To be miffed that dh spent more on dss mum than me for mothers day?

[fraee]

Just that.

Ds came home very upset said he wanted to get me something else and dh said no. It was small and still wouldve been less than what dss spent on his mum.

I know its very small in the grand scheme of things but surely he would want to spend more on me?

Surely you tell your son that it doesn’t matter, you will love his gift because it is from him.

I still have a pebble that one of my dc gave me for Mother’s Day when they were 5. They are now 22. Best gift ever.

Christmas day, Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day are the worst times on mn.

And the ungrateful Mother’s Day threads begin ….

Your DG should have given both DC an equal amount of money to spend on their mums. You should ask him to explain why he did not.

I think your comment is unkind . Op I actually have the whole issue of DH still buying ex huge presents ‘from children for Mother’s Day!’.

It is annoying as they could easily save and buy her something with the pocket money they get from DH or make her something . It isn’t all about buying stuff as we know.

It is the way they call and demand he pick them ( teenagers!!!) up and ‘ just’ get her - gift , flowers , card and choc.

Yet she absolutely hates him and will tell anyone who listens what a prick he is ! I wonder if they tell her who has paid ? I laugh when she shows it off on social media say next to her current husband!!!!

She is so spiteful yet DH does it for his kids . He is a great dad . Just wish his ex could see !!!

Can’t help but irk me!!!! Am I pathetic ? No I don’t think so !

We don't know that he didn't - just that the OPs DD was not allowed to "get something else" ... For all we know the OPs DSS had his own money that was added to the budget given by her DH so that it appears he has spent more on the DSSs mum when in actual fact both boys were given the same money by DH.

Disney dad?

Well said. Take this as a teaching opportunity OP to grow your child into a great person. Have a serious think about what you say and do as how you behave will have a direct result in the kind of person your so grows up to be, it's a pity that so many people don't seem to even think about this.

Yes quite. It’s a gesture from your son, not from your DP, you aren’t his mother. Maybe he let DSS spend more because he wasn’t thinking about it or because DSS was particularly set on something. Mother’s Day is not your birthday, tell your son it doesn’t matter.

@Readtopop how old are the dc in your scenario?

@CandyLeBonBon 17 and 14.

For me , it is more that he is treated so rudely by her . I understand he does it for the children and not her . He is a bigger person than me . I’d have to say to the children - Father’s Day is coming up in a month. You need to say x a week of pocket money if you haven’t already to get him a card and chocs.

No way in hell I would be getting a man who calls me every name under the son and emphasized what an arse I was a card , chocolates , £40 gift!!! Especially not, so that he could post about it - say next to his new wife on social media bragging about how ‘ loved he is !!!- when it was me who had paid for it !!!

If the children want to do something for Their mum they should be encouraged to. Buy calling DH the day before so he can pick them up and basically sort it as they have made no effort isn’t really what it is all about !

Rant Over ! Sorry!!!!!

@melj1213 you'll need an osteopath after all that twisting to make it fit!

we don't know all the minor details, however, given he probably didn't buy the mum of his eldest a a Porsche, I'm sure he could have found a few quid to let their DS buy a little extra. Knowing small kids it was much more likely it was inexpensive.

knowing he had spent less on his partner I'm sure he could have managed.

For me it wouldn't be the money, just that DS was upset.

it would be interesting to know what he had wanted to buy and how much it was.

I think the OP is being a bit silly comparing the value of the small gifts and it's probably more a reflection on his relationship with her & with his ex. That needs sorting out