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Things that happened in the past that wouldn't happen now

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Fakeplastictrees55 · 27/03/2023 23:34

I did my A Levels in 2007-2009. I went on to study one of the subjects at uni, even though I was rather weak at it at A Level. I needed a high grade and it wasn't certain I was going to make it. I remember my teachers and I were at school one night until around 7pm, my 2 subject teachers were practically doing the coursework for me as the deadline was the next day and they knew I needed the grade.
Then one of the teachers dropped me off home in her car after finally finishing it. Unsurprisingly I got an A.

I studied a language and we had a native speaker language assistant, a lady in her 60s. She was a lovely lady, and at one point she invited me and the other students to her house to complete our coursework. We went during the weekend, it was all above board, she made us croissants and we completed the coursework at her house.

Just looking back now this sort of stuff would be safeguarding risks now and would probably never happen. Has anybody else got things like that they think of?

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GneissWork · 27/03/2023 23:36

Those things should absolutely not have been happening in the mid to late 2000s either. Jeez.

Fakeplastictrees55 · 27/03/2023 23:38

Yeah, it wasn't that long ago really. The language assistant was very openly inviting us to her house in front of the teachers, saying, "Come and have some croissants and I'll help you with your coursework!"
Funnily I've been a language assistant, I'm friendly with the students, they're 18 so more mature but I keep a professional distance at the same time and don't divulge too much.

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PotKettel · 27/03/2023 23:44

none of my teachers would have dreamed of doing this in the 90s although a male teacher did meet me alone twice in a room with the door closed, which was a mistake by modern day standards

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 27/03/2023 23:51

I went to boarding school so it was not unusual to have tea and cake in teachers rooms/apartments/on site homes.

My sports instructor used to manhandle me (gently, but physically!) to demonstrate technique. These days they verbalise it!!

bellsbuss · 27/03/2023 23:51

A teacher at my secondary was dating a girl in the 5th year , this was late 80s.

Kanaloa · 27/03/2023 23:56

I mean I don’t think cheating for your students by completing their work for them was really common practice in the 2000s either… it was considered cheating then too!

I used to have this teacher who would pass back homework books each Monday. If you did good work she would hand the book to you, but if your work was poor or incomplete she would toss it. I always wonder how she got away with that.

Fakeplastictrees55 · 27/03/2023 23:56

Wow! What age is 5th year?
I remember an Art teacher in his 30s asking out a classmate of mine at our year 13 leavers' ball :/

I remember being in a PE lesson once aged about 14, and the PE teacher revealing to the whole class that my Mum had phoned her the previous evening (how she'd managed to reach the PE dept I don't know) panicking about where I was as I hadn't told her I'd gone to after school club, and then the whole class laughing.

Very odd and wouldn't happen now

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Fakeplastictrees55 · 27/03/2023 23:57

I've had the tossing thing too!

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neverknowinglyunreasonable · 27/03/2023 23:58

Being eaten by a dinosaur

Fakeplastictrees55 · 27/03/2023 23:59

Thank goodness!

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NewNovember · 28/03/2023 00:00

Wow! What age is 5th year? it's the year below sixth form clue is in the number.

RobertaFirmino · 28/03/2023 00:00

Doing PE (or that Schools Radio programme Musical Movement) in your vest and pants, in the early 80s!

alexdgr8 · 28/03/2023 00:02

well i finished school, and later college, long before many on here were born.
and my reaction to the OP is, i wish i'd ever had one teacher in any subject, level, location, who cared anything at all about how well i did in exams.
let alone extra help or tutoring.
they just addressed their subject, some barely did that, it didn't make any difference to them how well i did, so they didn't care.

some encouragement or interest would have been nice.
i know this isn't the point you are making, but it's what struck me.

