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Are things harder for millennials?

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squidwid · 27/03/2023 08:18

Many of my friends don't own houses and they're in their 30s. They did everything that society asked of them and still they're not making headway.

I know so many elderly people that live in 4 bedroom homes worth £400k plus. Obviously there is nothing wrong with that but families should be able to afford those houses so things can move on. No one can afford to buy them...

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Emotionalstorm · 30/03/2023 12:13

They're also too poor to declare bankruptcy (it costs money).

ssd · 30/03/2023 12:43

Somehow this thread has turned into the @Emotionalstorm thread. Which makes no sense, as it was originally about how hard millennials have it and @Emotionalstorm hasn't had it hard at all, lives in a protected, cosseted bubble and votes accordingly. Which isn't in the least surprising.

Blossomtoes · 30/03/2023 12:45

You’re not the thread police @ssd.

GneissWork · 30/03/2023 13:38

Emotionalstorm · 30/03/2023 12:12

@pixie5121 You sound like a really awesome and strong person. I hope things are better for you now and you don't have those same worries re food etc.

I associate with people I happened to meet in school, uni and at work. I assure you I've not surrounded myself with the people I know on purpose. I did a science degree in uni; maybe if I did a humanities degree I would have a better understanding of what the average millennial had to go through. I do some pro bono work and the issues I see there do depress me so I avoid thinking about it (e.g. people who get a fine but are too poor to pay it but it keeps going up because the law lays out it's meant to increase over time so they end up owing insane amounts and there's not much you can do about it).

News flash - you can have a science degree that is a humanities degree too.

Alexandra2001 · 30/03/2023 14:08

Emotionalstorm · 30/03/2023 12:12

@pixie5121 You sound like a really awesome and strong person. I hope things are better for you now and you don't have those same worries re food etc.

I associate with people I happened to meet in school, uni and at work. I assure you I've not surrounded myself with the people I know on purpose. I did a science degree in uni; maybe if I did a humanities degree I would have a better understanding of what the average millennial had to go through. I do some pro bono work and the issues I see there do depress me so I avoid thinking about it (e.g. people who get a fine but are too poor to pay it but it keeps going up because the law lays out it's meant to increase over time so they end up owing insane amounts and there's not much you can do about it).

Its not just fines, its store cards, bank loans, unofficial lending (loan sharks) all can throw the poorer in society into huge debt.

Being honest, its incredible you vote Tory, you have a great financial life but also seem to realise that many do not and are balancing on a knife edge but you'll vote to continue or even make this worse.

pixie5121 · 30/03/2023 15:09

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GneissWork · 30/03/2023 15:16

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Interesting perspective.

I have a BSc in geography - geography has one of the highest employment rates of any degree. None of my coursemates were particularly privileged, bar one or two (small cohort). In fact, I’d say we were from a predominantly working class background. We didn’t go to a RG uni but it was still a large, well respected uni.

Blossomtoes · 30/03/2023 15:28

I'm not sure if Emotionalstorm is actually on a wind up because I find it hard to believe anyone over about 20 is this oblivious.

I find it hard to believe you don’t understand the extent to which extreme privilege insulates people from the realities of life. Do you think any of the multimillionaires currently in government or their children aren’t equally oblivious?

pixie5121 · 30/03/2023 15:39

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Blossomtoes · 30/03/2023 15:48

So you think it’s “extremely unlikely” that she’s had any contact with “normal people” and are then astonished that she has no understanding of their struggles. How would she have if she’s never encountered them?

Ginmonkeyagain · 30/03/2023 15:51

@pixie5121 "There aren't many council house kids applying for Classics."

Raises hand 🙋

Daisybuttercup12345 · 30/03/2023 15:58

Quveas · 27/03/2023 08:51

Oh how generous of you. I don't think you are lazy - I have no idea who you are. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't. But my parents had nothing (and nor did anyone we grew up with) and we had our own "narrative" that didn't involve being helped out by anyone or left houses or anything else. I don't think we had it easy, and I don't think millenials have it easy. I think the main difference between us is that we just got on with it because we expected nothing more, and didn't have some entitled attitude to what we thought we were owed out of life. But to be fair, outside the rarified atmosphere of MN I don't know any millenials who think like I so often see here either. They get on with it because they have to. Just like we did. Just like those who went before did.

