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Is anyone else just in a fucking foul mood today?

29 replies

JMSA · 19/03/2023 19:27

Ordered pizzas for collection as a Mother's Day treat for my kids. They're all "too tired" to walk round for it (5 mins, tops), so I end up having to. They got me a couple of wee gifts, but I'd much rather have nice actions. It's all just so disappointingly mediocre. They can hardly even be arsed talking to me.

I have 101 chores to do tonight, am menopausal and I fucking KNOW I'm being unreasonable, but I'm teary and pissed off anyway. Kids are 21, 16 and 13 and I'm a single mum. They're in their rooms chomping pizza while I'm trying to summon up the energy to do my chores. I hate Sundays. And it's back to work tomorrow.
Sorry for being such a miserable cow but I just wanted to vent for two minutes!

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Isheabastard · 19/03/2023 19:47

Bless you. Sometimes life gets so hard.

If it’s any consolation, now my Dd has moved out and lives with her boyfriend she makes much more effort on Mother’s Day.

Id suggest you try and squeeze a bit of time for yourself over the coming week and if your kids have less done for them, they’ll live.

Menopause is hard on the emotions

Notimeforaname · 19/03/2023 19:49

Give them any jobs they can do.

Geilenk · 19/03/2023 19:56

Awww. You have my sympathies. Same here. A load of little chores to get done before watching Bake Off and teenage kids say they are 'too tired' to help.
They are currently playing on their phones... and I'm trying not to blow my top and ruin the day.
I don't think you sound like a miserable cow at all!

mac1974 · 19/03/2023 20:09

I always get a bit grumpy on Mother's Day. I feel better now I've had some cake & wine!

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JMSA · 19/03/2023 20:10

Thank you, you lovely people! And Happy Mother's Day Flowers

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Thedogscollar · 19/03/2023 20:10

@JMSA I hear you💐

Magenta82 · 19/03/2023 20:22

DP cleaned the kitchen while I watched 17 month old DD and cleaned the rest of downstairs. It's the first bit of housework he's done in months. (We both work full time).

He didn't clean under the microwave or toaster, didn't touch the floor and then he threw away the 6 crazy expensive hot cross buns I got from the artisan bakery yesterday.

When I asked about them he told me there was too much mess in the kitchen so they needed throwing out. No apology, no offer to go and get me even 1 replacement.

Also I started my period today.

mac1974 · 19/03/2023 20:23

I've come to bed with wine, my book and Pringles. Best part of the day. Cheers to all us grumpy mums out there.
Next year my friends & I have decided we are going to a spa together for the day.

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JMSA · 19/03/2023 20:23

Gah, you must be feeling pretty murderous!

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JMSA · 19/03/2023 20:25

mac1974 · 19/03/2023 20:23

I've come to bed with wine, my book and Pringles. Best part of the day. Cheers to all us grumpy mums out there.
Next year my friends & I have decided we are going to a spa together for the day.

I spent the day at home as I was doing something last Mother's Day. So I kept my promise to be home with my daughters this year. Wish I hadn't bothered Grin

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JMSA · 19/03/2023 20:27

To be fair to them, a lot of this stuff is more to do with me and how I'm feeling, rather than it just being about them. That said, roll on the flying of the nest Grin

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Ireallywantsomechips · 19/03/2023 20:42

Oh that’s really rubbish OP!

I’m in a foul mood because I’ve got an infection in my c section wound which has been going on for ages and keep being fobbed off with what to do for it. Last night my body decided it’s had enough and I’ve felt really poorly today. Great, couldn’t have waited a day or at least started last week 😒 Hopefully I’ll at least get some sodding antibiotics for it tomorrow.

Nellieinthebarn · 19/03/2023 20:45

I'm sorry you're having a shit day. Mine was going fine until I saw my own mother's facebook update how she went out to lunch with her stepdaughter for her mothers day treat, and how lovely it had been. No mention of the gift and flowers I sent to be delivered today. I live 200 miles away, I would have taken her out if I could've. I know I'm being petty and unreasonable, but she has history of making me feel less of her child than her stepdaughters, and treating other peoples children better than me throughout my life, and this really hurt today. And now it looks like I didnt do anything, and the stepdaughter is wonderful. I'm now hurt and cross with myself for still letting it bother me.

VeryLittleOwl · 19/03/2023 20:48

Yes, DH has had really bad toothache for weeks but is refusing to go to the dentist to get it looked at. He has also pulled a muscle in his back and my God, you'd think no one in the world had ever experienced pain before. He's decided to self-medicate with whisky and is currently in a serious sulk because he went to bed at 8pm and I have refused to go up with him and stroke his back. I love him dearly, but when he's not feeling well he turns into the most gigantic man-baby.

QueenCamilla · 19/03/2023 20:50

Me. I actually wanted to have nothing to do with the Mothers Day today. I just wanted to crack on with all the tasks that are giving me stress by not being done instead of trying to relax, listen to inane chatter from the kids (about computer games) and having my Ex to come for a visit.
I just wanted to slob in a paint-covered bathrobe, break open some floorboards for the plumber coming round tomorrow and cut my toenails. I don't even deserve a Mother's day card 😂

Albertus · 19/03/2023 20:53

You should just treat yourself on Mother’s Day if nobody will treat you! Do that next year.

clpsmum · 19/03/2023 20:55

I've been sulking all day and tbh I don't know why!! I'm a single mum to three boys and just feel like shit! Tomorrow is. New day x

Furrydogmum · 19/03/2023 20:59

Ha! I'm a Peri menopausal monster at the mo so even when I think I'm happy it can change in a split second 😬I don't really have any expectations around mother's day so I can't be disappointed but I can still be angry for no apparent reason. Happy Mother's day to you 🥂

MyEasterEggs · 19/03/2023 21:00

I’m feeling sorry for myself too. 7 months pregnant, spent the weekend alone (with sinusitis) while OH visited his mum with DD, and she came back with a card. I put so much effort into a gift for HIS mum as well as her 60th birthday present and she messaged me earlier to say how loved and spoiled she feels. Genuinely happy for her but also angry for me 😭🤬🤪

I’m the type of person who really thinks gifts through. I also spend forever f*climb wrapping them and am beginning to wonder why I bother. I could go on 🤣

laurenlodge · 19/03/2023 21:00

They didn't even eat the pizza you bought them with you?
I'd feel crap about that too - hopefully they'll buck their ideas up next year.

BrainOnFire · 19/03/2023 21:01

Happy Mother's Day OP!

megletthesecond · 19/03/2023 21:04

I am. I bit DS's head off and gave him a ratty lecture about too much gaming and not enough revision. I'm worried sick about his exams and he couldn't care less. Have now confiscated one laptop.

Ilovemycatalot · 19/03/2023 21:06

Same old shit for me. Cooking dinner and washing up! Was meant to hoover but couldn’t be arsed and used Mother’s Day as an excuse!

SweetCoriander · 19/03/2023 21:09

Flipping heck, @Magenta82, I'd lose my rag over the binning of my hot cross buns for such a stupid reason. Such a waste and so petty.

Mammyloveswine · 19/03/2023 21:11

Oh @JMSA id be pissed off too! Not like your kids are really young! Id expect more especially from the 21 year old!!

Sending 💕💕💕