To want husband to stop going to karate.

[GirlsAndPenguins]

Myself and DH have been together for 10 years and have a 3 year old and 1 month old.
DH is a great Dad. When I came back from hospital post c-section he slept on the sofa with baby in the Moses basket so he could do all the night feeds and I could recover for a few days.
My issue is after 2 weeks he went back to work and also back to karate. He goes 1-2 nights a week. I’m now doing all night times as he has work. Baby is up until 1 am and will sleep until 6am. This is the only sleep I get as after feeding at 6am, toddler is up at 7am.
I was hoping to sleep today (toddler nursery day) but baby has a horrible wrenching cough and won’t settle so has been in my arms all day. Every time I’ve put her down to do something essential like wash bottles she’s screamed. I haven’t even had chance to make a sandwich or get out of my pjs. I know any minute he will walk through the door, drop off tired toddler and be out again in 15 mins for karate. I can’t wrestle with toddler at bedtime as still only 4 weeks post c section it’s too difficult so she will just stay up until he returns and can put her to bed.
He has been going for like 20 years and has his own class on 1 of the days. He can’t just not turn up as there would be loads of people (including children) waiting outside for him.
I think what annoys me is it’s a hobby that I have to support him to do. He treats it like it’s a job, often complaining about it.
I just want him here to help me!
Would it be unreasonable to ask him to quit?

Ok so earlier in the week I have both children in the day so can’t nap.
Yesterday was my first opportunity for a day nap but the baby has a bad cold so coughs and wakes herself up every 5 minutes and cries if not on me so I couldn’t nap.
Normally she sleeps all day and has, what we call, witching hours from about 9pm-1am she may dose for a couple of mins in this time but generally cries and eats the whole time! Then by one (finally content with her binge eating) will finally sleep.
Anyways last night he sent me to bed early, then ended up sleeping on the sofa with her and doing all the night feeds (without being asked) so I’ve had a good 8 hours 😊.
He is incredibly hands on when in the house, he’s just been unwell too so it’s just been a bit harder recently. I’m sure it will all settle down soon

I would advise approaching him with your problem (tired, struggling) and try to come up with a solution together.

You have (very understandably) tried to find a solution to the problem. But work together and you may be able to come up with a better one.

Perhaps he can take a few days leave, have a patent over, reduce hours, do a night shift...lots ofnoptions xx

Trained babywearing peer supporter here. That's not correct. If you can hold your baby then you can wear them in a stretchy wrap. They're way above the scar and the weight is distrivuted better than carrying thrm in your arms.

I used slings with both of mine within 2 or 3 days of c-sections.

I think what annoys me is it’s a hobby that I have to support him to do. He treats it like it’s a job, often complaining about it.

well it's hard but you said yourself - he takes one of the classes. And he does another.

If you ask him to give up one of them for a while, that wouldn't be unreasonable and you know how to approach him. You can also negotiate for your own "evening off" at the same time, so it makes the point for you. And you should have time for yourself anyway.

But it is good for people to do sport, to do things for themselves and their mental health, and you should both try to work that into your routines.