OH didn't put my name on MIL mothers day card.

[GG1986]

Been with my OH for 14 years, 2 children and always got on with MIL, however he has put everyone's name on her card, apart from mine! I always include him on my parents cards for everything birthdays, mothers day etc, yet he usually leaves me off and I don't understand why, but it's actually upsetting. AIBU? Or should I just get over it and not give a f**k?

I think it’s nice to put both names on a birthday card or Christmas card but I would never put both names on a Mother’s Day card. Mother’s Day for me personally is about the connection I have with my own child or my own mother. It’s strange he put the children’s names on though. Also, if my ds partner no longer had their mother I would be absolutely delighted to find their name on my card it that’s what they wanted to do and would gladly reciprocate but that would be their call. But she’s not your mum so I wouldn’t out my name on the card because it’s just one day that’s about her relationship with her child.

😂 this!

Didn’t occur to me put my husbands name on the card for my mum. I normally do for birthday cards but think Mother’s Day is different.

Just stop putting his name on anything

Yep 👏

I can't begin to imagine receiving a card supposedly from my son or daughter, that had been written entirely by their spouse or partner.

To have their sentiment written by someone else just negates it. What mother would care about their own child handwriting standards?

I'd far, far rather have my own offspring's scrawl on my Mother's Day card then someone else's faultless penmanship.

I've always been the designated card writer in our relationship, except for when it comes to MIL. I once read some moving words written by a woman who was so depressed about the fact that after her son got married she never saw his handwriting again.
DH has awful handwriting compared to mine, but he always writes on cards to his mother. No way would I write, nor add my name to a Mother's Day card for MIL.

I made this mess up today. I'm close to my MIL and my wife always puts my name on cards from us. Including mothers day it turns out. I sent my mother some flowers, coordinating with my siblings and nephew who whe cares for. There's 5 of us and I had to check twice to make sure I'd remembered everyone. Didn't occur to put my wife as they don't have the relationship I do with my MIL and frankly was more focused on getting organised and not missing the delivery deadline

SHe's not the OP's children's mother either but their names are on there!

My name doesn't get put on DH's card to his mum. His name doesn't go on mine to my mum.

But if your name is usually on there, I'd think it was a bit weird.

I put DHs (and the kids) names of birthday cards etc.
But mothers day cards come just from me - My Mum only has one child (left alive).
I actually asked DH today if he'd sent his Mum anything - and he didnt know id sent flowers.

She's not your mum?