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Do I complain to the supermarket?

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OhGodNotNow · 29/03/2023 22:32

Sorry about the length...Husband and I called at local supermarket on the way home from work (large national chain), at around 5:30pm; very busy time. I had bought some sherry for cooking and one or two other items, and we went through the self checkout bit. When you're ready to pay, it asks for the assistant to confirm your age; the lady who was looking after the self-service bit was obviously really busy, but she came over and signed in with her card, and approved the purchase. I stepped forward and presented my contactless card, but at that very moment, she darted in and took the bottle off the 'tray' bit to remove the security collar, before replacing it on the tray so we could pack our things, including this bottle. This must have confused the machine, because it began to say repeatedly "has something been removed from your bag? Please replace the item". I just ignored this, because the item had been replaced, the payment had gone through, and the till had generated a receipt; we left the shop. A few moments later, just as we got outside, we heard a commotion behind us; the cashier was running after us shouting "Your payment hasn't gone through, you haven't paid". As I said, very busy time, everyone turns round to look at us (and I should say that this is a small town, where everyone knows everyone else...). I was surprised, and said that the payment had gone through, and we had the receipt to prove it - I dug it out of the bag and showed her, but she insisted that we had to return to the shop "because that's not what the till says". We were marched back to the till we had used, with everybody staring at us - lots of people queueing and also waiting for the cashier on the self-service tills; she said very loudly "Sorry, everyone, I'm back now, just need to sort this out, so sorry..." She then scanned her staff card to sign in to the till, and it immediately resolved the issue and it was apparent that we were right and had actually paid. By this time, another assistant had arrived and they looked at each other, said "Oh it must have got stuck", shrugged and went on with what they were doing. We were free to leave, but no apology, and everyone still looking daggers at us.

I felt absolutely humiliated and angry; should I complain? What I would like the shop to consider: 1.) If you need to challenge someone about something like this, could you say "Excuse me, I think you've forgotten something" rather than yelling that the customer hasn't paid? 2.) Since we had a valid receipt (which the cashier didn't dispute), could we have been asked to wait at the customer services desk by the entrance while she nipped back to check the till, so we weren't being paraded in front of everyone? 3.) Am I being unreasonable to think that an apology would have been nice?

I spend a lot of time and money in this store, and have done for many years; I'm sure the cashier was just rushed and a bit thoughtless, but I don't feel I want to go back.

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PacificallyRequested · 29/03/2023 22:34

I understand it was annoying, but mistakes happen. Not really worth complaining about.

sweatynoob · 29/03/2023 22:36

I think you are embarrassed and overthinking. An error was made. It is only your own embarrassment that has caused you to feel this way. The cashier was busy and overwhelmed and reacted as she did in the time to ensure you had paid. I doubt very much all those other shoppers gave a toss what you were up to in reality.

HotDogJumpingFrogHaveACookie · 29/03/2023 22:36

How much money you spend in the store is irrelevant and will be a mere splash in the ocean to them so I wouldn't go on about that in your complaint.

However, they should be training staff members in how to tactfully deal with issues arising, and ensuring they adopt that manner. You shouldn't have been treated that way.

What is it that you hope to achieve as an outcome?

Standbyguest · 29/03/2023 22:36

Was everyone really giving you daggers? I can't imagine paying even the slightest bit of attention to this is a shop as a customer. Even if I had been waiting for the shop assistant to help I would just think "oh well, there's clearly been a mistake or issue they need to deal with".

2chocolateoranges · 29/03/2023 22:36

I would shrug it off, accidents happen and the computer was obviously telling her something different to what had actually happened.

Aylestone · 29/03/2023 22:36

I can get why it was embarrassing at the time, but it was a mistake and no big deal. A complaints going to go nowhere. Just try and let this go op.

Elle200 · 29/03/2023 22:36

Yes complain, I'd be livid.

extrasushiplease · 29/03/2023 22:38

As annoying and stressful as I’m sure it was, these things happen and sometimes tired people don’t handle it perfectly. I’d chalk it up to a bad shopping trip and don’t give it anymore of your time or energy.

