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"Baby" as a petname for my kids

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ourflagmeansdeath · 18/03/2023 22:23

I feel as if I'm not being unreasonable but I just wanted to check.

I call all 3 of my children the pet term "baby" - 19 year old son, 14 year old daughter and 5 year old daughter.

I met an old friend recently and when I referred to my 14 year old as this she looked me horrified. And asked if I said this to all my children. I said yes, it's just a habit really and they don't mind/don't notice me doing it at all.

She said I should have stopped for my teens ages ago, and should be considering stopping for the 5 year old as none of them are "babies" and this is a term used with relationships.

I don't agree personally because of course I know they're not babies but they'll always be MY babies. And if her argument is that surely it makes no sense to use this term in a relationship because your partner is not your baby??

Please tell me if I'm wrong though and I've missed something.

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Am I being unreasonable?


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TheGoogleMum · 19/03/2023 09:52

I sometimes call 4 Yr old baby but she does sometimes tell me off saying she isn't a baby!


fgdk · 19/03/2023 10:05

It's much more weird to call a partner baby than your child IMO!


MrsCarson · 19/03/2023 10:25

I use Sweetie or Bubba or Honey. Ds thought his name was Bubba before he started school, so we had to start using his actual name


mondaytosunday · 19/03/2023 10:33

I might call them babes or my 17 year old daughter baby but I would not refer to them that way if talking to someone else, and unlikely to call them that when in company.


glitterisntgendered · 19/03/2023 10:39

Mum still calls me baby sometimes, I'm 44. It's fine as long as it doesn't bother the kid I think


Snugglemonkey · 19/03/2023 10:40

My son insisted I stop calling him baby at around 2 with furious "I not a baby" or "I big boy" shouts 🙁 so I respected that (with a few slip ups!)

We all call my baby bubba sometimes, because she is chubby and my son was calling her chubba bubba, which seems to have stuck. So that is often shortened to chubs or bubba.


MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 19/03/2023 10:48

@ourflagmeansdeath tell your friend to shush!
I'm in my 30s and sometimes my mam calls me and my sister that.
She doesn't baby us, she says that we will always be her babies!


BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 19/03/2023 10:53

Christ I had no idea this provoked such strong feelings! My DC (11, 8 and 5mo) all have dozens of nicknames. I say "Hey babies" when I see them, because they ARE my babies.

5mo is known as Tiny Small, Gentle Soft (I don't know either! 😂), Grub, Glo-Worm, Baby Bee, Horrendous Infant, Stinkleton and Piglet. DS2 calls him Sobble, after the Pokémon!

They're all known as Baby, Chichen, Stinker, and Grubbles. DS2 has always been Fish. My parents always called me Babe.

What a sad world it is if people object to pet names.


Rosebel · 19/03/2023 10:54

I call all 3 of my kids baby x ("their name) but only in private. I don't say it in front of their friends, or mine. I wouldn't call them baby in conversation with other people either.


gogohmm · 19/03/2023 11:32

I call mine babes, do what you like!


gogohmm · 19/03/2023 11:33

Oh and I call the dog baby too


ShapesAndNumbers · 19/03/2023 11:34

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cheatingcrackers · 19/03/2023 11:37

I like it, but my kids won’t allow it! My friend calls her teen daughter ‘baby girl’ and I love that her daughter doesn’t mind. So no I don’t think it’s weird.

I used to date an American and he called me baby and I liked that too - but it would sound totally wrong if my RP accent DH said it!


BitOutOfPractice · 19/03/2023 13:23

I’ve just checked with my 20 and 23yo and they said they like all my pet names for them. Though my eldest wasn’t keen when I called her baby cakes in from of a uni friend by mistake.

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