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things I like about sleeping alone

35 replies

crochetmonkey74 · 22/03/2023 13:39

What are yours?
I'm single 18 months and just starting to like it- the bit I have started to really like is the sleeping alone bit because:
I can go to bed anytime and fall asleep and not be disturbed by someone else getting in
I don't have to cope with ex's stinking farts that would wake me up!
I can sleep in the middle of the bed
Nobody wakes me up when they can't sleep/ feel ill/ have to get up early

How do you lot feel about it?

OP posts:
Dodecaheidyin · 22/03/2023 13:40

There's nothing I don't like about sleeping alone.

jeaux90 · 22/03/2023 13:43

There is a reason why single women with no kids are the happiest Grin

sundaydayisnotmyfundayday · 22/03/2023 13:44

I don't sleep alone. Married for 20yrs. It is common knowledge in this house though that I have earmarked dd's room when she moves out. Cannot bloody wait!

MinnieMountain · 22/03/2023 13:49

I can do what I want to occupy myself when I have insomnia rather than sneaking downstairs to the sofa.
The cat comes for a cuddle when I get my first coffee.

cocksstrideintheevening · 22/03/2023 14:02

I'm married, we sleep separately, I fucking love it. I'm peri, want the window open, he doesn't, he snores, I snore, he is a fidget, the main bedroom has blinds and they let light in, my bedroom has black out velux blinds.

Having enough quality sleep has done wonders for our relationship.

stackhead · 22/03/2023 14:04

Married, sleep alone. Best thing, not being woken by DH's snoring (although can still sometimes hear it!) or his 'turning' (aka jumping like a madman) over.

cobblers123 · 22/03/2023 14:09

Finding a cool spot to move to when it's baking hot like last year. Can't do that with someone else in the bed. 😁

scoobycute · 22/03/2023 14:21

Currently pregnant. Sleeping separately from husband (I get up to pee ++ he snores, both toss and turn)

Both of us now sleep like logs. Its incredible.

Let's start normalising sleeping alone!!

Dozycuntlaters · 22/03/2023 14:27

It's definitely one of the best things about being single.I love snuggling up to my dog and sometimes the cats as well, i love that I can go to bed anytime, get up anytime and if I want to go to bed ridiculously early and watch tv i can. I'm on a diet now but before that I also used to love snacking in bed and sometimes if I wake up in the night and can't get back to sleep I can faff about on my phone, or watch something without anyone moaning.

Shoxfordian · 22/03/2023 14:27

Very happily married; separate bedrooms- I’m almost certainly the fidgety snory problem but I love to be in the middle of the bed

Pollysmum2012 · 22/03/2023 14:29

I'm married and also sleep alone - I love that I can have an early night without being woken up when DH comes to bed and he doesn't have to worry about waking me. I would say it's really improved our relationship now we both sleep better and aren't grumpy all the time!

noimaginationforausername · 22/03/2023 14:32

I don't sleep alone but I do sleep apart from my husband at the moment as my 9 yo dd has developed big anxiety around bedtime and sleeping and doesn't want to be alone.

She has a king size bed so I sleep with her (6 months now) because I value my sleep and she's happy and settled and my husband sleeps alone. My dd is a dream to sleep with and I'm getting the best sleep I've had in years! Husband is loving it because he has the bed to himself and we were just saying last night that we aren't sure what we are going to do when dd gets over this and kicks me out of her bed!

Friends think it's weird but our relationship is great and I have no worries that sleeping apart is damaging us in anyway.

AlisonDonut · 22/03/2023 14:37

I've slept alone for about 5 years now, since the spare room was done and I moved into it. I cannot sleep in the same bed as my OH as I cannot get to sleep. We had to share hotel rooms 18 months ago for 5 whole nights whilst we were in the process of moving countries. I hardly slept.

I like it as I can fidget as much as I want. And I can't half fidget.

Goodread1 · 22/03/2023 14:51

You don't have to put up with a partner snoring like a night Express train ,

You don't have to put up with a Dutchie oven as a laugh by certain immature male

You don't have to put up with skid shit marks or streaks on your lovely clean white bed sheets

You don't have to put up with noxious toxic smells from your partners Arse

You don't have to put up with stinking reeking to high heavens dirty socks,

Dirty shit encrusted dirty underwear on the bedroom floor

You don't have to dodgy suspect wet patch

You don't have to put up with him Breathing oxygen At All. !