Aylestone · 29/03/2023 22:38

Standbyguest · 29/03/2023 22:36

Was everyone really giving you daggers? I can't imagine paying even the slightest bit of attention to this is a shop as a customer. Even if I had been waiting for the shop assistant to help I would just think "oh well, there's clearly been a mistake or issue they need to deal with".

This. I saw a man getting caught stealing a pair of trousers from Tesco this morning. My only thought was he was unlucky for getting caught. No one was ‘giving the op daggers’.

MissHoollie · 29/03/2023 22:38

Let it go

SallyWD · 29/03/2023 22:38

I'm sure no one cared. They might have looked over in mild curiosity but I'm sure they just assumed it was some type of mistake. I wouldn't bother complaining about this.

fruitbrewhaha · 29/03/2023 22:40

What were you embarrassed about? She needed to follow it up, you went back to help clear it up, it was cleared up. No one else gave a shit.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 29/03/2023 22:43

Jesus how dramatic! The till said you hadn't paid, of course she needed you to go back to try and sort it out. I guarantee nobody else in the store gave a shit about it

TiedUpWithABlackVelvetBand · 29/03/2023 22:43

I get it was embarrassing, I would have been too.

But it was clear to everyone in the vicinity - including those giving you daggers - that it was a mistake and you hadn’t tried to shoplift a trolley load of stuff, parading it through the check out when making your escape.

Chalk it up to - one of those things.

GrandTheftWalrus · 29/03/2023 22:46

Whenever I buy something like alcohol at a self service and they need to take it away to take the tag off it the actual till won't let me pay until its been put back.

DidyouNO · 29/03/2023 22:50

I actually think you should complain. We're getting to used to be treated in this manner. A very polite email about what gained and avoid it in the future. I was raised to treat people the way you want to be treated and I don't think raising her voice and humiliating you is the right way to treat someone. I wouldn't do it and don't expect someone to do that to me. A polite complaint is all it needs to bring it to their attention and let's get back to being a polite, civilised country instead of accepting this behaviour.

Againstmachine · 29/03/2023 22:50

I felt absolutely humiliated and angry; should I complain?

Get a grip and move on with your life.

UWhatNow · 29/03/2023 22:51

sweatynoob · 29/03/2023 22:36

I think you are embarrassed and overthinking. An error was made. It is only your own embarrassment that has caused you to feel this way. The cashier was busy and overwhelmed and reacted as she did in the time to ensure you had paid. I doubt very much all those other shoppers gave a toss what you were up to in reality.

This 100% - I would guarantee that not a single person in that supermarket gave a shiny shit about you and your little drama. Most people are just preoccupied with getting on with their own lives…

MissMaple82 · 29/03/2023 22:55

Get over it. Shit happens. I've worked in a supermarket, stuff like this happens all the time.

MissMaple82 · 29/03/2023 22:56

And if you want to blame anyone blame the CEO's and fat cats of these companies thst cut staff down to nothing and replace checkout staff with computers, they are run off their arsed daily

Helpmeimtired · 29/03/2023 23:02

Move on.

Phos · 29/03/2023 23:03

I actually think the staff handled it very badly and I would say something in your position.

Needmorelego · 29/03/2023 23:04

They weren't accusing you of stealing - just saying that the payment hadn't completed (which turned out to be an error but clearly quickly solved).
The assistants have probably forgotten about it already.
The other customers might have been having a bit of a nosy moment but they probably weren't that interested and have also probably forgotten about it.
Let it go....as someone upthread said.

Timetosayno · 29/03/2023 23:05

Deffo move on. Am pretty sure all them customers have forgotten all about it.

MrsDoylesDoily · 29/03/2023 23:05

OK, nobody was 'marched' anywhere and nobody was 'paraded'.

I get you felt embarrassed but you need to keep it real. A machine got confused, you were asked to go back inside the shop and it was sorted.

I don't think there's anything to apologise for. This stuff happens.