Fakeplastictrees55 · 28/03/2023 00:03

Very controversial but.. I went to a private school for about a year when I was in year 4.
This was the very late 90s, and I recall the headmaster telling us not to use mobile phones as we'd end up idiots like points to one of the pupils. He said it in front of a canteen of pupils.
They would also be very annoyed if you didn't eat absolutely everything on your plate.
My teacher asked me in front of the class why I'd been off the previous day and I replied that I'd had a headache, to which the teacher said in front of the class "That's really no excuse." I was only about 8!

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Fakeplastictrees55 · 28/03/2023 00:03

Sorry, we call it year 11 usually

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Kanaloa · 28/03/2023 00:05

Thought of another one which I’m not sure if it’s a Scottish thing? A lady used to come and check our hair to see if we had nits! If you had them you would be given the slip of shame to give your parents. I’ve never known any of my kids be checked at school, and we’ve only ever had generic ‘we have had some cases of lice so please check your child’ type of letters.

JudgeRudy · 28/03/2023 00:21

One teacher invited his pupils to his house for an end of course/school 'party' before exams. We watched a horror movie I think (the Entity?) and drank cider. He was a brilliant teacher and is retired now but still teaches.
One male teacher locked me and friend in a gym cupboard in our knickers as a punishment
Got the cane
Teacher asked pupils for a fag
Teacher gave me valium on a field trip coz it was simpler than getting me home from Wales
Trip to Germany aged 13...walked into a church at midnight n found an open casket
Teacher 45 had affair with 16 year old....married her when she fell pregnant....After divorcing his 20 year old wife from previous school
Shaped around head as an 8vyearvold and asked are you deaf, stupid or insolent
Friend bled/flooded through her skirt as not allowed to go to toilet
Used to do photocopying for teachers n sniff the toner fluid till we passed out
Not allowed to wear trousers even in the winter. Mixed school. Lots of incidents of what would now be considered SA eg lads putting hand up your skirt...
I could go on

JudgeRudy · 28/03/2023 00:22

Kanaloa · 28/03/2023 00:05

Thought of another one which I’m not sure if it’s a Scottish thing? A lady used to come and check our hair to see if we had nits! If you had them you would be given the slip of shame to give your parents. I’ve never known any of my kids be checked at school, and we’ve only ever had generic ‘we have had some cases of lice so please check your child’ type of letters.

Yes, same in England. Nitty Nora the head explorer

GneissWork · 28/03/2023 00:25

NewNovember · 28/03/2023 00:00

Wow! What age is 5th year? it's the year below sixth form clue is in the number.

No it isn’t, 5th year is in Scotland where we don’t have sixth form.

5th year would be like sixth form; it’s post school leaving age.

NewNovember · 28/03/2023 00:26

GneissWork · 28/03/2023 00:25

No it isn’t, 5th year is in Scotland where we don’t have sixth form.

5th year would be like sixth form; it’s post school leaving age.

No in the 1980's 5th year in England was below 6th form.

bellsbuss · 28/03/2023 00:27

5th year is what is know known as year 11

Kanaloa · 28/03/2023 00:30

JudgeRudy · 28/03/2023 00:22

Yes, same in England. Nitty Nora the head explorer

😂 I don’t think we called her that! Does she still exist? I presume not, I’m sure my kids would have mentioned. To be honest she wasn’t actually that useful because as I remember she didn’t get rid of nits? Just told parents if their kids had them… which isn’t actually very helpful because the type of parents who wouldn’t even know are hardly likely to then treat them.

Makingamess4212 · 28/03/2023 00:30

When I was in secondary school I was self harming pretty bad. My head of year reported it to my mam who proceeded to beat the shit out of me. Had to go to school with a bust lip and a big cut down the side of my throat/chest. So after that the head of year said "we'll just keep it a secret from now on". No professionals were told about the situation, NO mental health services or child protection services were told. And her solution was to let me smoke, for stress. She would even give me cigarettes to go and take a break in the car park 🤷🏻‍♀️.. I'm pleased schools are a lot more on it regarding mental health. Just wish they'd got there a little sooner

sitdownstandup6 · 28/03/2023 00:31

We had a smoking area at our a level college. You could smoke at 16 back then in the early 2000s. Makes me feel old!

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