To ask if you or your DC ever got 'beaten up' in their school days?

[wowza234567]

Sadly since yesterday I can't get this bad memory out of my head. I believe it was in Year 5 or Year 6. I remember having an argument with a boy in the playground. What I remember next is that it turned physical. He pushed me against the wall and just beat me up. I tried to fight back, but it just did not work. He walloped me :(

My friends were near and tried to verbally intervene and shout 'STOP! NO!'. But they did not physically intervene. I think his friends just kinda watched on.

All I remember next was that I walked off with my friends sobbing my eyes out.
Think I told a dinner lady but nothing of consequence happened :(

Sounds like my school.

I was very fortunate and didn't experience this at school, though I got a fair amount of verbal abuse from the "hard" girls at secondary school. Good job really, as my school was hopeless at dealing with any bullying and violence.

My 17yo has got through school without any sort of physical altercation. Probably because he has always been much taller than the other boys so they wouldn't risk it. I don't think he'd have a clue what to do if someone attacked him, he's a big softie and would be loathe to fight back.

My 10yo has a boy in his class who has had a lot of hard things to deal with in life so far. This boy is quite aggressive sometimes and last year he shoved my son over from behind, hard, in the playground. No reason, they weren't even playing together. My poor son had half his face scraped off and needed an x ray to check he didn't have any fractures. To their credit, school dealt with it very well. They both kept my son safe afterwards and got extra help for this boy, who seems to be doing much better at school this year.

I was never beaten up in secondary. Just verbal teasing (but thankfully made peace with everyone in 6th form and got along then).

I thought secondary was going to be like they showed on 'disney channel'. Thankfully I was wrong.

@Roomba hope your 10yo DS is doing ok now. Good on the school for sorting it.

I got bullied for the best part of a year. Then one day the bully was telling everyone she was going to beat me up after class. The anticipation/ worry and waiting was horrible. At the end of the lesson her friends blocked the corridor and she pushed me in a locker. I had never fought back before but I snapped. She hit me once and I grabbed her head, pushed it down and kneed her in the face. I broke her nose and was mortified. I changed school not long after. There were a lot of rumours in my new school that I was expelled and that I'd beaten up a teacher. No one ever approach me again.

Good on you @Hellno45 . Gosh how old were you when this happened? Seems like secondary school?

Elder sibling consistently bullied me.
starting from when I was a baby - taking me out of cot and throwing me downstairs (mum caught me at the bottom)
at 2 she tried this again - dad was beside her and reached out and grabbed me, pulling my arm out of the shoulder socket.
I learned how to make myself sick my just breathing and contracting my stomach muscles, as being sick over her was the only way she would stop abusing me.
mother always made excuses for her.

@TrashyPanda horrible so sorry for you. I assume you and that sibling are now NC?

Knocked out, pushed about, verbally abused, humiliated, plastic bags put on my head, ignored. Another nd person at secondary in the 80s.

God these stories are awful. I'm so sorry you all had to put up with such fucking hideous behaviour.

I was never bullied at school. There were bullies but I never got involved with them or their group.

DS has never been bullied to my knowledge. DD, treated horribly by groups of 'friends' i.e. excluding her on sleep overs/days out on the bus (age 11-14). She had a horrible time of it in senior school but no 'beating up' or physical abuse.

I still can't get over some of these dreadful stories; they truly are shocking.

DC? Which year are you talking about? You at school in 70's, 80's, 90's.
Your parents didn't report it to school?

Hopefully any physical assault these days would hopefully would now be reported to school, and this has been the case/better than many years ago, for some time.

DC -means darling children. I am in my mid 20s. I did not tell my parents @Oblomov23

Would be interesting to get any teachers perspectives.

In one secondary an older cousin decided she wanted to fight me, she was egged on by her mates. She then got me into trouble for beating her up.

Older aunt chased me out of the house and ended up having a fight in the middle of the road. Aparantly I was in the wrong, again, as i was supposed to respect my elders and just take a beating.

Different secondary younger girl told her older sister I had hurt her. Never seen the girl before and wasn’t in school the day in question. Her and sis waited for me outside of school for weeks as I was hardly ever there. Arrested and eventually charges dropped as cctv and witnesses backed up I was defending myself. Not my fault she got injured.

Children’s home - one of the girls 30 year old pimps climbed into my window and beat the shit out of me. My room was over the staff office and did nothing despite my screams for help or the sounds as I was thrown around the room. Another time held and beaten by 8 other residents. Another time raped in there, males and females held me down. Spat on. Kicked down the stairs. Had things thrown at me and much much more. All started because someone stole from me and I confronted them, it got physical. Was kicked out of care when I refused to go back there as I genuinely feared for my safety. (The home was closed down because they didn’t have control. Didn’t help police were investigating it and local paper were doing also running articles.)

Sitting on a bench girl from another home came pulled me onto the floor by my hair and started kicking me. Managed to get hold of her foot and she lost her balance. Again I was arrested and charged this time due to her broken bones.

Like a pp made several attempts to off myself, saved and was told to stop attention seeking.

30+ years later and still have ptsd from the children’s home days.

Dcs had a bit of an issue that was very quickly nipped in the bud.

I was because I am autistic and so an easy target. More than once I was thrown in to the showers after PE although I was fully dressed. I was also beaten up in a playing field after school by a girl who was twice my size, although I knew her only by name and by sight. We'd never so much as exchanged a single word.

