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Is it rude to serve something I know one guest doesn't like?

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Swiftbushome · 07/04/2023 19:20

We are hosting family for Easter lunch. Ordered lamb from Tesco and they delivered the smallest leg ever. Def not enough to feed everyone. Went to the shops today to get second one to go with it and EVERWHERE was sold out of lamb. So I bought a pork joint because I love pork and we almost never eat meat so it's a treat for me. Problem is FIL hates pork. Like really hates it. But as long as he just gets the lamb (which he loves) that's fine right? Everyone else likes pork and actually I don't really like lamb anyway. To be clear it's not that he doesn't eat pork for religious reasons or anything, he eats ham and sausages and stuff just hates pork. I'm just a tiny bit worried it will come across as rude if I've bought something for lunch that I know he doesn't eat. Would you be offended?

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Lastqueenofscotland2 · 07/04/2023 19:22

That’s fine, other people might want lamb so just make sure he gets first dibs

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 07/04/2023 19:23

That sounds fine, he'll get something he likes.

ApolloandDaphne · 07/04/2023 19:23

Obviously it is fine. He can have lamb and the others have a choice. My DD2 doesn't eat beef but would be happy if the roast choice was beef or pork/lamb/chicken because she eats them.

WhiteFire · 07/04/2023 19:26

So there is something he likes, so there isn't a problem.

FlickFlackTrap · 07/04/2023 19:28

Does he know you were originally serving only lamb? He may think you’ve done two meats so he can eat something he likes. I can’t see how you would look bad in this situation.

category12 · 07/04/2023 19:32

As long as he gets lamb, I can't see what the problem could possibly be? You're serving two meats: people will have a choice.

It's not like you're holding him down and force-feeding him something he hates.

You'd have to be really weird to be offended that one item being served isn't to your taste, when there's an alternative you do like on offer.

GiraffeLaSophie · 07/04/2023 19:33

Definitely not rude. Just make sure there’s enough lamb for him if other people will want both!

Whattt44 · 07/04/2023 19:35

Just explain what happened, no drama , he has lamb which he likes.

BibbleandSqwauk · 07/04/2023 19:38

Why on earth would you think this is an issue? My dad hates chicken, so if that's what everyone else is having, I do something else for him..it's not like no-one can eat it in his presence. If you were ONLY serving pork then yes, that would be rude, but you're not.

Yellowrosesmakemehappy · 07/04/2023 19:40

Had to read this twice to see where the issue is?

JudgeRudy · 07/04/2023 19:41

Just be aware there was a post on recently about a host who bought both lamb and pork. She was quite put out as the lamb was by far the favourite and she got none!
Consider how you plate it

Luredbyapomegranate · 07/04/2023 19:41

Of course.

Dotcheck · 07/04/2023 19:42

Aw, op if everyone was as thoughtful as you, Brussel sprouts would become extinct at Christmas 😂

PussBilledDuckyPlait · 07/04/2023 19:42

Yes, I'd plate up the meat before you serve it to make sure FIL gets enough.

usernamewhokknows · 07/04/2023 19:43

You aren't serving him pork so what's the issue?

usernamewhokknows · 07/04/2023 19:44

Dotcheck · 07/04/2023 19:42

Aw, op if everyone was as thoughtful as you, Brussel sprouts would become extinct at Christmas 😂

I love sprouts. Eat them year round

Suzi888 · 07/04/2023 19:44

Plate it- give him lamb.

Morningcoffeeview · 07/04/2023 19:45

That’s absolutely fine, just make sure he has first dibs on the lamb.

PaigeMatthews · 07/04/2023 19:45

Of course what youre doing is fine.

carriedout · 07/04/2023 19:47

That's fine, totally normal.

LlynTegid · 07/04/2023 19:47

A choice of meat, how nice. Nothing wrong with that at all.

Wtfisthis1 · 07/04/2023 19:48

But you also have lamb…random post as you’re not ‘just’ serving pork!

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Swiftbushome · 07/04/2023 19:50

Thanks everyone. I know it sounds a bit nuts but I was thinking it might seem a bit unwelcoming somehow? But yeah I'll obviously make sure he gets lamb so it's not like he's eating something he doesn't like. He is quite fussy and so is one of my DC and my DH has allergies so having them all together for meals is generally a bit of a PITA 😆

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MrsToothyBitch · 07/04/2023 19:51

There are options so I don't see the issue at all as long as he gets first dibs on the lamb. Seems sensible and generous to me OP. Smile

I don't like lamb at all but would completely understand if you served up lamb to stretch a small pork joint, as long as I got a decent amount of the meat I did like and had a heads up on anything that might be a bit lamby- eg gravy made with lamb meat juices.

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Swiftbushome · 07/04/2023 19:54

And in case anyone is wondering I wouldn't have given a second thought of it was say carrots he didn't like. But the meat is the main thing in a roast so it felt a bit weird. I guess because we only really eat meat at special occasions I'm just overthinking. (Because my other DC is vegetarian so actually I'm doing something different for them as well!!)

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