to just give up trying to lose weight?

[Mummypig32]

to give up trying to lose weight?

I'm 5ft 4, 13 stone 3, and a size 14-16/18 on bottom. I'm 35.

I have spent my entire life trying to be slimmer. I'd say weight loss and dieting has been my main focus most of my life. Despite this I've spent very little of my life at a slimmer size...its always fairly brief and despite occasionally getting down to a size 10-12 I've never, as an adult, been in the healthy bmi range, ever.

I am just SO SICK of this shit. I've tried everything...literally everything. I feel like I'm wasting my life away on something that might never even happen for me. I think because now I'm in my 30s and I no longer feel like either have my whole life ahead of me, I've started feeling like I'm just wasting time and I would be better off enjoying my life.

But. Am I happy? No. I'm not happy at this size, but maybe I should be? Maybe I should focus on not gaining any more, and just focus on trying to look nice in the size I am?

I never buy clothes or do anything with my appearance because I'm always thinking "theres no point because I'm going to lose weight soon and then when I'm a size 10 I'll buy myself a whole new wardrobe and have a glow up and be amazing". We'll it never happens so I just go about looking like a slob!

I dunno. I just feel like my youth is nearly over, I've spent most of it either dieting or binging, hating my appearance hating how I look in clothes, wanting to be different and look a different way and where has it got me??? No where. I've just wasted time. I don't look any different. I'm just sad.

Then again. Maybe if I give up I'll get heart disease and die early, which I also don't want. There is that 🤔

AIBU to just accept I'll always be a bit fat, and live with it?

Please, please care for yourself enough NOW and buy some nice clothes, get your hair done and wear some makeup etc. You are punishing yourself by looking a mess which is really counterproductive because what’s the point of taking care of a mess?

You could ( funds allowing) transform your appearance in a very short time. Then you might begin to want to take better care of the body inside those nicer clothes.

My top tip for losing and maintaining that loss is planning. Have healthy food with you and never get so starving that you start binging.

Id also really recommend asking your GP about Ozempic injections.

But first of all try to look after the person you are right now.

I do intermittent fasting once to twice per week - nothing to eat for 36 hours. In a few months I've lost 5 kg. I find it easy because then I don't have to decide what can't I eat, what should I be eating, etc. Several books on the subject are available.

Also lessening carbs, cutting carby snacks out can help I find, can be another option. That's nothing new, there was dietary advice in the 1960's about not limiting protein and fat, but cutting out carbs especially bread and snacks of no nutritional value etc, and still feel satisfied.

To lose weight for good you really do need to change your lifestyle.

Concentrate on eating good, nourishing food, rather than counting calories.

A protein breakfast is a good start to the day as it stops the carb cravings.

Have a look at the Glucose Goddess on Instagram. She's a biochemist who has turned her hand to writing about nutrition.

What she says makes a lot of sense.