To hate it when posters decide to focus on the minutiae of a thread?

[Milkmore]

So I have to use a hypothetical example so I’m not making TAATs. But for example someone posts at the end of their tether with parenting and amongst countless other issues one of their children have chucked sand around and they’ve spent the afternoon trying to hoover it up. And then posters decide to ‘help’ by telling the OP to get a new hoover, often delivered with ‘job done’ and the face rather than actually supporting with the whole issue!

It happened to me recently on a thread (not that example) and drives me mad. AIBU and should expect barked two word solutions to all difficulties in life?

I also get cross when a load of posters tell an Op that she should urgently seek counselling. Usually when it is fairly clear that she is extremely poor. Counselling is usually not free (the counsellor needs to be paid) and, if it is, there is a fairly serious waitlist for it.

I saw that one too, was pretty derailing and I felt sorry for the OP.

The ones that get me are the ones with awful neighbours and 10 posters are like "move" like it's that simple.

I hate it when someone is at their witsend with say their teenaged and a person will post "parent properly"

Agree, excellent word choice!

The bizarre panic that swept over the "radiation" thread a while back that resulted in the thread being deleted was MN gold.

YANBU op. I wrote a - probably too complicated - post about exclusion of people with learning disabilities from mainstream life and lots of disabled-specific activities too. I got post after post telling me the solution was Riding for the Disabled, and going into depth trying to work out why I hadn't sorted this sooner, why I wasn't more open to RDA and why I hadn't done proper research about it...

I thought, oh well, perhaps they have a point - three weeks later I still have no response from anyone at the RDA so they are clearly not the solution.

But my post was so much bigger than just one niche pastime and honestly it just felt like more exclusion - don't talk about your issues, go over there to the one sanctioned activity, who cares about the rest.

Surely you mean a vacuum cleaner OP. Hoover is a brand name.

<runs away very fast>

I get annoyed on threads about celebrities, sports people etc and someone comes on to post "I have never heard of them" or "I have no interest in football". It's as if they think the question has been asked to them personally and requires them to respond!

Another one - on a thread about an issue that might not be life threatening but still requires discussion, when people pop up with the tired old "If this is all you have to worry about then you need to get a life". It's as if they genuinely think people are incapable of having several problems!

I know exactly what you mean and I see it all the time. "I'm a full time carer to my 3 DC with disabilities and the other day while they were watching Cbeebies my neighbour across the road exposed himself at me through the window and then set fire to my house. AIBU to think that the police should have responded when I called them?"

First answer: "Another one using the TV as a babysitter I see"

I genuinely would love to know what gets into people's heads, either to spectacularly miss the original question or to put the boot in!

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Oh me too! truly it is the 2020s descendant of the famous MN spa day

just mentioned they might like a glass of punch with their picky tea.

Wtf is ‘picky tea’?

Me too! I especially love it when the seemingly inconsequential detail turns out to be important eg
OP: My DH hates my new coat. It's blue with a fur collar and buttons.
Poster: Are the buttons in the shape of whales? I know I had a coat like that and it upset some people.
OP: Yy you're right! And DH did lose his entire family in a freak whaling accident.

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I remember your thread - the number of posters who decided that all your child’s social and emotional isolation had one easy solution and that was Riding for the Disabled was INFURIATING!

Ha! Yes! It was utterly bizarre. Thank you @Milkmore 😊

Oh, absolutely agree!
There was a thread about the OP's child who had got a detention and she was worried about it and was asking advice as to whether she should contact the teacher. I responded (having a 17 and 16 year old...been there, done it) and told her not to worry...my son regularly has detentions and usually gets one for chatting too much...I was trying to show the OP that it doesn't have to be an 'evil' act to get one.
A poster picked up on that and gave me a lecture about my child being disruptive and I should take it more seriously, parent better etc. as if I don't! I didn't go into detail as the post wasn't about me or my son, I was just trying to empathise! But the poster thought I was a crap mother and didn't care!

It’s been getting to me, too. It’s absolutely horrendous.

This one ^

Aye 😆😆

I read a thread and a poster did an AIBU about being sad she wasn't going to have any more children. So many posters piled on telling her she should be grateful she could have kids in the first place, as not everyone is so lucky.

I'm 40 and had my last baby last year and think it's totally normal to mourn the end of such an important era. Being sad that your pregnancy and baby days are fully in the past doesn't make anyone ungrateful. It was a horrible way for posters to invalidate and shame some perfect normal, valid feelings. I felt really angry for the OP. I have such bittersweet feelings about never being pregnant again and everything I do this time around will be for the last time ever. I hate this faux stoicism on mumsnet where nobody is allowed emotions or nuance.