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To think that Mother's Day is a con?

36 replies

Takethatandparty30 · 16/03/2023 20:06

Just that really. Don't get me wrong, it's lovely to get special gifts from the children and so on. But the idea that you get the day off is a joke. I am currently trying to cram in all the chores I would normally spend Sunday doing, along with all the usual stuff, so I can have the "day off". What I actually want is for someone to do those chores for me, that would be the real treat 😂

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Conkersinautumn · 16/03/2023 20:09

Where did anyone say its a day off?

GoodChat · 16/03/2023 20:09

Get the kids to help with the chores, or just give them a miss for a few days

Corcomroe · 16/03/2023 20:11

I don’t think I got the ‘day off’ for Mothers’ Day memo, but if I decide to take a day off on any day of the year, any chores that don’t involve keeping my child alive go to the wall.

Nimbostratus100 · 16/03/2023 20:13

It's an invention of the greeting card industry, based on the old "Mothering Sunday" when servants were released for the day to attend their home church, rather than their employers church - the mother in question being the church.

I have always told my children to ignore it. They are not required to supply gifts or treats at the instruction of Hallmarks!

I appreciate time, treats and gifts from them on days when they actually feel like it, and it has come from the heart, not through the application of commercial guilt

MissMooley · 16/03/2023 20:14

I'm not fussed by mothers day. I'll be spending the day as any other Sunday. Housework, getting ready for the week ahead and work later on.
However, my youngest 2 wanted to do something, I've told them to try and not fight with each other all day, that'd be the best gift ever 😂and they've decided to add breakfast in bed. Not gonna say no to that.

Tiredmum100 · 16/03/2023 20:16

Yes its a con, but I do like a home made card of picture off the dc. Also going out for breakfast on Saturday as a mothers day treat, so I'm not complaining 😋

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Takethatandparty30 · 16/03/2023 20:18

Maybe my expectations are too high 😂 I always thought the whole point of the day was that Mums got to relax and have a break?

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SunnyLion · 16/03/2023 20:19

Definite con. Its just a normal Sunday.

Nimbostratus100 · 16/03/2023 20:22

Takethatandparty30 · 16/03/2023 20:18

Maybe my expectations are too high 😂 I always thought the whole point of the day was that Mums got to relax and have a break?

Relax and take a break when you need to relax and take a break, not once a year dictated by greeting card manufacturers

PurBal · 16/03/2023 20:22

I agree. DS is too little so I’ve had DH ask me what I want to do, and now have to organise my own day if I want to do anything. As a result, we’re not doing anything 😂

But I’ll also be the pedant that says this Sunday is Mothering Sunday (fourth Sunday or Lent), Mother’s Day is the second Sunday of May.

Suzi888 · 16/03/2023 20:24

No shit. Of course it is, totally commercial! We now get the happy nanny day cards for Mother’s Day! What the hell! 🤣

Fairislefandango · 16/03/2023 20:24

It's not that it's a con. Who is conning you? Do your family know that your expectation on Mothers' Day is that you get a day off doing any chores? If not, you could tell them. Personally I'm happy with a card.

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Takethatandparty30 · 16/03/2023 20:25

I suppose that's what I'm getting at really, it doesn't feel like you ever really get a break. All the same shit is still waiting for you to deal with it after!

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cestlavielife · 16/03/2023 20:25

Why do you do all the chores ?
Share them out or chill out more

Boringcookingquestion · 16/03/2023 20:25

Unless you’re a single mum to young children, I don’t understand why you would do housework ahead of time.

Depending on age/circumstances, can’t your partner and/or children do your share of the housework on Sunday so you can relax?

soupey1 · 16/03/2023 20:25

When the children were little having a day off when DH did almost everything instead of sharing it was bliss albeit on Fathers Day I had to do almost everything so he had a day off. It just depends what works for you as a family.

Corcomroe · 16/03/2023 20:27

Takethatandparty30 · 16/03/2023 20:18

Maybe my expectations are too high 😂 I always thought the whole point of the day was that Mums got to relax and have a break?

I’d say your expectations are far too low. Don’t you get a break more than one day a year? Since Christmas, I’ve gone away by myself twice, once to a retreat centre, and once to walk part of a long-distance path. DH does his own thing periodically too. No child has been mislaid.

BreviloquentBastard · 16/03/2023 20:30

My husband and daughter fuck off out for the day on Mother's day and let me just kick back and relax. It's great and I love it, don't much care if it's a commercial con if I get to spend all day languishing about the house.

stayathomer · 16/03/2023 20:33

Relax and take a break when you need to relax and take a break, not once a year dictated by greeting card manufacturers
This! (But I don’t take this advice … picks up kindle and wanders into sitting room;))

Minimummonday · 16/03/2023 20:36

I always thought the whole point of the day was that Mums got to relax and have a break?

I suppose that's what I'm getting at really, it doesn't feel like you ever really get a break. All the same shit is still waiting for you to deal with it after

This is you. Not everyone. Not all mothers are working non stop with no break. Why are you? What’s stopping you have a rest? There’s no con, you just need to prioritise yourself.

DojaPhat · 16/03/2023 20:39

Mother's Day or not why are you incharge of everything? I presume you're a single parent to young children?

MissEira · 16/03/2023 20:45

Im almost a SAHM only working a morning a week. I literally save all my chores the mothers day week because DH will go out of his way to do everything for me that day.
He always helps out around the house, but on mothers day he steps up even more and tbh I take full advantage of it 😄

Meredusoleil · 16/03/2023 20:51

PurBal · 16/03/2023 20:22

I agree. DS is too little so I’ve had DH ask me what I want to do, and now have to organise my own day if I want to do anything. As a result, we’re not doing anything 😂

But I’ll also be the pedant that says this Sunday is Mothering Sunday (fourth Sunday or Lent), Mother’s Day is the second Sunday of May.

Are you in the UK? Here we only have Mother's Day in March which is the original Mothering Sunday related to the church/Lent/Easter. There is no date in May.

Blip · 16/03/2023 20:56

Mostly I do put my feet up on Mothers Day but this year I'm entertaining my own mother for a change and cooking a Sunday roast!

Snugglemonkey · 16/03/2023 21:05

No. I am not cramming at all. I make it clear that I am taking the weekend. I am here like a spirit animal, they can all cope. I would actually go away alone, but I am breastfeeding. It is my time off, there will be no sorting things out to enable it. I give not one fuck if it is cocked up. It is one weekend in a whole year and I am taking it entirely off apart from giving mummy snuggles and stuff I want to do. Though I will also take my birthday 😂