That's All really I think 🤔

Goodread1 · 22/03/2023 14:52

It's sheer bliss at times being single

Findyourneutralspace · 22/03/2023 15:01

Temperature control. I have a warm bit and a cool bit of the bed and switch between them. I also like the window open and various pillow/quilt/blanket combinations.

LiverpoolLassie1974 · 22/03/2023 15:04

Goodread1 · 22/03/2023 14:51

You don't have to put up with a partner snoring like a night Express train ,

You don't have to put up with a Dutchie oven as a laugh by certain immature male

You don't have to put up with skid shit marks or streaks on your lovely clean white bed sheets

You don't have to put up with noxious toxic smells from your partners Arse

You don't have to put up with stinking reeking to high heavens dirty socks,

Dirty shit encrusted dirty underwear on the bedroom floor

You don't have to dodgy suspect wet patch

You don't have to put up with him Breathing oxygen At All. !

That's All really I think 🤔

Bloody hell, I think I'd be looking at separate houses

Cherrysoup · 22/03/2023 15:44

I’m not kept awake by DH’s snoring. Omg, I could have cheerfully gone to a hotel last night! We are very fortunate to have a spare room where I was able to escape.

scoobycute · 22/03/2023 21:49

Goodread1 · 22/03/2023 14:51

You don't have to put up with a partner snoring like a night Express train ,

You don't have to put up with a Dutchie oven as a laugh by certain immature male

You don't have to put up with skid shit marks or streaks on your lovely clean white bed sheets

You don't have to put up with noxious toxic smells from your partners Arse

You don't have to put up with stinking reeking to high heavens dirty socks,

Dirty shit encrusted dirty underwear on the bedroom floor

You don't have to dodgy suspect wet patch

You don't have to put up with him Breathing oxygen At All. !

That's All really I think 🤔

Your fella incontinent?

Robots1Humans0 · 22/03/2023 22:24

Goodread1 · 22/03/2023 14:51

You don't have to put up with a partner snoring like a night Express train ,

You don't have to put up with a Dutchie oven as a laugh by certain immature male

You don't have to put up with skid shit marks or streaks on your lovely clean white bed sheets

You don't have to put up with noxious toxic smells from your partners Arse

You don't have to put up with stinking reeking to high heavens dirty socks,

Dirty shit encrusted dirty underwear on the bedroom floor

You don't have to dodgy suspect wet patch

You don't have to put up with him Breathing oxygen At All. !

That's All really I think 🤔

This has got me in absolute bits 🤣🤣🤣 but yes also sleep separately most of the time , it just makes sense for everyone to get a good nights sleep?!

Hoolihan · 22/03/2023 22:28

Sleeping alone is one of the many good things about getting divorced. I relish the peace and space and comfort every single night.

Howtostart · 22/03/2023 22:34

My DH and I live in different houses about 1.5 miles apart . Initially this was when my son was a teenager and I refused to side with DH (not his dad) DH is a tidy freak and I and kids are just normal ... that has all long since passed and all get in like a house on fire but we did 12 years together and now 7 years apart and absolutely bloody love it.

See DH 3 or 4 times a week.. sometimes all week sometimes not at all .. but I see him (and he sees me) when we want to. It's like date night every week and I still get excited to spend the night with him.. but my God do I LOVE my alone nights !
So many friends are confused and describe us as separated.. it couldn't be further from the truth . We are extremely married. Speak on the phone multiple times a day. Share holidays, future plans , etc just don't want to be in each other's spaces ..

DuesToTheDirt · 22/03/2023 22:45

MinnieMountain · 22/03/2023 13:49

I can do what I want to occupy myself when I have insomnia rather than sneaking downstairs to the sofa.
The cat comes for a cuddle when I get my first coffee.

Yeah, I share a bed with DH and when I'm awake in the night I lie bored for what feels like hours, or have to get out of bed and sit in a cold room somewhere.

At least if I'm in the middle of a kindle book it's not so bad, as I can read that under the covers.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 22/03/2023 22:51

My DP works away a lot and I do miss him but god, I love having the bed to myself! I like it super cosy with the electric blanket on, and making myself a little nest of duvet. He also snores which can be very annoying.

On work days when we’re both home he is up and out earlier than me, so feeds the cat who tends to come in with me after she’s been out for a wander. She climbs on my back like a little baby monkey, and cuddles into me until my alarm goes.

I love them both very much but the cat is often a nicer sleeping partner!

Ragwort · 22/03/2023 22:54

Long term married but very happily have separate bedrooms ... couldn't ever consider sharing again ...