To hate DH's beard

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I'm a horrible person for feeling this way because he's always supportive of me whatever I look like and tells me I'm gorgeous whether fat, less fat, bad hair day, whatever, but I really, really don't like his beard. I know a lot of women do like them but I never have. It makes him look old (it's white, the rest of his hair is still pretty dark), hides his face, and when we kiss it feels like I'm kissing an animal, he's so furry. When he's eating, food sometimes gets trapped which is a bit🤢. He knows I don't like it and I think if I pushed hard enough he would shave it off but I don't want to be controlling and don't think I should be telling him what to do with his own facial hair. I tried saying I'm not shaving my legs or armpits till you shave, but he said he didn't care if I was hairy, and I only lasted a week before caving! WIBU to say it's your choice if you want to keep the beard but it's my choice if I want to kiss you with it? I think he'd resent me making him get rid of it. I think what I really want is for him to decide for himself that he's had enough of it but that doesn't seem to be happening any time soon. Any ideas what I can do? Or should I just accept and fancy him as he is, like he's always done with me?

Maybe stop kissing the pet dog, then you won't be comparing the two?

I really hate beards, I'm so glad my husband prefers his face clean shaven. During lockdown he grew a dreadful hillbilly beard because all his friends were doing it. I sucked it up and dealt with it because I know he'd still love me no matter what mad thing I did to my physical appearance, but I was so relieved when he got rid of it 😂

Buy a fake beard stick it on your face, rub liberally with a few bacon butties and some cheese and onion crisps, drink a few beers and then drool abit. Then kiss him passionately and ask for feedback.
Scratch that he‘ ll probably love it

It might not be fair but there is zero way I could
Kiss someone with a beard ( or a moustache) z I literally just couldn't .

I love a beard, I just loathe a long beard. Dh's always used to be short for work ow he works from home it's long. I really don't like it.

Is it really?. DH would love a beard but I know that is because he hates spend any time on his appearance and he wouldn't keep it neat. I've seen pictures of him from before we met with a beard and it was not a good look. He was clean shaven when we met I've said I'm fine with a beard but it need to be kept tidy and trimmed but he and I both know that will never happen. He'll just grow a bushy out of control one .

He has a lot of body hair including back hair which lots of women on here make jokes about and find repulsive. I don't I am very happy with him as he is but I cannot abide big hairy beards and have told him so in very clear terms .

He just laughs and shaves as he knows I mean it and he finds it easier to shave than to do the regular fiddly stuff involved in keeping a beard looking trim and we'll maintained.

I don't see it as terrible and neither does DH. He has never expressed a preference over how I style my hair but if he did I'd definitely take it into account as hair is easy to change and to keep in a way that pleases your partner.

Hair styles ( and I see beards as an extension or a hair styles) are in no way the same as weight or most other aspects of your appearance as they are relative easy to change.

My DH has had a beard in the past which was fine but I don't like the stubble .
He used t shave once a week as it cut his face .
I hated the stubble as it shredded my face .

So I told him he wasn't coming near me unless he'd shaved that day and I bought him a cordless electric razor (ok not such a good finish as a razor but a shedload better than a week of stubble)

My DS has a beard as loads of young men do but it's his face and he's single

I was the same my husband had his beard I hated it and stopped kissing him when he asked why I was like it's gross and I just don't like it, he shaved it off an hour later !!
Now keeps it gone !

My DH recently grew a bear and I HATED it. Ive never been attracted to anyone with beards and I couldn't kiss him as it was like kissing a carpet.

He occasionally asked me if I liked it as it was so different for him and I was honest and said no I don't, but its his face and he can do with it whatever he wants.

I wouldn't ever kiss him and he missed that, so he got rid of it after about a month.

I would hate him to think I was controlling as he can do whatever he wants to his face, but I just couldn't kiss him as it was revolting having that hair touching my face.

I didn’t force him. I told him if he wanted to walk around looking like an elderly tramp it was his business but I didn’t think that was the look he was aiming for.

Oh I have expressed my opinion. But he says he isn't in a rush to get to the barbers. He does shave every so often but he hasn't for ages. Full beard just now 🙄

The scratchiness of a beard irritates my delicate little fizzog.

Mine has a beard, I do like it but only at a certain length (quite short). The negotiation is that he goes to the Turkish barber and gets a beard cut weekly as otherwise he looks like he has a big long head.
The getting stuff stuck in it, ew..have you tried telling him he needs to comb it?

Oh I should also add that he is heavy into making sure he looks groomed etc, spends more on clothes than me, so his is a fashion statement rather than lazy. A lazy beard would not be good

It's his choice definitely, but you are also not being unreasonable for not liking to kiss him with a beard. So it's a choice he will have to make.

@Sisisimone imagine he was trying to force her to change her hair or her make up or her clothes, imagine how much women would be whinging and the uproar

Double standards much

Why do you keep saying “force”? There’s no forcing, it’s influencing.

It's true, but also those men don't realise what a faff long hair is.

And to pp who made the weight gain comparison, it's not that I don't agree but I also wonder how many men who say they don't mind weight gain would feel just as aroused/ be just as polite/ loving if the woman started rocking a massive beard.

This

I love my husband with a beard, but only if he gets it trimmed at the barbers. When he grew it, he would brush it, blow dry it, twirl it haha. He's shaved it off this week for work and he looks about 10 lol.

Being controlling and forcing influencing your OH to alter their appearance to match your aesthetic standards isn't a great attitude to a relationship.

It's their body and choice to grow a beard. Saying they look like a tramp (and therefore ugly in your eyes) isn't what i'd ever say to someone I love.

Shave one half off while he’s asleep 🤣

My tea just went up my nose! 🤣🤣🤣

I disagree.

Being overweight is never really a desirable thing but many men like their beards. For sure most women would not be having a man dictate their hairstyle.

It was because I love him. God only knows what other people thought of him. All his adult kids were very vocal with their approval when the vile beard disappeared.