you change it to a different hotel?

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totallybonafido · 07/04/2023 21:32

No we can't change anything, only cancel 😔

I booked it ages ago and naively thought that things would surely have improved by July.

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HeyDiddleDumplings · 07/04/2023 21:33

YANBU - you could all end up tired and exhausted, which doesn’t sound like a great holiday.

We have a thumb sucker and a teeth grinder and we can’t all sleep in a one bedroom hotel room. We all end up exhausted and snappy and I coke back feeling like I’d of had a better time staying at home.

We either get a family room (which has two rooms), or self catering villa.

pizzaHeart · 07/04/2023 21:34

2 kids??? No, no and no. Could you contact the place and ask them if other rooms are available?
We did one room for 3 of us once, DD was older than yours but she’s light sleeper and take ages to settle, me as well, DH slept fine (of course!) and was snoring.
I thought it was the longest week of my life ….
I compensated by sleeping on a beach while DH and DD were swimming, I wasn’t even keen on swimming much, only on sleeping.

Dinoboymama · 07/04/2023 21:34

Which company have you booked with as companies like jet2 etc will let you upgrade bookings. We have done it in the past.

With easy jet we have booked a holiday then just added a room on via the hotel as our dc can't share a room either it was cheaper to do it that way.

Eas1lyd1stracted · 07/04/2023 21:35

I said YABU. Then I saw how much you were paying and how little it was to cancel in comparison and changed my mind. I'd want a whole apartment for that!

HappyHolidays22 · 07/04/2023 21:37

I’d cancel but plan something else in its place - maybe something a little less pricey so you can test the water with two rooms etc etc.

As it stands at the minute, not only are you all likely to be cranky, tired and snappy but you will also be stressed because you’re (in all likelihood) not going to be making the most of the holiday for the money.

TheChosenTwo · 07/04/2023 21:38

That sounds like hell on Earth, when our dc were little we went to villas for exactly this reason, I hate sharing a room with anyone else as I’m a light sleeper and takes me ages to get to sleep, dh snores like a train and would disturb the dc and their constant fidgeting would make me absolutely rageful. Not a relaxing holiday at all.
I’d rather lose the £400 and spend the money you would have spent elsewhere on something that suits your needs.

goodnessgraciousmeagain · 07/04/2023 21:38

Have you thought about contacting the hotel and seeing if you can upgrade to 2 interlocking rooms? If not (and you can afford it), I'd cancel and rebook into a 2-bed apartment/villa.

FluffySlippers23 · 07/04/2023 21:39

White noise is your friend here!
Take a fan as this helps.

ZebraKid71 · 07/04/2023 21:40

If you can't change I would cancel and book something else, either a hotel room with an adjoining room or an apartment or villa or something. We shared a room with ours once in a travel lodge and once they'd gone to sleep me and dh sat with the TV on volume 4 in the dark and barely spoke all evening for fear of waking them up. Then cause of our youngest we were all up at half 5. never again!

Foxgluv · 07/04/2023 21:42

I think when you've got to the stage of finding multiple reasons why 8k would be wasted, then yes cancel. It's a lot of money to pay when you can already foresee stress.
I'd expect some luxury for that, at the bare minimum everyone being comfortable and happy. Save 8k save the stress and forget about the £400.

Domino20 · 07/04/2023 21:43

Could you start using white noise? Get the kids used to it before you go away.

Ponderingwindow · 07/04/2023 21:44

If you will only lose 5% of the cost, I would cancel and just plan a holiday that is more appropriate for your current situation.

pick something where you will have more space and that is child focused so there will be fewer meltdowns. We found if we changed our expectations we had a much more enjoyable break.

Oceans1000 · 07/04/2023 21:46

I think that it would be better to cut your losses now rather than waste £8000 on a holiday that is likely to be anything but relaxing!

2bowlio · 07/04/2023 21:47

We would do this on a holiday to a hotel we could not afford to go to unless all four of us shared.

In advance I would get used to using earplugs

I would also put dc together for a while beforehand so dc1 got used to the sound of dc2 thumb sucking.

It was worth the effort for the amazing holiday

StopFeckingFaffing · 07/04/2023 21:49

8K for a holiday where all 4 of you will be sleeping in one room? No thanks!

I would do a UK holiday cottage and save your money and sanity

BendingSpoons · 07/04/2023 21:55

To me it's not a holiday if you are all in 1 room. A cheap hotel for the night for an event I would suck up. An £8k holiday no way! Will they let you switch to somewhere else. I'd take a downgrade in facilties for a second room or apartment.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 07/04/2023 22:10

Lots of hotels have separate rooms or interconnecting rooms. If you can’t swap to that type of set up without it being too much extra (£8k 😲) then I’d definitely cancel.

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totallybonafido · 08/04/2023 06:20

We can't get another room, it would pretty much double the cost. I think we have to cancel 🙁
I just needed someone to validate it and I don't think anyone has said IABU so there's the answer.

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