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Do I complain to the supermarket?

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OhGodNotNow · 29/03/2023 22:32

Sorry about the length...Husband and I called at local supermarket on the way home from work (large national chain), at around 5:30pm; very busy time. I had bought some sherry for cooking and one or two other items, and we went through the self checkout bit. When you're ready to pay, it asks for the assistant to confirm your age; the lady who was looking after the self-service bit was obviously really busy, but she came over and signed in with her card, and approved the purchase. I stepped forward and presented my contactless card, but at that very moment, she darted in and took the bottle off the 'tray' bit to remove the security collar, before replacing it on the tray so we could pack our things, including this bottle. This must have confused the machine, because it began to say repeatedly "has something been removed from your bag? Please replace the item". I just ignored this, because the item had been replaced, the payment had gone through, and the till had generated a receipt; we left the shop. A few moments later, just as we got outside, we heard a commotion behind us; the cashier was running after us shouting "Your payment hasn't gone through, you haven't paid". As I said, very busy time, everyone turns round to look at us (and I should say that this is a small town, where everyone knows everyone else...). I was surprised, and said that the payment had gone through, and we had the receipt to prove it - I dug it out of the bag and showed her, but she insisted that we had to return to the shop "because that's not what the till says". We were marched back to the till we had used, with everybody staring at us - lots of people queueing and also waiting for the cashier on the self-service tills; she said very loudly "Sorry, everyone, I'm back now, just need to sort this out, so sorry..." She then scanned her staff card to sign in to the till, and it immediately resolved the issue and it was apparent that we were right and had actually paid. By this time, another assistant had arrived and they looked at each other, said "Oh it must have got stuck", shrugged and went on with what they were doing. We were free to leave, but no apology, and everyone still looking daggers at us.

I felt absolutely humiliated and angry; should I complain? What I would like the shop to consider: 1.) If you need to challenge someone about something like this, could you say "Excuse me, I think you've forgotten something" rather than yelling that the customer hasn't paid? 2.) Since we had a valid receipt (which the cashier didn't dispute), could we have been asked to wait at the customer services desk by the entrance while she nipped back to check the till, so we weren't being paraded in front of everyone? 3.) Am I being unreasonable to think that an apology would have been nice?

I spend a lot of time and money in this store, and have done for many years; I'm sure the cashier was just rushed and a bit thoughtless, but I don't feel I want to go back.

OP posts:
ScentOfAMemory · 30/03/2023 07:05

Out of curiosity, apart from being made to wait at CS to have the problem caused by herself not taking any action when the machine said "there seems to be a problem", how was the OP negatively impacted? She got her booze, the problem with the machine was resolved. Nobody died.
@CrappyJob I despair of what people think you guys are responsible for. Brew

FitAt50 · 30/03/2023 07:08

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

NoSquirrels · 30/03/2023 07:08

I'm sure the cashier was just rushed and a bit thoughtless,

There you are, then. A politely worded email about staff training to handle these incidents better in future - yes. Including mentioning that an apology at the time would have been appreciated as a gesture.

Anything else - no. It was a till error, no more no less.

thegrain · 30/03/2023 07:09

They didn't go OI THIEF GET BACK HERE YOU CHEEKY FUCKER

Fairyliz · 30/03/2023 07:10

I would vote with my feet and if possible shop at a different supermarket. It won’t make a lot of difference in the grand scheme of things, but if everyone did that it would.
I would also tell everyone I know about my experience and perhaps encourage them to use manned checkouts to avoid this sort of problem.

Florissante · 30/03/2023 07:14

Minor issue. Move on.

Anycolouryoulike · 30/03/2023 07:15

This stuff happens all the time. I'd be a bit annoyed at best. Then I'd get on with my day.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 30/03/2023 07:17

You're embarrassed but I'm not convinced it's entirely the fault of the staff.

You knew the machine was saying there was an error and instead of waiting/asking for help, you chose to walk out anyway. That's nobody else's fault but yours.

Yes, an apology would have been nice when they found out there was a machine error but it's not their fault you walked out instead of asking them for help in the first place!

OhGodNotNow · 30/03/2023 07:54

For those saying it's my own fault for ignoring the till: as I said in the post, the reason I ignored it is because the item had been returned to the tray, everything was present and correct before we started to pack, a till receipt had been generated, and the main screen behind the bagging alert clearly said the payment was OK. Anyway, thanks for all the replies, it has helped me get a bit of perspective and I'll leave it behind!

