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To think he might be "the one" after 1 date?

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GodzillaManilla · 20/03/2023 18:14

I've been single for about 7 years so I've been on probably hundreds of dates lol (only in the last year I've been dating with the intention of a serious relationship though)

I'm on a dating app and starting chatting to a guy who definitely isn't my usual type physically but there was something drawing me to him, and I do still find him attractive, so we started talking and things were flowing, exchanged numbers, spoke every day all day for about a week before meeting up for a drink at a local pub.
We spent the next 7 hours laughing and talking, the pub eventually closed for the night so I called a taxi, we stood and chatted outside until it arrived, shared a kiss and I went home. We carried on texting for another hour or two and have arranged to meet up tomorrow for bowling and a meal.

Something just feels... different this time. As soon as I sat down something in my brain was almost like "yep he's the one".

Am I being totally unreasonable here haha? Does this actually happen in real life, or should I maybe see a neurologist because I've finally lost the plot??

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IAteAllTheTomatoes · 20/03/2023 20:54

I have thought this twice!

First time, we had a 10 year relationship.
Second one, ghosted me after 3 months!!

I really hope you are right though.

Teachersright · 20/03/2023 21:05

I might be being cynical but you can't know after one date.
It's lovely it worked out for many people, and it might for you, but you don't know anything about him.
I think there's a lot to be said for proceeding at caution.
Sometimes people can put up a great front but it can hide a more unpleasant side.
Equally rocky starts, slow burners can mean you get to know someone properly.

Devilsadvocaat0 · 20/03/2023 21:56

I do think dating is very different now so sometimes people who have been married or with partners for a long time operated in a different environment to now. With OLD there is, IMO for a lot of men, seemingly much more choice with new women just a swipe away. I think this is why it’s important to be cautious.

Twinedpeaks · 20/03/2023 22:03

I knew on day one that he was the one for me. A year later and he ghosted me.

You only ever hear success stories of intuition!

bizzywiththefizzy · 20/03/2023 22:12

It's definitely a good sign that you're getting on like a house on fire .Just wanting to be in each others company and wanting to chat and laugh all night .
But you must try to suss out if he feels the same and loves your company and hold back on sex as lust can cloud your judgment .

MrsRandom123 · 20/03/2023 22:24

TheGoogleMum · 20/03/2023 18:22

Sounds great! I hope it works out for you OP. Might be better not to tell him in case it scares him off though (unless he says something like it!)

Similar to me - 19 years together & married 15 of them. I was only 20 at the time & most people said i was too young to know!

MrsRandom123 · 20/03/2023 22:24

MrsRandom123 · 20/03/2023 22:24

Similar to me - 19 years together & married 15 of them. I was only 20 at the time & most people said i was too young to know!

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No idea how i quoted the wrong post! Arrgg

DramaAlpaca · 20/03/2023 22:35

DH and I both knew from our first date, we told each other then too. We'd known each other for a while as we had the same group of friends but suddenly something just clicked between us. Still together 35 years later.

Jellifulfruit · 20/03/2023 22:37

It sounds exciting! Can’t wait to hear how it goes tomorrow 🥰

BecauseTheOnlyWayIsUp · 20/03/2023 22:40

I absolutely believe this is true. My story, I joined a new school (yes, SCHOOL) and saw my DH sat in the corner of the common room. Instantly felt something even though I'd never spoken to him, didn't know his name, just knew in my gut something was going to happen and it was going to be big. Low and behold about two weeks later we danced at the school ball. That was 22 years, a marriage and three children ago.

That said, things are very different now. So go slow and don't let your heart cloud your head.

Lovely though OP, enjoy it 😌

Sunflowers9090 · 20/03/2023 22:48

It does indeed.

Knew DH was my lobster from that very first date.

11 years, very happily married with two nippers.

Couldn't be without him, just knew immediately.

OldSkoolLikeHappyShopper · 20/03/2023 22:48

I felt like that too with my DP. Just knew almost instantly he was my person and I didn’t want to be without him. And I’d kissed a shit load of frogs before so it wasn’t like I was a naive child, definitely been around the block a fair few times 😂. He didn’t tick any of my boxes of what I thought I was looking for, but just shows I was completely wrong.

Three years later and we haven’t had a single argument, and I fall more and more in love with him every day.

Toddlerteaplease · 20/03/2023 22:48

My mum knows she'd marry my dad the moment she set eyes in him. (She's usually very sensible and level headed) they've been joined at the hip for 45 years. (Very happily, I
Might add.)

PutinTheFuckingBasket · 20/03/2023 23:12

It felt different with DH on our first date too, for both of us. We still took it slow and didn't move in together for two years, but that initial feeling never changed - it was just so so so easy :)

Milkand2sugarsplease · 20/03/2023 23:13

I met DH at 13 and he was my first crush - well I assumed it was a crush and I'd get over it.

We grew up and both moved away - both had other lives - until those ended, we ended up back in touch and then together and then married!! Happier than I've ever been!

If only13yo me had had more sense....

Novatherova · 20/03/2023 23:14

Happened to me.

8 years later, engaged, one cat and trying for baby.

Good luck xxxxx

IHateLegDay · 20/03/2023 23:15

After a about 2 weeks, I knew DH was the one. 8 years and 2 kids later, we're still very much in love.

Good luck 😊

surreygirl1987 · 20/03/2023 23:31

Aw! Good luck! Update us!

howmanybicycles · 20/03/2023 23:37

That's what I thought about my husband. We moved in together 7 months later and started trying for a baby. Been together 18 years now. I'd say you can't really know until your first argument though. Or significant disagreement. Some people turn into arseholes at that point.

dunkery · 20/03/2023 23:55

I had 2 dates with my DH and only spent around 7 hours with him and told my mum the next day 'this is the one'. We had hardly any music, hobbies or interests in common but It was like I really had no say in the matter, I just knew I would marry him. Two years later we married and have been for 41 years now.

Crispynoodle · 21/03/2023 00:05

I knew after 1 meeting at a party, 28 years later 23 years married he's still the one

Capricornone1 · 21/03/2023 00:12

I can certainly happen OP, it did to me OH. It was meant to be just a ONS lol
4.5 years later and we are still together (both in our mid/late 40s)

Capricornone1 · 21/03/2023 00:16

Capricornone1 · 21/03/2023 00:12

I can certainly happen OP, it did to me OH. It was meant to be just a ONS lol
4.5 years later and we are still together (both in our mid/late 40s)

*it

EmmaGrundyForPM · 21/03/2023 00:34

Not me, but DH says he knew I was The One after one date. It took me a bit longer but we were engaged within 5 months.

We've now been married for 29 years. It's worked for us.

MrsAvocet · 21/03/2023 00:35

I met my DH on a blind date set up by a mutual friend. When I got home my flatmate asked me what he was like and was very amused when I replied "Oh he's alright. I'll probably marry him." Which I did, over 30years ago now. No fireworks or wild falling in love at first sight, but I just knew. So yes, it can happen.

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