I hate pregnancy

[pregnantwoes]

There, I've said it. I've been wanting to say it for weeks but couldn't bring myself to after suffering several miscarriages and many years of trying.

I cannot stand this anymore, I'm 30 weeks and on the edge. I cannot do this for another 10 weeks.

I feel ill constantly, like I've had the flu for the past 25 weeks.

I have hyperemesis, I weigh a stone less than what I did at my booking appointment at 8 weeks, I haven't been to work since 10 weeks, my DH is working 6 or 7 day weeks to provide for us and I'm so lonely, bored and fed up.

I have no motivation to do anything, I wish somebody would put me to sleep until baby is born.

On top of migraines, sickness, nausea, diarrhoea, shitting myself (yes I've shit myself twice due to uncontrollable diarrhoea), weeing myself if I turn over too fast in my sleep, sleep? What is that now I've hit 30 weeks? Im up 1-5 every night, I now have piles and my vagina is swollen too.

No infections, urine sample and swab fine.

Mental health team are useless. I walk my dog for an hour every day and that's all I do. I might put a load of laundry on, wipe down the kitchen sides and toilet but see friends? Nope. Take myself into town for a wander around the shops? Nope.

I don't have the energy to even wash my hair. I feel disgusting, my hair is the worst condition it's ever been and my once clear skin is now bumpy and shit.

Please tell me I will be okay once baby is born? I feel like I'm going to be like this forever.

Also sick of everyone (particularly MIL) telling me I'll forget about it and be pregnant with the next within a year. I don't ever want to be pregnant again.

Pregnancy is shit.

For me weeks 34-38 were the easiest so I hope you get some reprieve soon.

You will be better after baby is born. For the first two weeks you'll feel exhausted but better, then it gets tough again for a couple of months, but you'll get through it.

I agree OP. It was absolutely shit and at about 30 weeks DH said he was having a vasectomy so I couldn't change my mind and do it again (after I had said I couldn't face doing it again). He could see the state I was in. Not being able to go more than five minutes without needing to pee, yes, the incontinence. Weirdly no-one seems to tell you this stuff although maybe that's for the best. It was horrible. 22 years later, I have one DS! However, what I will say, is I had a CS at 39 weeks and I felt absolutely brilliant within a couple of days. This will pass, but I completely get why you might not do it again as it feels like a very, very long time when you're going through it.

@GoodChat I can deal with little sleep when I don't have sickness, aches, back pain, vagina pain, diarrhoea and I know my DH will be doing his fair share.

I just feel utterly shit and ungrateful and like I'm the worst Mum already for feeling like this 😔 I waited so long for these moments and I spend my days wishing the weeks away.

Fucking hated every single second of pregnancy.

Definitely not being unreasonable! I’m also 30 weeks, I don’t have it quite as bad as you but I also hate being pregnant. I keep telling myself it will be worth it, and this is my second so I know it will but I hated it the first time around. So much that it’s taken me 10 years to do it again!

I can’t stand being so uncomfortable in my own body, feeling so unfit. There is no chance I could walk for an hour, the pain in my pelvis would be too much and I wouldn’t be able to move for days afterwards. Can’t wait to start maternity leave but I’m trying to hold off for asking as possible.

Oh I'm sorry op, I know how you feel. My first pregnancy was awful.

I was diagnosed at 28 weeks with gestational diabetes, so I couldn't eat anything I fancied at all. I lost so much weight because of my strict diet. I also couldn't sleep as I had carpal tunnel syndrome. By the end of my pregnancy I couldn't even open up my hands, they were clenched shut. I was swollen all over, which turned out to be undiagnosed pre-eclampsia and was induced at 36 weeks. I really thought it was never going to come to the end and I'd be pregnant forever. But it did end eventually. And as soon as my baby was born, all those awful symptoms disappeared and I felt like me again.

I know it's hard to think of the positives when you're so sleep deprived, in pain and feeling unwell, but I promise you, you can do it. Before you know it you will have your baby in your arms, and it will have been worth every second!

@Yetanothernewidentity I'm likely to have a C-section due to placenta covering my cervix and I'm so happy about it. I just want her out ASAP.

I'm just so sad 😢

@FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee helps to know I'm not alone and not the only person in the world to feel like it, I feel like a terrible person most days.

Yep. My bump is so high I can’t breathe or sit up properly. Everytime I bend over food and acid regurgitates up my oesophagus. I am shattered after ten hours at work on my feet and it’s only Monday 😞

@MumofOneplusOneD sorry you're suffering too ☹️ I'm going to be stopping walking an hour soon as I can't even manage that without crying when I get home, I'm 29 and feel 90.

I hear you. Im 30 weeks currently with such a sore pelvis when sitting, standing or lying on side to sleep. Not sure how I'll cope with another 10 weeks of this

I hated being pregnant.

@Kam610 thank you, I'm sorry to hear you suffered too. I can't wait to meet her, I just hate this part and I'm sad as I always thought I'd have 2. There is no hope for that, she'll be an only child.

Pregnancy is a nightmare shitstorm of horror. I have nothing but empathy.

@Moraxella are you able to take maternity leave now? Or not an option? Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish too x

@Plimsongrey the worst part of it is knowing I don't have a choice but to do it for another 10 weeks (possibly less but don't want to get my hopes up!) sorry you're having a horrible time too, it's awful

You aren't a bad person or a bad mam. I had 6 miscarriages before my first full-term baby, and I hated every second of my pregnancy. Being pregnant is crap. If you had all those symptoms for some other reason, you'd get a tonne of sympathy and you wouldn't feel bad hating it. Hang in there, OP, you'll feel so much better soon xx

@PinkiOcelot 😔😔😔

@GandhiDeclaredWarOnYou you've summed it up perfectly!

34 weeks tomorrow and I am so so so done! This is DS2 so you'd have thought I'd have learnt.. section scheduled for 28th April but I went at 37+6 with DS so I'm hoping for earlier!

That's a good point about DH. There's very little he can do to help you physically at the moment, but he'll be able to do the heavy lifting when baby's here.

You're not a bad mom for wanting the pregnancy to be over. You want a child, not the shit your body has to go through to get there.

You're doing fantastically. Pregnancy is shit and nobody warns you about it because they just talk about how wonderful it is when baby's here - which it is.

Yep hated it too! Weeks on end of daily headaches, nausea, exhaustion, insomnia and i used to cry nightly at how bad the heartburn was 😭 hang in there 💜

pregnantwies, my CS was brilliant. Hurt a lot on day 2 after all the mega pain relief had worn off, but by day 3 I felt so healthy, energised and just great. All the crappy pregnancy related stuff just disappeared. Btw, don't think DS now cares that he's an only child, if that's what you eventually decide, and he's pretty well adjusted. I do remember though, when moaning to my male GP ( in those days it was alternate appointments with GP and midwife) he told me to enjoy it! Don't think he meant that literally but, well...

@MsFrog thank you and I'm sorry to hear about your losses too. It's all a big emotional and physical strain ☹️

@Dinosaurpoopy I'm hoping they give me a C-section date at my scan next week, at least I'll be able to count down. Sorry to hear you're feeling done too, it's so hard x