When did Mother’s Day become such a big deal?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’ll start by saying my mum died when I was in my teens nearly 30 years ago so I get it might be me comparing Mother’s Day as a child to Mother’s Day as an adult.

However all we did was get her some nice spring flowers, a box of chocolates and a card.

We might have gone to my grandmother’s but it was pretty low key, no big build up. Same for all my friends.

I have two boys and DH will facilitate two homemade cards, a nice breakfast and some simple flowers which is perfect for me. DMIL is coming over so DH can make her an afternoon tea.

When did all of the big events that trouble people for weeks start happening? The number of people on here being given so much hassle has really surprised me - I always thought it was a really low-key day.

Totally agree - all the fuss is awful. It's supposed to be a religious holiday, to go back to one's mother church. When I was a kid you just gave/sent a card. Maybe a cup of tea. No presents, meals out, long-distance travel etc. And I guarantee there will be a load of stress and angst on here by the end of Sunday - it really doesn't seem to make people happy.

No kids here but I get my mum a card and either chocolates or flowers/pot plant. She doesn't like fuss and I don't like buying loads of crap.

I've never taken her out for lunch for the day, it seems like it's a thing though.

I remember spending the few pence I had on a little trinket and card for mum and making her breakfast in bed but spent more as I got older as I wished I could spend loads on my mum. I usually feel a little rubbish hearing about all that friends get from their own but on the actual day I am happy with my lot. I never want anything really so am happy they listen to me and just acknowledge the day with something simple and their homely fuss. However it helps keeps people in work so I’m fine for those who go all out to spoil their own.

I don't think it's got that 'big' really though I do think more people go out for dinner than even 5 years ago however this seams to be more of a family day than for Mum.
In my experience for most Mum's it's about the acknowledgement more than anything so a card and a bunch of flowers is plenty. For mum's with adult kids it might not even be a visit, let alone a meal out especially if their kids have kids.
Halloween and Easter have 'grown' and there's Skelton and bunny decorations, cakes...tat!.... but I'm yet to see Mummy bunting or table clothes....yet!

It's my 5th Mother's Day. DH gets me something (gin/wooden bath tray/smellies) and DS gets a card. The end! We went out for breakfast on Sunday as everywhere (I live in a naice Farm Shop area) will be rammed this weekend.

Correct!! Look at me !! Look at what my beautiful kids got me for mothers day!!
We used to make home made cards at primary school. My kids did the same ( still got them!!) Now kids are grown up, it's a card and some flowers or wine. ( or nothing if they forgot 🤣) suits me just fine!!

I think it's ridiculous to expect a present from your 1 year old who'll have no understanding Even some mums to be expect a present....from a fetus!

Why don't you get some of those frozen bake at home pastries so she can do you a special breakfast and the maybe together you can make some sandwiches, warm some scones and have an afternoon tea. You could even bake cake or cupcakes.... Tell her you'd just like a mum and dd chill day.

We don't do Mother's Day or Father's Day in our household. Crock of Hallmark-led shite the lot of it.

I don't get the £100s of quid spent on elaborate presents and ridiculous over the top displays either. I'm 99% sure DD will have made me a card either at school of with help from DH. She's only 5 so her writing a message in it is worth more to me than anything she could buy. DH has already asked if I would like something nice for breakfast so we're all having a fry-up as we don't do that very often. We've had a really hard year, even though it's only March so I'd be happy with snuggles and not much else tbh.

Even 'just a bunch of flowers' costs a bomb these days. With delivery costs, we spent 80 quid getting flowers for both mums. Obviously if we lived closer we would buy something locally and it would cost a lot less. I'll be happy with just a card myself!

Oh I don’t know. I’m happy with a lie in and a cup of tea in bed. Stuff the over inflated costly crap for all I care

Lent was a big thing when I was growing up. So no chocs or booze. Poverty was also popular at the time so no big presents or meals out.

Hbh, it makes me happy, it makes my mum happy, it dies make people happy

We always made mum a nice breakfast in bed (coffee and toast) but she was always up before us so she had to go back to bed and pretend to be asleep. Then we would give her tea towels and birdhouses we'd made at school and she would keep them forever. 😊

Now I have my own DC we don't do much. I usually get a lovely handmade card and cuddles and maybe a coffee in bed (but DH sleeps late and can't assist so I have to do what my mum did and potter about and then go back to bed). I think that's plenty for mother's day. I might ring my own mum but we're not British and she still lives in my home country where mother's day is on a different day so she won't be celebrating it this week anyway.

My first mother's day as a new mother was brilliant because DH took baby to see his mum and I got to spend all day by myself. Bliss.

*it does make people happy

The displays in Tesco kill me; pyjamas, mugs, teddy bears - just reams of tat.
Pretty certain DH will get me some flowers and DDs will make cards.
I have bought my mum perfume this year but only because she has been in hospital for a few weeks and I want to cheer her up. Usually it would be a plant or chocolates.

I've told my adult kids not to bother buying me anything, it's a rip off. I know they love me and always buy me nice presents for my birthday and Christmas.

It makes lots of people very happy, where's the harm in making someone feel a bit special for one day? Be it mother, father whatever

I've been really surprised reading all the threads on here recently! I never realised it was such a big deal or such a point of contention.
I send my mum & MIL a card, DH buys me a card from DDs. That's the extent of it.
This year we will have family round to the house for DD's birthday so it will be her day, not mine and I am perfectly happy with that.

@Devoutspoken

It makes lots of people very happy, where's the harm in making someone feel a bit special for one day? Be it mother, father whatever

Exactly - I'm 60 and Mother's Day was always "a thing" as far back as I can remember.

People can choose to celebrate it as much or as little as suits their family situation surely 🤷‍♀️

@Xtraincome is it Lego 😁

I will expect a card from each DC and a small gift - a few flowers is fine
when DC were little they would try and do breakfast in bed
now someone cooks or we go out
I will take my elderly DM some chocolates and take her out for coffee and a cake
none of this is any different to when I was a child

For Mother’s Day, I just want to do what I want.

I don’t want to do anything for anyone else which is how I spend every other day of the year.

I want my kids to be happy and not flight. I want someone to cook my dinner for once. And I don’t want to do any housework or laundry.

that’s what my Mother’s Day is for me

I think what you describe is what most mums hope for.