When did Mother’s Day become such a big deal?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’ll start by saying my mum died when I was in my teens nearly 30 years ago so I get it might be me comparing Mother’s Day as a child to Mother’s Day as an adult.

However all we did was get her some nice spring flowers, a box of chocolates and a card.

We might have gone to my grandmother’s but it was pretty low key, no big build up. Same for all my friends.

I have two boys and DH will facilitate two homemade cards, a nice breakfast and some simple flowers which is perfect for me. DMIL is coming over so DH can make her an afternoon tea.

When did all of the big events that trouble people for weeks start happening? The number of people on here being given so much hassle has really surprised me - I always thought it was a really low-key day.

I was going to say the same. People have got to post photos of their perfect lunch with their perfect #famalam and say how #blessed they are to be with such wonderful humans.

Yes, that’s right. It was quite a church day.

It’s a marketing exercise, just like the Easter Bunny (when did that become such a big thing - the Easter Bunny bringing chocolate eggs?), Valentine’s Day, Christmas and let’s not forget everyone’s (in America) favourite ‘holiday’ - Happy Halloween, everybody! All designed to part you from your money. The only reason Bonfire Night hasn’t gone the same way is because it’s specific to the UK. It all brings out the grump in me!

We're going out for Sunday lunch, I'd have been happy for my husband to cook a roast but as he does that every week anyway he suggested we go out 😂

My favourite part of Mother's Day has to be the homemade cards from school/ nursery 😍

It's been massively over inflated because of social media, I'm happy with a card and some chocolate is a bonus .

I lost my Mum as a young teenager, plus over the last few year, I have had to come terms with the fact DH & I can’t have kids.

The whole Hallmark, commercial, hyped up nonsense that day is now is like someone taking a hatchet repeatedly to my heart.

When I was a child we never really did anything for Mother’s Day, we’d make my mum a nice breakfast, give her a small gift/card and just chill for the day, we’d usually have a nice roast for dinner. Some mothers days we’d visit grandparents on the day or we’d do it at some point during the day before.

When I had children my parents said not to worry about Mother’s Day (or Father’s Day) anymore as it was our turn now, we don’t tend to visit our parents on the day but we still get them gifts, send well wishes and try to visit them at some point.

As a single parent I've told my girls to make me a card and do breakfast in bed for me, they're 11 & 9. I have paid for a sports massage for my mum but she does loads for me so like to treat her

Our youngest DC are 30s. They used to get me a card, something small like a plant or book. We used to have my DM over for tea. PIL lived too far away to come over for the day. All was well.
Some of the posts about Mothers Day recently have been so over the top. My DH always ensured I had a lazy ish day & I reciprocated on Fathers Day. Nowadays the DC who can come over do & those who can’t do a video call. Sorted.

Its only a big deal on social media and in the eyes of drama llamas.

People just want something else to get enraged about. Not getting enough flowers (that'll die after five days) or not getting a big enough card (that will end up forgotten in a drawer or in the bin).

I'm not arsed about Mothers Day or any other hallmark day. I only post a card to my Mum. I tell her every day I love her and show her whenever I can. The kids get me a card and make me a morning tea. I don't do the big social media, attention seeking, gushy bullshit.

I completely get that. It’s one of the days I miss my mum most and it feels like salt in the wound. I’m so sorry 💐

Mothers day is for children to acknowledge their Mother.

So you've got to wait until your child starts nursery or school to get your first handmade card.

Then as they get slightly older they'll do you burnt toast and cold tea,in bed.

Then it normally progressed to hand made gifts.

You'd then visit your Mother, with the children, in the late afternoon.

Your husband /partner would do their own thing with their Mum.

No arguments...job done.

I hate it. I dont love my mother she was cruel and nasty. I haven't seen her for 5 years yet my siblings are hassling me to get a card and flowers. Oh its mothers day she'll be so sad etc etc. No she won't. She just wants to show off a load of flowers to anyone visiting. She couldn't give a shit who they are from. I'm sick to death of it.
I dont inflict this hallmark day on my own DS. We dont need it we are very close.

Low key here. My mum has a card and flowers. I will likely get something created at nursery that will make me cry (DD is 3) and DH will cook a nice lunch with a good pud and some fizz.

I think overblown Mother’s Day is definitely for the likes of those that have ridiculous hen weekends, baby showers and “gender” reveals. The same sort that like a balloon arch and all that other IG nonsense. My mum would say it’s a bit common 😂

When my children were younger we used to all go on a picnic (coffee and cinnamon rolls) with my mum and dad. Just a nice day out, we played hide and seek in the forest and picked flowers if there were any. Maybe had an ice cream on the way home. No social media.

I’m hoping for a takeaway curry 😁 I’ve noticed increasingly expensive Easter stuff on sale too, like pricey glass decorations. WTAF?

I agree. Some of the maddest threads are pregnant women "heartbroken" that their DH didn't get them a card and present from their foetus. Those make my eyes roll back in my head.

Absolutely ridiculous.

When did all of the big events that trouble people for weeks start happening? The number of people on here being given so much hassle has really surprised me - I always thought it was a really low-key day.

I honestly have no idea what you’re talking t about. What big events that trouble people for weeks??

My DD has come back from university for.the weekend and my DS will cook dinner. Perfect.

Mothering Sunday is traditionally nothing to do with the whole commercial crazy that has sprung up is recent years. In fact it had nothing to do with actual mothers, but the mother church. My parents were Christians and as others have previously said, there was a sweet service and mothers were acknowledged with a bunch of daffodils and a handmade card. I have been a lone parent since DH died when DD was quite young, the whole day and hyped up expectations seems to be very triggering/stressful for many people. It is lovely to acknowledge people you love, but this does not need to be a huge event and more importantly dictated by commercialism.

It used to be a few daffs wrapped in tinfoil with greenery from the conifer hedge.
I send my Mum flowers and a card whilst thinking it’s a bit ironic that she gets the recognition now when the hard work of mothering is long ago finished!

My mum growing up was a wee bit precious about Mothers Day so I have adapted for it to be more simple. It's lie in, I choose all meals and don't cook, do a cute tea for mum, DH gets me flowers and girls make me a card.

However, most years DH gets me a book from my wishlist list, although this year I am excited to say he is getting me something which is very unmumsnetty and would be mocked * hint: it's from Smyths toys

Is it a big thing? I will send mum a card and receive one from 1, or maybe even both DC.
I've never gone in for any more than that.

Mothering Sunday here.

But yes, agree. We’d do DM breakfast in bed on a tray, then we’d go to church and all women (mothers or not) would get a posy of flowers, then home where DF would cook lunch. Once or twice we went out for a meal if DGM was also with us.

We’d buy DM a card and small gift each or some flowers. Both DGMs would be rung up in the day and cards and flowers sent to them. But no big fuss or drama.

I’m expecting a card from DS and DH will get flowers for me, and I asked to go to a nice pub for lunch, but that’s it. No fancy gifts or anything lavish- which is totally fine by me.

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