OP posts:
JorisBonson · 30/03/2023 07:56

I would not give this a second thought, never mind post on the internet about it.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 30/03/2023 08:07

the reason I ignored it is because the item had been returned to the tray, everything was present and correct before we started to pack, a till receipt had been generated, and the main screen behind the bagging alert clearly said the payment was OK.

But you still knew there was an issue and left anyway - that's really not the fault of the supermarket staff.

I get why you did it (because the payment had gone through) but now you know for next time!

CrappyJob · 30/03/2023 09:00

FrogsWormsandButterflies · 30/03/2023 07:01

Have you not seen people scan shopping and keep stuff back in their bag/trolley to steal? So it looks like they’re paying for everything? I work in a supermarket and it’s a weekly occurrence

Of course. That's not the issue here though. So I didn't see any point in mentioning it.

TottyKnickers · 30/03/2023 15:26

Must have been a proper jobsworth as they don't normally bother

Irridescantshimmmer · 30/03/2023 15:59

Make a complaint in writing/email to head office and call them, describing, the humiliatoon you felt and the lack if apology. I suggest you call headoffice just in case the manager at the store chooses to brush it under the carpet. Then they will be forced to deal with the cashier who caused the mix up.

Its a hideous mistake by the cashier who should have known better. Customers pay their wages and they need to remenver that.

Needmorelego · 30/03/2023 16:16

@Irridescantshimmmer it's hardly a "hideous mistake". Mistakes happen all the time with self service tills - not the assistants fault.
Yes she could have apologised - but it's very very busy work being the staff member covering self service and she may not have even realised she hadn't apologised.

drpet49 · 30/03/2023 16:16

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 30/03/2023 07:17

You're embarrassed but I'm not convinced it's entirely the fault of the staff.

You knew the machine was saying there was an error and instead of waiting/asking for help, you chose to walk out anyway. That's nobody else's fault but yours.

Yes, an apology would have been nice when they found out there was a machine error but it's not their fault you walked out instead of asking them for help in the first place!

This. I don’t buy it that you thought payment had gone through.

girlfriend44 · 30/03/2023 16:18

They should have dealt with it more tactfully and apologised. I would complain Op so it dosent happen to someone else.

Some assistants have no idea today.

girlfriend44 · 30/03/2023 16:19

CrappyJob · 30/03/2023 09:00

Of course. That's not the issue here though. So I didn't see any point in mentioning it.

if its a weekly occurence that people are stealing then ask your place of work why they dont scrap self service tills, if they are losing so much.

FrownedUpon · 30/03/2023 16:26

Shrug it off & move on. These things happen.

GoodChat · 30/03/2023 17:03

TottyKnickers · 30/03/2023 15:26

Must have been a proper jobsworth as they don't normally bother

Not really a jobsworth to prove that people > machines.

CrappyJob · 30/03/2023 17:58

girlfriend44 · 30/03/2023 16:19

if its a weekly occurence that people are stealing then ask your place of work why they dont scrap self service tills, if they are losing so much.

You'll need to ask head office - but at a guess, people cost more than the losses incurred.

Profit is king.

CrappyJob · 30/03/2023 18:00

TottyKnickers · 30/03/2023 15:26

Must have been a proper jobsworth as they don't normally bother

Who don't usually bother?

It's not being a jobsworth to make sure people pay for their shopping. That's basically what the job is.

AllTheDifference · 30/03/2023 18:04

I don’t give this stuff a second thought. As I am not a thief, I don’t worry. And if there’s a mistake I will just roll my eyes at the technology.

You will make things more awkward for yourself if you complain and plan to return. That’s something to consider.

pncr · 30/03/2023 18:15

What would you be complaining about?

NumberTheory · 30/03/2023 18:17

That was really poorly done by the staff and a complaint along the lines of staff failing to be discreet or apologise for the system’s failings would be reasonable.

It doesn’t matter about the warning you received and whether or not you misinterpreted it - even if it had been telling you to stay it shouldn’t have been - You’d paid! You should have been able to leave. They clearly know the till doesn’t always get it right as they were unphased by the idea it “must have got stuck”. So being discrete when trying to check and then apologising when they found out the till was wrong would have been the reasonable way for them to respond.

I do think your embarrassment is probably unnecessary. People would have realised it was all a misunderstanding even before the staff found out the till was wrong simply from your demeanor. But the supermarket should be concerned about their customers being embarrassed. Supermarkets want the suggestion of shoplifting to be embarrassing to people, but don’t want non-shoplifters to feel embarrassed by their processes when they are mistakenly caught up in the protections, so it’s very much in their interests to improve their staff training on this.

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