Should they be uninvited if child is ill?

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A group of us have arranged to meet up on Saturday to do an outside Easter activity trail. Suggested by one friend who has a 5 year old and a toddler. Everyone else has babies under 18 months (apart from me, I don’t have any kids).

The 5 year old was sick today but we are hoping it’s a 24 hour bug and he’ll be better soon. Parent of 5 year old said if he’s better by Saturday they’ll still come as he’s looking forward to it. One couple with a baby (4 months old) have said they don’t feel comfortable coming and exposing their baby to the sick bug. Parents of 5 year old have said okay then they won’t come (they’re very non confrontational).

Nobody else has a problem with 5 year old and family coming. It’s outside and it was plans suggested by them and for the 5 year old.

Im not sure what to do in this situation, should the family with the baby be the ones to not attend as they’re worried? Or is it a reasonable concern for their baby and if your child has been ill recently it’s common courtesy to stay home?

Obviously if 5 year old is still being sick they won’t be coming, only if they feel better.

After 48 hours sick free, I think the 5yo should be able to participate as he or his parents wish. How much contact is he likely to have with the baby anyway...

4 month old baby couple should stay away.

It’s Wednesday - loads of time to get better, schools usually say 48hr from last being sick or having diarrhoea and the nhs website suggests same. If everyone else is fine with it and she’s the one who suggested it I’d say the person with the problem should give it a miss.

It’s Wednesday, if he isn’t sick again he will be fine. The activity is aimed at children, a 4 month old won’t be hunting for eggs. Tell the parents of the 4 month old they are being silly and are wrong.

It’s only Wednesday, it’s ridiculous to say if a child was sick today they can’t do something on Saturday. The parents of the 4mo are being precious.

If it’s been 48 hours since his last episode of D&V then he should be fine to go (that’s how long he’d be asked to wait before going back to nursery or school). If he has had symptoms in that time then I’d give it a miss even if he’s feeling better.

I totally understand not wanting a very young baby to get sick, but if you’re outdoors, he hasn’t had symptoms for 48hrs, he’s washing his hands properly and he’s not touching the baby or sharing food and drinks then the risk is low (or as low as it would be for anyone else that they might come into contact with- anyone at the event could be carrying an illness asymptotically or with very mild symptoms).

Absolutely couple with 4 month old should sit out!! If they don’t feel comfortable they stay home - end of! 4 month old won’t care anyway.
how awful of them. Tell your friend to stop being a wet blanket and stand up for he 5 yr old 🥺

It’s only Wednesday . As long as the five year old isn’t sick after today then it’s still more than 48 hours until you’ll be meeting so perfectly fine. Also, you’re all outside so far less chance of transmission of bugs/viruses. I say this as someone who hates being sick and I get very cross at people who don’t comply with the ‘48’ rule at school!

I can’t see how the 5YO would interact with the baby, that’s being overly precious and the couple with baby should be the ones not to attend

What's a 4mo going to get out if an Easter trail?! The couple with the baby should be the ones to stay away they're being precious as PP said

If it’s outside it will be fine

48hr rule. So if sick today 1.30pm As long as not sick again then 1.30pm
Fri he is fine

Just like school

So can def do an activity on Saturday

Clearly the 4mo is a first child. If they’re feeling that worried they should sit out. What are they going to do once their PFB hits toddlerhood and starts licking floors/dirty toys/other children?

Def agree the family should be fine to come after 48 hours. Can you not post something along these lines in the group?

5 yo is the only one who si going to get anything out of this, it would be bonkers if he didn’t come but everyone else went ahead. Plus it’s plenty of time to get over a sick bug.

If anything, the family with the 4 month old should sit it out.

They are being ridiculous, the 5 year old will be fine by Saturday. To exclude the family from their own plans on this alone is very unkind and a massive overreaction. Do they never take their 4 month old anywhere outside their own home?

Parents of the 4 month old who sound like it's their pfb should stay at home. If parents of school/pre school aged children locked themselves away for the best part of a week for every sickness they would never leave their house .

Parents of the 4 month old are completely ridiculous - if they have a problem then they should be the ones to stay away.

I read it as parents of 4 month are u comfortable with idea of 'if better by Saturday' ie if still sick Friday night

The parents of the 5 year old are saying if 24 hours Sat is then 48 hours clear of sickness so is absolutely fine.

the 4 month old are being ridiculous particularly as there is likely to be v little direct interaction.

It’s a fun and exciting thing for the 5 yr old organised by their parents. The 4 month old won’t have clue what’s happening so they should be the ones to step back if they’re uncomfortable going.

If it's genuine that no one else is bothered except the 4 month, then they should stay away especially given a 4 month won't care anyway.

Apply the 48 hour rule but realistically as long as the 5 year old keeps a reasonable distance from the baby there is very little risk in an outdoor activity

If every child who was ill had to stay home from outdoor activities for three days after the last instance of being ill, no-one would ever go anywhere!

There 4mo won't benefit from the event.

The 5yo will.