To ask for a 30/70 bills split

[MommasTired]

i am currently on mat leave, last 6 weeks of it which are unpaid. First child.

prior to mat leave DH and I earned relatively similar and we contributed 50/50 to the house. When I go back to work I will be earning only 30% of our total household income so have said I think a 30/70 bill split would be reasonable once we’ve cleared our debts, up until this point we will split everything and we will both pay in as much we can to our household.

DH seems really pissed off about this, and said he sees everything we earn as joint. I don’t think this is the case as he’s just bought himself a posh new car while I’m cutting and dying my own hair at home.

i said to him it’s not going to give us equal chances to rebuild our personal savings if I have to put so much of my salary in. By the by we have a joint savings and one for our son which we both count as part of our bills.

interested and open to hear your thoughts MNers!

Glad to read the update, op

@MommasTired that's great to know he was receptive and that there's been positive outcome! Hope it reduces some stress for you.

You're married and are now a family unit. As mentioned above (even before we had DD), we set up a joint account and all our income went into that and we both have an equal amount each month from the account for our own spending. It's always worked, no arguments. Only time one of us has asked for more was when DH went back to his old job and needed shirts - I didn't have a problem with that at all as he was the one working full-time.

We just put everything into our joint account and take out £500 a month each as personal spends. Anything else is for joint bills/mortgage/joint savings etc. I find all the meticulous bill splitting down to the % a bit weird, makes it quite transactional 🤷‍♀️

Great update Op. Sometimes even the best people don't think things through properly, which is what this sounds like. Onwards and upwards from here! Enjoy your baby!