Told I was too fat !!!

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I feel so embarrassed.I went to a party last night.One of my friends who I only really know through my work colleague.Proceeded to get drunk and In doing so tell me how much I need to loose weight and diet.I am so pretty but I need to get fit.She went on about it for a while.Mygirlfriend was there and I just played along nodding but inside I wanted to run and hide.
Safe to say today as soon as my girlfriend went to work I cried all morning.
why do people think you don’t know how fat you are and think this is fine.They act like they are doing you a favour.
I am so upset and deeply embarrassed.I feel like I can’t go out to any social events this friend is attending any more.
I just feel utterly horrendous and fat and ugly and feel like I shouldn’t be attending any thing.

Do you have her number?

I’d be inclined to text her

“How’s the hangxiety this morning?
Yes, what you said is just as bad as you remember, probably even worse.
To the point you’ve made me not want to socialise anymore, you completely ruined my evening.”

I’d tell your mutual friend exactly how you are feeling too and that you’re really struggling with the behaviour of their friend.

Excellent

Easier said than done but ignore this idiot.
I ve been fat and I ve been super skinny (now need to lose a few stone after regaining) and I have heard comments both times that were horrible.

It says more about her than you. She's obviously unhappy with herself because people who are happy don't go around trying to destroy others.

We have (had) a friend who is a disgustingly nasty drunk and sadly she can't have a few drinks and a nice evening. It's all the drink there poured down her throat until she gets nasty and either cries/causes drama or is just plain nasty.
She wonders why nobody includes her in anything now.
I actually told her it is because she is such a nasty drunk and I won't tolerate it
(Similar to your story, she called my beautiful 28 year old dd fat but "E is such a pretty girl, blah blah ".

Hold your head up OP, it's not all about looks or weight. You sound a nice person people want around, her definitely not.

Thankyou every one for your kind replies.I have decided to step away from this so called friend of a friend I have blocked her on all my social media.She doesn’t need to see my life and if she asks why and she will I will explain.I am currently on a diet so it hurt as I am trying everything I can.
I do a weekly exercise class at the moment and a home exercise session too.
But her comments set me back.
I have pulled on my big girl pants and thought f##k her ! It’s my life.The thing is there is plenty I could have said about her sad life but I’m a decent person and wouldn’t ever be this rude I was very tempted to though.
My girlfriend was in the other room at the time but she is fuming at her.
thankyou all x x

In the past we had to put up with this shit. Now we don't. I'd email and say you didn't appreciate being fat-shamed last night. She probably doesn't realise how inappropriate she was. The thing is, even if it came from a good place, she needs to know it's not OK.
And in case you're worrying about whether you can do that, I wish you could have seen a 10 year old lad at my school the other day, confidently telling the teachers that a child had fat-shamed him( literally using those words), and his friends backing him up. Don't be embarrassed, or ashamed, stand up for yourself. You have a right to be you, as you are, and to go out without people making you feel bad.

Wow, she's bang out of order, she's no friend, and she's a horrible bully. Good on you for blocking her.

I'm sorry you were made to feel that way, I can only imagine how upsetting it must have felt.

My normal response to this sort of thing is to smile and say something like "maybe one only has good manners if one is fat". Sometimes I see a completely puzzled look come over the fat shamer as they can't make any sense of what I'm saying as not only are they rude they are also ignorant.

There are many worse things to be than fat, OP. Funny how our society seems to excuse being a total c**t quicker than being overweight. I say bollocks to anyone that judges a person for their weight ( fat or skinny), they are clearly superficial arseholes.

If this nasty person feels the need to say this to you and make judgements about you this is HER PROBLEM and NOT yours.

If she's got a problem with how you look again it's utterly her problem and not yours.

Your body is yours and no one else's - your autonomy, your choices, your opinion is the one that matters.

Sending hugs - must have been horrible to hear x

I’ve put YABU. Simply because, your weight is none of that persons business and you should have told her so. She had no place in saying anything what so ever about your body.
You go out and do what you got to do and attend anything you want with your head held high. Your weight is no one’s business and don’t let anyone else’s bad manners or opinions affect your self worth. You’re human and are beautiful whatever your size. Tell that bitch to hide her ugly soul next time she tries to put you down.

sending supportive hugs your way 💐

💐 hi,please font give this idiot any power over you.Don't allow her nasty comments to upset you for one second longer,please.
Love in the now,forget those comments they are gone but not for her,they will come back to her.
You,concentrate on your self esteem,nobodies like the idiot should ever hold any validation in your mind.
Do you care about her?no.Does she care about you?clearly not.so there is no reason to give her spite another thought.
Love your body,love yourself and ignore anyone who has bad things to say.

Thankyou everyone for your kind words :)