There was an event at my DCs school today for Mother’s Day. Most of Key Stage 2 where there (so most of Years 3 to 6) plus younger ones with siblings in KS2 and over 95% of DCs class, and then around 75-80% of the other 2 Y4 classes – DC is 8, almost 9 but one of the youngest in their class (July born).
My mum came to this event with me.
Halfway through there was a bit of quiet while the Y4s got themselves organised for their next bit on stage and my mum loudly asks me “So which teacher is Mrs X (Headteacher) that (DCs name) doesn’t like very much? The one who told them off when they did X”
My DC went bright red and refused to stay on stage, ran off crying and didn’t show their face for the rest of the event.
My mum has refused to apologise and says that it’s just what she does and she wasn’t lying as DC doesn’t like their HT much – DC does like the headteacher but on one particular day DC had had an awful day and been sent to the HT to calm down (not as a punishment) and DC didn’t like that as they felt watched and even if DC didn’t like the HT there was no need for my mum to ask me so publicly and loudly, she could of asked about it after the event.
DC has refused to go to the Mother’s Day Lunch because they think the HT and/or classmates will see them and ask them. DC is really private and doesn’t like anyone else knowing that they even exist, they have friends at school though and where quite upset and embarrassed. I’m a single parent so had to bring DC home.
Mums now saying DC has ruined Mother’s Day by being a brat, and DC could have just let it go because the HT doesn’t care, and it was only the truth. I've tried explaining that it's not about the HT herself, DC is fine with them, DC just did not need most of the school knowing and there was no need to ask me. Mum refuses to accept she was in the wrong and in fact laughed and said "That's just me, take me or leave me"
So WIBU Mum or DC?
I of course will not be inviting mum to any future events.