My twins (5) are in YR in the same small class (only one class per year) in a lovely, but small school.
I've often regretted starting them together, as Twin 2 really clings to Twin 1, despite trying to support Twin 2 to give Twin 1 space and for Twin 1 to be able to tell Twin 2 when she needs space. Both are ND, as am I, so they both have different needs and communication differences/difficulties.
It's become increasingly apparent just how much Twin 1 dislikes being with Twin 2, and how much Twin 2 feels they 'need' Twin 1.
They have a close bond, but we have had a long, difficult few years, which has had wide ranging effects on them, so I am loathe to cause either further 'trauma', but it's really impacting their relationship and spending too much time together is making home feel like increasingly like a war zone.
A school across town has space for Twin 2 after Easter and it's a MUCH better fit for her. Their current school is perfect for Twin 1. No school has space for both in separate classes and there are extensive waiting lists within this area,
AIBVU to move Twin 2 after Easter, when I know that in the short term, it could cause her a lot of stress? Twin 1 is delighted by any thought of not being with Twin 2 in class (although they do not yet know this is a distinct possibility), although she loves Twin 2 to pieces and has said before how she'd like to just be with her during non-school time.
I've had really strong opposing views with the twins' father (who sees them 1 weekend a month and has never be involved in nor interested in their education and from the lady who is to all intents and purposes my Mum (we speak daily, but we haven’t actually seen her for 2 years). Really strong, negative views! Other friends and our network have been fully supportive.
Would really welcome thoughts and perspectives, even from non twin parents or those with NT DC.
And, any suggestions around how to best support both twins (but especially Twin 2) through this transition.