Ah, school. Such memories.

I didn't, although I remember one boy threatening me and I was scared to walk home by myself. Was waiting for my sister to finish her classes, as she was 2 years older. I know this boy committed suicide as adult, as he was having depression and drugs addiction issues.
My husband was beaten up maybe 2 times, but he doesn't consider it traumatic.

DD was set upon by a group of boys she was swung around by her coat, punched and repeatedly pushed into bushes, it only stopped when another girl intervened. School didn't even tell me about it and I only found out because the other girl told her mum what had happened and she told me the next day. DD was in Yr 4.

Yes aged 15 although it was outside of school. I was out walking with a few friends when we were met by a large group of other people from school. suddenly I was jumped on by one of the girls, asked what I'd been saying about her (our) friend) and without any warning punched in my left cheek bone and dragged onto the floor. Next thing I had one girl constantly booting my head in and another kicking my ribs in. Someone managed to briefly pull me up but not in time for me to get up fully and get away. My hair was then grabbed and my head yanked forcefully backwards before being punched in the nose and smashed backed onto the floor for round 2 of getting my head and ribs smashed in. Thankfully a doc Walker going by was enough to have them scraper and I was able to get to safety. How the hell I stayed conscious throughout it all I'll never know. I did go to hospital that night to be checked over. Bruising to face and a split lip were the first injuries that were noticeable. Discharged that night but a few days later I was struck down with the most horrendous headaches. Back in for a scan turned out I also had severe concussion. For a long time it destroyed my life. I was terrified of going anywhere in case it happened again. It also meant that due to missing a lot of the last crucial year of school before I sat my GCSEs a lot of my coursework was missed and my GCSEs were lower than predicted. That was 23 years ago now but It's also left me with a life time of migraines and memory problems.

I never actually had a fight. I was bullied in primary, nasty bitchy girls. I have horrible memories of primary school. Nowadays, you will probably move school, especially primary to make new friends settle and be fine. That didn't really happen then, though.

Then I started seconday, I was strong taller bit of a Tom boy and made new friends both girls and boys. I was classed as being 'hard' but I never once got in a fight, I got 100% attendance and never had a detention. Basically, I became confident and learnt to stand up for myself ignorred those horrible girls from Primary, they became below me in the pecking order at secondary and I became cool. It is so hard to do that though if you have no or few friends. Not sure how much of all the bad stuff would happen nowadays, smoking hanging round shops at lunch etc. All the schools are like prisons they cant get out.

Dont know why theres a big gap!

So many sad stories :(
Hope you're okay now @Roundandnour
@xogossipgirlxo sorry to hear about what happened to your husband? It was at school I assume? Glad he's not traumatised about it.

13ish.

For years - yes.

My father had a firey temper and a low tolerance for childish naughtiness, and this was in the days before corporal punishment was considered a bad thing, so I was used to getting wallopped at home when I was disobedient or cheeky.

So when at about age 11 or 12 (within the first couple of years of senior school) a bully at my all-girls school attempted to "beat me up" with violent punches, frankly the fairly low level of impact that she was able to achieve with her adolescent muscles was pretty pathetic. The strongest blows she could manage barely registered compared to what I was "used to". I didn't want to fight back, because answering violence with violence never ends well. My defence was to laugh somewhat hysterically at her. She eventually gave up and left me alone.

I remember there were a cluster of other pupils watching who didn't intervene either way.

DS is a similar age now. I asked a few probing questions to find out whether there's been any kind of violence in his school. He said that as far as he knows, physical attacks are pretty rare, most bullying, if it happens, is verbal only. One time a particularly annoying fellow pupil wouldn't stop calling DS rude and upsetting names, and after having told them to stop many times he eventually cracked and hit them. We had a few words then about violence never really resolving things, but DS doesn't believe me as he has been left alone since, and isn't called rude names any more. Fortunately for DS, there doesn't seem to have been any repercussions, probably because they would have felt embarrassed to complain about having been hit by someone younger and smaller then them.

@wowza234567

Yes I know what dc mean. That's why I'm confused. You asked everybody In the thread title. If they DC had been beaten up. Children at school now.

But this isn't about children being beaten up now or recently it's about you being beaten up many years ago that's why I can't understand why you're asking if their dc have been beaten up. The thread title question should be were you beaten up at school many years ago .

And that's what got me confused because it was bad it was in the 70s 80s and 90s, but there is a big difference between talking about parents been beaten up themselves 30 years ago and/or their children been beaten up now, because most parents would report it to school these days because things have got better and we are more aware of bullying .

I was away at school and was verbally bullied by a a few girls in my dorm . They never physically went for me, but did nasty stuff like mess my bed up by putting stuff in it so I couldn’t get into it, hiding stuff like toiletries, but worst of all either ignoring me or making bitchy nasty comments about me once lights were out for what seemed like hours on end in the dark.

There was no getting away from the ringleader because you were together almost 24/7 .

It was horrible and the only way it stopped was for me to stand up for myself. I did this by getting the perpetrator alone and basically shoved her into a filling cabinet and told her to lay off me or I would deck her . It stopped the bullying dead and from that day on I was not bullied for the rest of my school days. Teachers not interested.

I have told my children never to start a fight , but if someone goes for them then finish it and I will back them 100%