Just not into spas and body moisturiser and stuff

[Achippywithnocheeseandonionpie]

I feel like I’m not as girly sometimes as other women..realise this is a ridiculous statement, but let me explain.
I used to use sun beds (bad) go to the gym, get my hair blowed dry most weekends and nails done sometimes when younger. I’ve always had long hair and worn make up and been into clothes/fashion (much less so since having my dc)
However, aside from briefly when young, I never get my nails done (don’t like the look or have the urge too) my nails are bad really, I bite them sometimes 😬never had or want a pedicure, don’t use body moisturiser and only recently became really concerned about good face care (because I’m looking older in mid 40’s now)
Lots of my friends idea of heaven is a spa, I don’t like the thought of it at all..aside from maybe swimming and lying down, not massages and treatments etc. I like the after part of my hair being done but hate going to the hairdressers. My sister has highlights and her nails and eyebrows done etc, even my mum had semi permanent make up done. I just feel so many women do so much to take care of themselves and I’m just like meh 🫤 Anyone else like this?

*Urge to, not too

I don’t go to spas or do any of that. I try to look clean, neat, and tidy all the time because that’s how I feel best and I want others to see me as put together rather than frazzled and messy. But getting tattooed makeup, regular work, expensive nails and things, that’s just not for me. Others enjoy it which is great! But there’s no requirement that you must enjoy or participate in these things.

I don’t know why you think this is unusual. Lots of women don’t do any of that stuff OR use sun beds/gyms/ get weekly blowdries.

Yes, there are a lot of us like this. And in fact, even less girly.

I don't see spas as a girly thing because lots of men really enjoy them. In my health club I'd say it's a good even split.

It's fine to not be into beauty pampering, as long as you wash etc that's fine lol

I do my face every day, have a really good skincare routine, have my hair cut regularly, use body lotion daily but my goodness I've never seen the appeal of a spa. So many of my friends do this and it's a massive luxurious treat for them. I can't think of anything I'd rather do less. No thanks!

All you need to do is shower and brush hair. That’s it. Spas and creams and all that shit - I don’t do it, load of crap imo. If people enjoy it then fine. You don’t - just say so.

Cool story.

I can't think of anything worse than a spa day and I don't like involving other people in my grooming. Had gel nails once and never again , hated it, it was so bloody boring and I got fidgety. I'm well groomed, I just do it all myself. You don't have to do anything apart from basic hygiene if you don't want to.

Although I will say I don’t know if I’d put body moisturiser in the same category as spa treatments and a weekly blow dry. I do use moisturiser but then I have awfully dry skin. Maybe if you don’t you wouldn’t need it!

I go to a spa fairly regularly with two friends. I never have treatments because I don't enjoy them. They do. They usually stagger their treatments so I can sit around in the hot tub or steam room with one of them while the other is being pampered. But if I go with only one of them, or they have treatments at the same time, I just swim or read. I love it.

Can't remember the last time I got my hair blowdried in a salon. Have never had my nails done except for my wedding. This isn't particularly unusual in my set.

@Kanaloa They’re not the same thing, but my mum even said she’s used moisturiser after a shower/bath all her life and I was thinking, I bet nearly everyone does 😬just why can’t I be arsed

God no it's so boring.

I'd rather do some gardening, just as relaxing, meditative but creative.

Nobody is forcing anyone to go to a spa, although I love them but you should be using face cream. And defo wash at least!

I’m female but not feminine. I don’t wear dresses or skirts, never worn heels, dabbled with makeup when I was a teenager but last wore it for my wedding and only because of photos, don’t do my nails, have a simple wet cut, rarely blow dry my hair (it’s dry by the time I get to work or I don’t care!) and am not keen on a girls’ night out (partly because I don’t drink either).

However, I’m a stereotypical female in the traditional role I’ve taken but it’s been through discussions and agreements not placement. (If that makes sense.)

