To ask if you or your DC ever got 'beaten up' in their school days?

[wowza234567]

Sadly since yesterday I can't get this bad memory out of my head. I believe it was in Year 5 or Year 6. I remember having an argument with a boy in the playground. What I remember next is that it turned physical. He pushed me against the wall and just beat me up. I tried to fight back, but it just did not work. He walloped me :(

My friends were near and tried to verbally intervene and shout 'STOP! NO!'. But they did not physically intervene. I think his friends just kinda watched on.

All I remember next was that I walked off with my friends sobbing my eyes out.
Think I told a dinner lady but nothing of consequence happened :(

I'm so sorry to hear some of these recounts. Horrible.

At school we do do a lot of work through assemblies, circle time, phse, etc bullying, conflict and aggression these days, I work in primary so we don't see it to the extent mentioned here, and I would hope we'd be stopping it way before it got there too.

I do think schools, and parents, are generally much better at dealing with bullying in all its forms these days fortunately. Though fortunate enough to not face bullying at school myself, I do think a lot more was ignored back then - by schools and by parents. I do hope that in the whole we've moved away from that.

Sadly, there will also be a number of Mumsnetters in the other side of this. Some will have been the bullies at school. You see some of the bullying tendencies come through some posts and it isn't a big step to imagine some of those posters were actually doing the bullying in school.

@Abraxan do you enjoy teaching primary?

I'm so sorry to all those who have suffered bullying at school.

I can only go by my children school, my DS (13yrs) was suddenly ostracized by his former group of friends. As in one day talking about one of their birthday trips and then the next day name calling, taking his bag and kicking it. It has his Chromebook which he needs for school.

I phoned the school and was given the contact name to email about it. And with in 24 hours the parents of the children were phoned to speak about the boys behaviour and that they had a L3 hour detention. And when a few months later when they started again they were spoken too again and given lunchtime detentions for a week.

I have to say the school is very hot on behaviour and any bad behaviour is jumped on right away. They do not let any little things go. If a child has continued bad behaviour then they are moved to another school in the academy group.

Bless you. Did your DS ever find out why his former friends became horrible to him?

Growing up in inner city Manchester in the early 80’s there were fights all the time both inside and outside our school. One involved around 100 kids with another school and the fighting was ferocious. I was never personally involved as had the sense and brains to stay out of the gang culture and just keep in the good side of people.

@wowza234567

No they couldn't or wouldn't say why it all started.

My Ds much happier with the new friends he has now.

@Tigp did the school/teachers or the police get involved?

@wowza234567 - yes, we are.
thankfully.

@TrashyPanda glad going NC has worked out.

that's a terrible terrible story.
I hope things are better fir you although how anyone would ever get over that is hard to imagine.

I’m really horrified to hear some of the posts on here I’m really sorry for what some you people had to go through. I went to a school and like at every school there was some bullying but fortunately we had a head who strongly disapproved of bullies. It was in the days where Corporal punishment was legal and any bully used to find themselves in the office with a cane across their backside which tended to discourage bullying.

To the two posters who were raped while in care I'm truly sorry. Horrendous experiences.

I was tormented in primary school by boys in my class. Punched in the throat, kicked in the stomach. One stood at the teachers desk and sharpened his pencil and then as he passed my desk he stabbed me in the neck leaving the lead imbedded. My crime? I was from a single parent family and stayed in a council house. Even the dinner ladies made me stand in a different queue as I got free dinners and left me with scraps. I only hope no one treated their daughters/granddaughters that way.

I went to high school and all my bullies were little fish in a big pond and that changed the dynamics.

I did but I was being mouthy and pushing a girl who was bigger and stronger than me so I guess I deserved the fat lip and sending home I got.