to have wanted to rip the earphones off a mothers head this morning !

[utahforever]

Now, i normally try to restrain from judging other peoples parenting ability, but.....

she had a baby in a pushchair, earphones on and a young child (3ish) meandering along with her - including crossing a main road. Poor kid was carrying/dragging some shopping with him, 'cos the back of the pushchair was full.

I felt so sorry for him The music was loud enough that other shoppers passing her noticed, and she didn't once talk or make eye contact with the little lad whilst i was watching (about 5mins).

I was walking behind them across town, not stalking

I just hope that they have more interaction at home.

Judgy people, how do you feel about deaf parents walking along not being able to hear their children?

I didn;t get an answer to that one at 1pm minorityrules, so I wouldn;t hold your breath

Minority rules.

Interesting point, however the woman in question was not deaf or blind or disabled as far as we are aware.
If she had of been it was still be a cretinously stupid thing to do.
The thing about being deaf is that they will rely heavily on their remaining senses and would not , I hope, be moronic enough to walk ahead of a 3yr old on a main road!

Regards
DH
(who is becoming addicted to mumsnet)

If I believed that anyone could make a true judgement and assesment of a situation in 5 minutes....well, I would be impressed...truth is though....you only saw 5 minutes of a mum and Kids life together...really, I can't see what there is to judge about.
You wouldn't do that, ever...that is fine and up to you...but I would be careful to judge others to quickly...for what you know she could be a mum doing many lovely activities with her Kids for most of the time...
If the Kid wasn't moaning, I would say all was well, tbh....I mean, Toddlers tend to let one know when they want somehting and when they want it now...

Limara, how many Kids do you have, and what sort of behaviour do your Kids display when out walking, your judgement will be very much dependent on your own personal experiences...

Unbelievable comment.
Everyone makes judgements, about people, situations surroundings etc and we have to do this quickly as it generally keeps us alive. This being the true point, we are not saying that she is a bad parent all the time but she was then and that is not up for discussion unless you advocate a free for all society where there is no law and no-one is judged.

I crossed a road earlier, and afterwards it bought this thread to mind, I looked at ds, who is three, and was walking about 4 steps behind me, I said to him 'cross' and walked across the road, he followed me, I knew he was safe as I could see him out the corner of my eye and there were no cars.

I didn't have to make any contact with him, discussion or otehrwise because we do the same walk everyday and every day when it's safe I say 'cross' that's it.

If anyone was watching I would imagine it looked like I was taking no noitce of him, but believe me, I was.

(DH it may be easier if you get your own name!my DP reads but doesnt post because I can imagine him typing something in my name and me going mad, but he cant be bothered to register!)

threads like this are so great.

was that to me Limara...

and VSQU, that is pretty much what I do with my KIds morning and afternoon, so, maybe we are judged everytime by some perfect mother for doing it?
And, heh, I don't wear earphones, but I often walk silently, in my own world, and the kids just walk silently aswell, or talk to eachother...I truely do NOT feel the need to constantly interact with them...we talk but we don't talk all the time...

So, Limara, how many Kids do you have, what ages...etc...and what is their roadsense like?
I am just asking, as you cna't judge others peoples Kids behaviour by your own Kids...just impossible...and imo, and ime, even Kids of the same family wiht teh same upbringing tend to display very different behaviour, etc...and surely your own behaviour will be adjusted depending on the Kids you care for...

VS - that's what I do with both my DS's......DS2 (4) also runs up to the edge of the road to push the button in several steps ahead of me - occasionally prompts dirty glares and hands being waved at me from car drivers who "think" he's about to run into the road.........I know full well he's not going to.

lulu you make me pmsl! I am not worthy! Did you click your fingers and kiss your teeth when you said whatever?! Next time just say 'but am i bothered!' i heart you by the way!

limara, i am back late to this argument, just to ask you not to use words like 'cretinously'. (which btw is actuially a reconguised word on dictionary.com) but see here

I didnt even see that, must read more thoroughly!