Ah well I don’t think I’d be arsed except my skin really hurts sometimes! If I don’t put moisturiser then the bits that flare up will go very sore and flaky. So that’s why I do it! But if you can’t be arsed and your skin is comfortable who cares? Just spend the time doing whatever you actually want to.

@Endlesssummer2022 I obviously wash and use face cream

Me!

All those smelly skin creams give me a headache, and if they really worked they'd be regulated as medicines. Ditto foundation which looks terrible on most women IMHO and for sure on me( partly because I'm mixed-race and tone matching is genuinely impossible, especially at makeup counters under fluorescent lights).

Facials too involve too many smells and also waste time and money I need for higher priorities, like, you know, life. Getting nails done to me is no luxury but literally sitting around watching paint dry. As for the hair.... I'd have to spend a fortune smoothing out my frizz and I'd far rather have the extra 20 minutes' sleep every morning, plus my hair would still be too thin. Really I need a wig but, seriously, would you?

Also, I hate gyms. I'll walk or cycle anywhere, skip all lifts in favour of stairs, and dance hard, and my BMI, blood pressure, etc etc are all just fine at 57.

I do slick on some mascara and cheap Maybelline or Max Factor lipfinity lipstick that lasts all day; I wear the same shade every day. I do have dry skin so I cover my face, hands, and forearms in Olay Sensitive SPF 15, and have far fewer wrinkles and age spots than anyone my age that I've met. I make a basic effort to colour coordinate my clothes to one another and to myself ( which is already quite an effort considering my light but olive skin, blonde hair and brown eyes in a country that still seems to image most women have blue eyes and pink skin).

No one has ever run away screaming from me. To me I look just as good as most women around me, unless of course they have great bones by sheer luck of birth. Admittedly some (SIL, who was a martyr to acne till about 40) say if I had been less lucky in my skin I'd have had to learn more about makeup. Personally I think it's really because I can see for myself no amount of effort will ever make me Grace Kelly, but what I do is enough to show I'm both well socialised and attractive enough.

Men don't do all this crap.

I love going to a spa and having a facial or massage as it is relaxing to me.

I wouldn’t get anything done to my eye area as I don’t like people touching my eyes. Even on my wedding day I couldn’t let the make up lady put mascara on me.

Nails, can’t wear it for work. So don’t bother

i have had Botox and lip fillers done very subtly and like it.

Of course it's not unreasonable to not like these things. Equally so, it's not unreasonable to love them!

People have different likes and dislikes. I love spas, nails done, moisturiser for my dry skin etc etc. It really doesn't matter, just live your life as you like.

God no
I'd rather go to the dentist than have a spa day
I love the gym though

I've never had my nails done and don't use face creams etc despite being late 40s and I still look perfectly fine if not remotely 'girly'. But I do love a massage. They're not about how you look, they're about how you physically feel, easing aches, relaxation etc which has naff all to do with blow drying and nail parlours. Spa days can be about health not beauty although they can be lumped together as you have done.

What I do do:

Exercise 1 hour a day
Gel toenails every 8 weeks
Skincare at night
suncream every day
floss teeth every night
exfoliate every day in the shower
use salicylic acid to stop in grown hairs
wax from knees up every 4 weeks, shave below a few times a week
Hairdresser every 8 weeks
Hair mask when wash hair
Make up sometimes, but happily go out with none

What I don’t do:

Gel fingernails
Fake eyelashes
lip filler
botox
semi permanent make up
Eyebrows enhanced

What I do:

Shower every day, teeth twice a day, floss evenings only. I wear deodorant. I use a couple of basic products on my face and my makeup routine takes two minutes. I shave my armpits and legs when I feel like it, or when I remember. Ditto trimming my nails. I might get a bikini wax if I am going on holiday. I sometimes pluck my eyebrows a little.

What I don't usually do:

Spas, manicures, pedicures, haircuts, hair dye, hair styling (other than brushing it), heavy makeup, body lotions, scented products including perfume.

I don't think you're particularly unusual.

My sisters in law always get pretty nails done but I think it must be annoying trying to keep them nice all the time.