As for house prices, we don't dictate those - I won't go into the mechanics of it because obviously it's much better to blame previous generations for things than to actually understand the world around you, but try capitalism out for an explanation. We didn't invent it.

Totally agree.

ssd · 30/03/2023 16:17

Blossomtoes · 30/03/2023 12:45

You’re not the thread police @ssd.

Never said i was

Songbird54321 · 30/03/2023 16:26

I’m 29 and have been a homeowner for 5 years. Our families are not rich and in no position to help us. However, we live in the north east and were lucky enough to buy at a time when 5% deposits were accepted. Our first home cost £132k. This would now go for £175k. The home we live in now, we couldn’t actually afford to buy now as it is worth £200k+. The house I grew up in was bought by my parents for under £60k in the nineties. It’s now worth £250k easily. We were just extremely lucky with timing and are acutely aware of that. We are not skilled workers so don’t earn all that much but we try to live within our means.
I have a younger sister who currently has absolutely no hope of buying a property any time soon and her partner is an engineer with a decent wage. Banks want higher deposits and house prices are not falling after they shot up. Everything is going up in price but wages are not following.
I’m probably one of the exceptions in my generation and will be forever grateful for that.

Ingrowncrotchhair · 30/03/2023 16:31

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 27/03/2023 09:20

The problem now is that they want to go straight into that four bedroom house, or a new build

Because they spent ages 21-31 pissing 1200pcm into their landlords pockets in rent for a two bed flat.

1200?? Where is that?? So cheap!!

CocoFifi · 30/03/2023 16:37

I do not think it is harder, people's expectations are higher. I have never had help of my parents, nor would I expect it. I have gone without to afford my first car, which was years old and also to afford to buy a house, that was in need of work, but did it myself to save money. My friend, who is the same age and on a better wage, swears she cannot afford a house, but she has to have the latest clothes, cars, beauty treatments, fancy holidays etc. There are many young people out there making their own way in life, they are just prepared to make sacrifices

Xenia · 30/03/2023 16:39

1200 is not particularly cheap rent. My son's 2 bed house (just outside M25) has rent of £1100 a month (he is the landlord).
People can have a moan whatever their age but in life it tends to be a good idea just to do the best you can and get on with things as com,parison is the thief of joy. There will always be someone today or in the past who has things a lot easier or worse than all of us.

GneissWork · 30/03/2023 16:46

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I actually think the opposite is true - the subjects you have listed tend to be very competitive with the highest entry requirements, and the courses tend to be more demanding, including placements, which makes working alongside your degree more difficult.

If you look at the (school level) attainment gap between the top 20% and the bottom 20%; you will see that the more affluent perform far better than the less affluent, and therefore the “prestigious” subjects tend to have less people from the bottom 20%.

For example, for Glasgow Uni (RG) you need 5 A’s at higher and 2 B’s at advanced higher for medicine. For classics you “only” need 5 A’s at higher OR 4 A’s at higher and a B at advanced higher. So it’s far harder for anyone to do medicine than classics, but given that the “poor” are less likely to get the top grades needed than the “rich”, I think it’s ridiculous to claim there are more working class people doing classics than medicine.

If you are interested in learning more; look up Scottish Attainment Challenge, City Challenges in England, or Challenge Cymru.

GneissWork · 30/03/2023 16:48

Ingrowncrotchhair · 30/03/2023 16:31

1200?? Where is that?? So cheap!!

Cheap?!

You could get that for £500 here, easy 😂

pixie5121 · 30/03/2023 17:00

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Ginmonkeyagain · 30/03/2023 17:08

@pixie5121 Well aren't you just a delight?

GneissWork · 30/03/2023 17:08

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I can assure you, I am speaking from more than just my personal experience. I could put my hand on specific data about numbers of children in my local authority who study medicine; and I can assure you, very few are from “council estates” - the vast majority are from privileged backgrounds.

Granted, tuition fees are free here, so family finances have less on an impact.

Working closely with a careers service in a large, mixed demographic secondary school gives me a fairly good insight into this.