My daughter is very busy at the moment, she lives by herself with my grandson. She has expressed she is too tired after work and prefers to be with DS on her days off and hasn't managed to properly wash the floors in 4 weeks.
Said to her that I can come over and clean or help look after DS while she does. Admittedly I mentioned this during a conversation where she hadn't mentioned anything but that's because I needed to ensure I had a free day to offer to her before mentioning it.
She's said how she thinks I'm judging her and not keeping it clean for DS and that she is capable to do it herself.
Was it rude? I thought I was being nice but maybe it was patronising?