To be upset about not getting a Mother's Day card?

Grab your child do a handprint, do this until they're big enough to do this/ make you something at school.

Urgh, I feel for you. My husband did nothing for my first Mother's Day (yet managed to buy for his mum).
I felt like shit

You know OP, there really does seem to be a race to the bottom mentality about Mother’s Day on Mumsnet which I just don’t understand. I’d have thought that here, of ALL places, posters would be all about understanding how important it is to so many women to have some thought and consideration shown to them today of all days.

Frankly, your husband is a twat. A thoughtless twat who couldn’t put himself out to buy a fucking card for the woman he’s supposed to love. Your child won’t be able to buy you a card for a few years so of COURSE it falls to your husband to do it for them. That he didn’t just shows him to be a prick. And I’m really sorry about that.

He will be like this in other areas of your lives, no doubt. You deserve better.

I think it is a day to celebrate and acknowledge and perhaps express gratitude for someone’s role as a mother, all something that I think is relevant for a partner to do when children are little.

Nothing odd at all about a father buying a Mother’s Day card from his children . @HusbandKeepsSnoring I hope you make the same effort for him on Father’s Day ie none .

YANBU he should have gotten you a card for your first mothers day. This is the first year I haven't gotten a shop bought card but my 2 kids made me a card each as they are older now. Definitely tell your husband how disappointed you are and make sure he knows what you expect next year.

And as for the comment about husbands not buying cards for their wives, ridiculous. Of course husbands buy the cards from the kids, until they are old enough to sort these things themselves.

Oh! my DH seemed to have missed the memo that he was supposed to do fuck all and on my first Mother’s Day bought me a cashmere dressing gown. Best gift ever. I’m not saying this to make the OP feel bad but to hi light the erroneous assertion promoted here that men don’t make any effort for their wives. If they don’t appreciate you pushing a whole human person out of your vagina ( or having a big operation ) to bring his offspring into the world then he’s a pretty sad specimen.

That a really poor show OP, I’m sorry 💐

I hear you OP. It's shit.

On the other hand, my DH has been reminding my 19yr old DS (lives at home) and even gone as far as buying flowers from our eldest DS who's away at uni. But has made out they're directly from him. They're clearly not.

I know both DSs wouldn't have remembered if he'd not been on at them. And I feel like shit.

Not even a phone call yet and it's nearly 4pm.

I know neither of them are bothered about cards, but they should know by now that & I AM!

It hurts, really fucking hurts 😢

I don't think it's worth anything if you have to demand it and the only reason they're getting it for you is to avoid being shouted at.

Each to there own first was born just before Father’s Day told wife not to bother as DS had no awareness at and it just seemed pointless

loved the few years where they’d done something for you that actually meant something
now there older tell them not to bother

no ones right or wrong at the value they place on it but you can’t expect everyone to have the same view

I think that your husband should want to buy you these things. If I had to ask I'd be angry. I think you should have got something but I don't think you should have to ask.

It's not that I think she should be mega grateful for that. I just thought it might not make her feel so sad if she thought about that. I did also put than I did not think she was being unreasonable. Happy Mother's Day OP. When your child gets older I'm sure you'll have some much better Mother's days

This.. yet another lazy useless person who hides behind "doesn't really see the point of cards" but will go out for a meal to celebrate Mother's Day for his mum. I bet he didn't organise the meal. His mum probably had to do it, but to pass it off as a treat for you, something you should be grateful for is utterly lazy "clever argument" crap.
You have to tell him OP ...
And its not about him not seeing the point of cards. Its about your DC seeing the point in you having a day where they celebrate you. If they are too young to organise this for them selves he has to learn to organise it and pay for it for them.
Children love doing this. They love having a special day and giving their own surprise presents. If he does this he is teaching them to do this for their future families and each other and teaching them that family members should celebrate each other. His negative shit attitude is denying them that.

and the kind of dad that says "its just a made up commercial holiday designed to make you spend money" is a grinch and will behave the same at Christmas, Birthdays, Easter etc...but happily expect presents and cards themselves. These are special times in children's lives, times that they will remember. He needs to think of that.

We have no control over our feelings. If we are hurt we are hurt. I never get Mothers Day cards so have a lump in my throat again today. What is the message behind not sending a card? I do not care if you are upset. I do not care about your hurt feelings. It's insulting. Offensive but hey another day tomorrow and I do have a loving, caring husband who by the way didn't send his mother cards either. When I asked why he said he didn't like her. Therein lies the sting in the tail. One day I will resign myself to the fact my sons do not like me.

YANBU - I'm a bit upset and our baby isn't here yet... I told my husband last weekend that it's Mother's Day this weekend, and specifically said that I would like a card "from bump" as cheesy as it is but it's taken us 3 years and three lots of IVF to get here and it may be my only opportunity to get a card from bump. It was important to me so I didn't want to assume he'd get it so that's why I asked.

He didn't do anything, all I wanted was a card :( admittedly we had a wedding 4 hours away this weekend but it was a small 6 person registry office wedding so he didn't have to do anything. You're definitely not being unreasonable!

I don’t think I’ve ever bought my mum a Mother’s Day card.
I used to make one when I was little.

I find it a bit odd if your DH buys you a Mother’s Day card anyway because you’re not his mum.

What’s done is done now and there’s no point dwelling on it but next year you can ask him to buy you a card if that’s what you would like.

Couldn't agree more!!!

I don’t see the point in this.

This isn’t a sign that the child is appreciative of what their mum does because someone else bought the card for them.

A card is literally a token to say oh look I remembered it’s Mother’s Day and I’ve bought you this so now I can continue to take you for granted.

For me if it was bought out of habit just to keep you happy and shut you up from moaning then that’s not thoughtful.

I've never heard of parents dressing their children. Is that a thing? Don't people just wait until children start dressing themselves?

Your point sounds just as stupid.

Adults tend to help young children do things they can't do, and couldn't even say that they wanted to do.

And children learn by having actions modelled to them.

To be fair I never send my mum a mother's day card because it will just go straight to the landfill. This year I got her a coat from Patagonia and a diffuser from Oliver Bonas

I think if @oldmum80 had got an expensive coat and diffuser she probably wouldn’t be complaining about the lack of a card.

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