Commenting on pregnant woman's size

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Generally speaking would you consider constant comments on a pregnant woman's belly size rude or am I being unreasonable? Comments like 'you're filling out aren't you', 'must be a massive baby', 'look at the size of you', 'getting big now, piling it on'
For context around 5 months along, obvious bump but not huge, size 14 and haven't put on any weight yet. Customer facing job role, told a customer today I find his daily comments on my size rude and he very strongly disagreed, said it must be the hormones 🙄

It’s one of the only times in a woman’s life where the masses feel like it’s totally acceptable to comment in your size 🙄🙄
It’s not ok. It’s fucking rude.
If your bump is bigger than average, people comment. If it’s on the smaller side, people will comment. If you look like the most average pregnant woman ever, people will comment.
Mess with them: tell them that you’re not actually pregnant and watch them squirm 🙌🏻😂

My father in law kept commenting on the size of my bump (which, incidentally, was not actually particularly remarkable). Even at nearly 41 weeks pregnant my belly was in no danger of being bigger than his and I told him this. Every single time he mentioned it

I remember in my last week of pregnancy going to my village newsagents and having the generic chit chat with the two ladies working there about when I was due etc. For some reason they thought it was ok to then tell me all about another lady who’d been in that morning who was also pregnant but ‘tiny’ etc. I was too shocked to say much and pretty much just walked out so good on you for standing up for yourself. People can be so rude but I think on the whole it’s just thoughtless comments focussed more on the bump than anywhere else on your body.

It’s rude.

It's rude but people still feel the need to do it.

I got "wow your bump is tiny" throughout my first pregnancy. She was an IUGR baby who stopped growing in the womb, so the comments were really worrying.

Second baby, I got "your bump is massive! He's going to be huge!" Again, we were being assessed for IUGR but he caught up and was a perfectly normal 7lb.

It's considered rude nowadays but I'm in my mid fifties and remember a time when it wasn't.

I think since the obesity epidemic, commenting on anyone's weight has become a no-no, even if it is just the baby they're talking about.

I was a huge pregnant woman, my bump was absolutely massive. Constant comments look at the size of you, you're enormous etc etc. It's unbelievably rude.

I had a woman insist I was much bigger on my second pregnancy than my first, she’d never even seen me on my first

Horrible and rude. I had the opposite oh “cute” and tiny bump I had a IUGR baby who was struggling to grow in the womb and I hated those comments… still do as I get oh she’s a wee /little/tiny baby/girl and it makes my blood boil. I am no very conscious not commenting on the size or development of other mums babies

Well done for calling the customer out, keep doing it!!

Someone told me I looked massive when i was pregnant. I was wearing a non maternity size 12 coat which I wore pre pregnancy. I can only assume I looked massive before I was pregnant too...I didn't comment on her size which was easily 4 dress size bigger than me.

I don't understand these comments atall. I had a baby recently and I loved my baby bump and people commenting on it 🥰 I was so happy when it was very big I felt like I was blooming

It amazes me it’s still considered ok. It’s absolutely not.

Does that make it hard for you to understand that other people don’t?

There are two sides to this coin.
Size of bump- what the midwive measures when you go to the appointments and they compare with a chart. You do not want to be below the chart. You want your bump to grow nicely and healthy. I think most people do refer to this when they say anything about the bump. It is good that measures big. And mummy needs to build up reserves for the nursing part.

Negative idiots- who refer to fatness or whatever. Those can get lost! There are people like this, unfortunatelly.

I think most of us can tell difference between both approaches by the tone.

I've had it from men at work who must have been itching to throw some shade my way for a while! "Sure it's just one in there?!" at four months being my favourite. Knobs.

I can't believe anyone still thinks it's OK to comment on a pregnant woman's size; it's so rude!

Honestly, who doesn't feel like absolute crap when someone exclaims "OMG, you are HUGE"? Idiotic.

It's rude. I got lots of comments from colleagues about my small bump. They soon stopped when I burst into tears because we'd been told baby was too small at my 20 week scan.

Tell your manager he's harassing you. This is daily? Really unacceptable.

A bloke is rude to you and then tells you he doesn't think he's rude and it must be your hormones.

He's advertising himself as a complete wanker in several different ways.

I cringe every time I see someone behave as if the body of a pregnant woman is public property whether its unwarranted/unsolicited comments or touching. WTF is wrong with people.

I’m 35 weeks and find that others comment on my bump a lot. Especially if I haven’t seen them in a while, “wow - you’re getting so big” personally I quite like the comments but I can understand why others wouldn’t. I do find it awkward when strangers comment on my bump. Especially when I wasn’t as far along and my bump wasn’t that big, having strangers like shop assistants etc ask me about my pregnancy… I always wondered how awkward it would be if I wasn’t pregnant and they just assumed I was. Could easily really upset someone!

For every post like this, there's one where nobody dare even look at a pregnant colleague or even mention the pregnancy and the poster gets all humphy and "I've even got an enormous bump and they're still not asking me"

@TomatoFrog Fair enough, but you may well feel differently when you're close to (or past) your due date. It can get really, really tiresome.

So rude, but I don't think you'll stop people doing it.
When I was pregnant I used to serve like for like. You touch my belly, I touch your belly. You comment on my size I comment on your size.
So:
Random Man: You look enormous, got twins in there?
Me: wow, thanks. You look a bit fatter than last year too! Been enjoying your food?

People can't seem to help themselves- I've had everything from 'you're massive are you sure there's only one in there?!' and 'you're tiny, can barely even tell you're pregnant' on the same day... and everything in between 🤷‍♀️